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27/04/2026

THERAPIST NOTES: The One About Grief

Some things change us forever.

Loss, in all its forms, doesn’t just leave a space. It reshapes us. It shifts how we see the world, how we move through it, and who we are in it.

And yet, we often expect ourselves to "get over it." To tidy it up. To put it in a box and get on with things.

But that’s not how grief works.

I’ve supported so many people through grief in the therapy room. And I’ve walked through it myself many times. Some of the losses I’ve shared openly, like losing my dad. Others I’ve held quietly.

And here’s what I know for sure:

Grief doesn’t have a deadline.

It doesn’t move in a straight line.

And it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It just means you loved.

This is a note I wrote to myself (Note in the picture). And maybe it’s for you too.

If you’ve had a wave of sadness hit you recently, seemingly out of nowhere, at the “wrong” time, without explanation, please know, you’re not doing it wrong. You’re not stuck. You haven’t failed. You’re just human.

And even if the rest of the world has moved on…It’s okay that your heart hasn’t fully caught up.

You are still healing. And you are still whole.

With love, Lianne x

If you need help or support with your grief journey, please drop us a message or book a FREE 30 minute call where we will be able to help, support and guide you.

20/04/2026

THERAPIST NOTES: The One About Being Strong

When you’re praised for always being strong, it becomes a quiet pressure.

You start to believe that’s who you have to be. The one who gets on with it. The one who holds everyone together. The one who never crumbles.

Sometimes that’s what others expect. But more often, it’s a role we place on ourselves.

We’re so used to being reliable, capable, “fine” that we forget we’re allowed to not be okay.

This is a note I wrote to myself. And maybe, just maybe, it’s a note you need too.

There’s nothing wrong with being strong. But you’re allowed to have moments where you’re soft. Where you’re human. Where you don’t have it all figured out. Where you can ask for help and you don’t have to earn support. You’re allowed to be held, too.

With love, Lianne x

If you need help or support, please drop us a message or book a FREE 30 minute call where we will be able to help, support and guide you. https://www.beamtherapy.co.uk/

10/04/2026

Something we've noticed coming up a lot recently is the conversation around being over overstimulated.

Constant noise. Notifications. Conversations. Decisions.

Your brain never really gets a chance to switch off.

From a neuroscience point of view, your system stays in a kind of low-level alert state, which is why you can feel:

– wired but tired
– restless
– unable to properly relax (even when you try)

So it’s not always that you need more rest…

it’s that your system needs less input.

Who is feeling overstimulated ?

07/04/2026

Most men just don't talk about it

He looks fine…. But is he?

Most men don’t talk about it, they carry on, they cope and they get on with it.

But underneath, stress, pressure, poor sleep, overthinking, constant worrying.

At Beam Therapy, Tom works with men in a practical, straightforward way. No overcomplicating, just understanding what is going on and how to move forward.

If something’s been building in the background, this is a good place to start.

Free 30 minute intro call
www.beamtherapy.co.uk

16/01/2026

Support for men with Tom at Beam

Walk it off is starting again in Feb, to support men who need it. This free group is there for those feeling lonely, isolated, lost or for those who just fancy going for a walk with a few others in nature with other men.

There is no cost, no pressure just a chance to be outside, have a chat and probably a coffee (you do have to bring your own).

Find out and RSVP here https://www.beamtherapy.co.uk/event-details/walk-it-off-mens-group

06/01/2026

Within our therapy room, we often hear clients say “I need fixing” and every single time, we reply with “You don’t need fixing, you are not broken!” Sure we recognise that challenges and trials can make all of us feel that way sometimes but the truth is, every single human being is walking around with scars, bruises and scrapes that aren’t visible. That doesn’t make us broken, it makes us human.

Read more in our latest newsletter:

Within our therapy room, we often hear clients say “I need fixing” and every single time, we reply with “You don’t need fixing, you are not broken!” Sure we recognise that challenges and trials can make all of us feel that way sometimes but the truth is, every single human being is walking...

25/12/2025

Merry Christmas, lovely souls. 🎄💛
Wherever you are today, surrounded by family, sharing laughter, feeling the quiet, missing someone, or simply taking things moment by moment, we want you to know this:

You are doing beautifully.
Not perfectly. Not effortlessly.
Beautifully... in the real, human, imperfect way that matters.

Christmas carries so many emotions.
Joy. Memory. Hope. Tenderness. Tiredness. Longing. Gratitude.
You’re allowed to feel all of them.

Today, we hope you find at least one moment that feels gentle.
One breath that feels grounding.
One tiny spark of warmth that reaches your heart.

🎄 Your Christmas Day tool 🎄
Place your hand on your heart.
Take one slow breath in…
And whisper: “I deserve peace today.”

Because you do.
More than you know.

From our Beam Therapy family to yours.

With love,
Lianne & Tom 💛

24/12/2025

It’s Christmas Eve, and today’s Advent prompt is an invitation to pause, I mean really pause, and come back to your meaning of Christmas.

Not the expectations.
Not the pressure.
Not the hype.
Not the perfectly-wrapped versions we see online.
But the deeper truth that lives quietly inside you.

Christmas can hold many things at once: joy and tenderness, celebration and nostalgia, excitement and overwhelm, love and longing.

So today, let’s gently create a moment just for you.

🎄 Today’s Advent tool 🎄
Find a quiet minute.
Place your hand on your heart or rest your palms together.
Take one slow breath in… and a longer breath out.
Then ask yourself:
“What does Christmas truly mean to me?”

Is it connection?
Is it rest?
Is it faith?
Is it memories of someone you love?
Is it joy in the small things?
Is it simply making it through another year?

Whatever rises up, let it be true for you, without comparison, without guilt, without expectation.

Your meaning matters.
Your experience matters.
You matter.

Wishing you a gentle, grounded, heartfelt Christmas Eve. 💛

23/12/2025

Day 23 and we’re nearly at the end of our Advent Calendar, and today is all about you.

Not the roles you play.
Not the expectations you carry.
Just you, as a human being who deserves care and kindness too.

This time of year is full of giving ; energy, time, support, effort, emotion.

But the truth is: your nervous system needs receiving just as much as it needs giving.

So today, we gently shift the focus inward.

🎄 Today’s Advent tool 🎄
Ask yourself:
“What’s one thing I can gift myself today?”

It doesn’t need to be big.
It might be:
• ten minutes of silence
• a warm bath
• saying no to something
• a slow walk
• an early night
• a moment to breathe
• permission to feel what you feel
• the truth you’ve been avoiding
• the compassion you give everyone else

Choose one thing and actually give it to yourself.
Not later. Not when things calm down.
Today.

You deserve gifts that nourish you, not drain you. 💛

22/12/2025

It’s Day 22 of our Advent Calendar, and today’s focus is release.

This time of year can make us hold onto so much: expectations, lists, pressure, emotions, and tiny worries that follow us around like shadows.

But your nervous system isn’t built to carry everything at once.

Letting go isn’t giving up, it’s creating space.
Space for calm.
Space for breath.
Space for you.

🎄 Today’s Advent tool 🎄
Choose one thing to release today.
It could be:
• a task that doesn’t really need doing
• a thought that’s been following you
• a worry that’s draining your energy
• a story about yourself that no longer feels true

Write it down.
Fold the paper.
Exhale slowly, longer than your inhale.
And imagine leaving that worry right there on the page (you can rip it up or even burn it when you're done).

Your body will feel the relief instantly.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is simply… let go. 💛

21/12/2025

Happy Day 21!

Something we often teach at Beam is that "the rhythm of your breath, reflects the rhythm of your life". If your breath right now, is jagged, fast, held ... then your body will respond in kind.

Get your breath flowing smoothly and freely today by pausing before you say yes to anything, this gives your mind space to check in with your body.

🎄 Today’s Advent tool 🎄
Before you respond to anything today, pause.
One breath in.
One breath out.
Then decide.

Give your day some breathing room. 💛

20/12/2025

It’s Day 20!

Today we’re leaning into connection again, not the surface-level kind, but the deep, meaningful connection that stays with people long after the moment has passed.

We often underestimate the impact we have on others and we're not always great at telling people how grateful we are for their love, support, wisdom or even humour!

A message from you could be the reminder they didn’t know they needed.

Humans heal through connection… and sometimes one sentence is enough to soften someone’s whole day.

🎄 Today’s Advent tool 🎄
Send a message to someone who mattered to you this year.
Offer sincere gratitude, no need for a whole essay, just "I am grateful for you" can be enough.
Or you can tag them in this post!

Warmth shared becomes warmth felt, for both of you. 💛