Abi Giles Therapy

08/02/2026

Person A - Secure. Able to identify needs and ask for them to be met.
'Do you fancy a cuppa?' (Genuinely fancies a cuppa)

Person B - Hyperindependent. Unable to identify needs and certainly cannot ask for them to be met.
'Do you fancy a cuppa?' (Please help, I'm drowning and I cannot see a way out. If you don't come for a cuppa, I'll assume I'm a burden for even asking, that you cannot possibly meet my need anyway and that I have to continue doing this all by myself, reinforcing my script that nobody sees me no matter how much I scream for help (ask for a cuppa) also, couldn't give less of a s**t about the cuppa.)

And that is on survival 😉

08/02/2026

Started my walk feeling gutted I didn't bring my headphones. (I'm in the middle of a Yalom Audio book and wanted to carry on 🤦‍♀️😅) anyway....listen to what I would've missed! 😮🥹

02/02/2026

For any parents/ guardians with teens.

I love this piece. It was published by YoungMinds a few years ago. Having already raised 2 teenagers, and will be in the near future going through this stage again with another 2, I found this very comforting and reassuring.

If you're a parent/ guardian going through it right now, hang in there. They really do come back.

And if you're a young person going through it right now. Hang in there, it will all make sense soon.

You're not broken ❤️

01/02/2026

27/01/2026

This is Bill. Bill helps with fidgety hands, nervous minds, disregulated nervous systems and stimming. Sometimes he helps just by being on the table next to you, knowing he's there. Bill's kind of a big deal. We love Bill.

26/01/2026

Taking advantage of the new edition to the therapy room today...The electric blanket! 😍 how cosy are these??! I've never used one before, now I fear it will have to go absolutely everywhere with me ☺️

31/12/2025

Hello everyone 🥰

I thought I would pop this here as a reminder to all to slow down and tune it to what really matters to you at this time of year. Please remember these are just days of the week. And even those are a construct.

Social media is extremely full of 'shoulds' right now. Promoting any way to perceive yourself as less than, so that you think you need to become more.

Remember you're ok exactly as you are. You will have been programmed throughout the month of December to overconsume, over eat, over socialise and over do, only to then believe you're in a defecit and need to change your whole life as soon as the clock strikes midnight.

Society will lead you to engage in it all, just to lead you to feel bad for doing so.

Listen and align to what you need. What you have the ability to give to yourself right now. Find comfort in the smallest of rituals. Whether that be to be silent, to get your feet on the ground, to rest, or to take no action at all. Maybe even just use this time to acknowledge yourself. As you are. Right now.

Sending love to anyone finding this time of year difficult. Remember, they are just days of the week 🥰 and if you want renewal and expansion, some cultures believe the new year actually begins in spring 😅

08/12/2025

'The libido, unable to turn towards creation, turns to anesthesia'

Intention boards are a great way to access, what we call in Transactional Analysis, Physis or life energy.

In making contact with the free child through creation and play we can create movement and motivation through stimulation. Freedom through joy. Regulation through relationship.

Setting intentions can help us uncover unconscious limitations, allowing us to slowly show them the safety they need to emerge.

29/10/2025

The days are getting darker and the evenings are getting cosier 🖤 so proud of this space 🖤

13/10/2025

Such a gift of a book 🖤 Charlie Mackesy

27/08/2025

Just a teeny little, large update 🥳 I am now a full, clinical member of the UK council for Psychotherapy. My certificate arrived today 💐

It represents 4 core years of training, 3 years in exam group, over 1,000 clinical client hours and lots and lots of grit, determination, actual tears and life changing moments 💪

The final piece to my gorgeous therapy room 🥰

18/08/2025

More chairs in, all ready for group therapy 🦋 I absolutely love the vibe of this room!