Inner Phoenix Coaching

10/12/2021

I found this in my memories from 2015 - it's still good advice

Geneen Roth

Most women are busy nourishing everyone else, giving food in the form of time and attention to children and spouses and friends, leaving the dregs for themselves. When you don't have a built-in way of giving time and attention to yourself, food becomes the main source of sweetness in your life. And "treats" are usually cold. Diet sodas, salads, cookies, chips, protein bars or frozen yogurt are not food. Neither is coffee.
You have to begin to be your own advocate, not just with food, but in your life as well. You have to decide that there's a bottom line, that you have basic needs, and they are not negotiable. Eating one hot meal a day is a way of saying that you want the real thing: a life of main courses. It is a way to begin giving yourself the real thing.
Eating out is a treat for which you are paying money. If you're not sure what's in a certain dish, ask. Establish eye contact with the person who is waiting on you; let them explain what they know. If you are pleasant but assertive, you'll find out what you want to know and it will help you make a decision about what you want.
If you get to a restaurant and you immediately don't like it--the ambiance, the smell, the feelings you get when you're standing or have just been seated, don't be afraid to tell your companion.
When you are eating with others, put your silverware down from time to time during the meal to give your full attention to what else is taking place.

29/10/2021

We are a bit excited in our household today. My step daughter is here and loves all things Halloween. My daughter in law has never carved a pumpkin before! I’m expecting carnage later.

They went to the shop to choose their veg and came home with these pretty offerings. A lesson for me too - I didn’t know they came in different colours!

Just goes to show how we are the same yet oh so different!

28/10/2021

Do you love Autumn? I do! The smell after the rain, the colours in the woodlands and kicking up the leaves without a care in the world. Confidently heading out wrapped up for any weather! No need to worry about strappy tops or ‘glowing’ in a cardigan to avoid baring wobbly arms. Its practically expected to layer up and wear big baggy jumpers! Perfection!

Autumn is our time to shine, bright jewel colours to match nature’s palette and tasty casseroles with delicious veggies in the slow cooker. Harvest time brings lots of recipe inspiration!

Growing confidence means speaking up at meetings, fearlessly striding out with your friends on a night out, loving the skin you’re in. Imagine feeling the same confidence with a spring in your step as the weather starts to warm up again! Choicepower is all it takes. Let me help you to start now.

27/10/2021

I can’t do that!! What will people say! I’m too fat to go to the gym.

That was me. For anything that might push me, or people might see me. Yet today I went for an induction at the local gym, and swam afterwards. And it was lovely! Proper Me time. and I loved it.

Don’t get me wrong, i’m still overweight. But now i have the confidence to go out there and grab experiences by the throat! I know that I’m taking control of my choices, around food and decisions every day. No more hiding at the back for me.

Want some of this confidence for yourself? Lets Talk.
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24/09/2021

This is beautiful 😍

Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.

Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

12/09/2021

I, like many I think, have struggled to get back on track with my weight loss journey. We’ve had lockdown, eat out to help out, oh another lockdown, and another, christmas, school holidays… never ending isnt it!

We often have a mindset of ‘on the diet/off the diet’ and working to a more level playing field is something I do with clients pretty much daily. How often do you think ‘oh I’m out on Friday I’ll start again on Monday and have what I want’ .... and it’s only Wednesday 😱

What if you looked at it a different way. Remember we are not on a ‘diet’ we are changing our lives for good. After all a diet is actually what every person on the planet has. Vegetarian is ‘a diet’ gluten free is ‘a diet’. We have dietary requirements for medical issues, for personal choices, for religious reasons. A diet. So not just weight reducing (another type of ‘diet’.)

What we can have, is a plan. Our calorie levels may change, our food choices will change depending on the circumstances. So let’s make a plan!

Let’s say you have a girly weekend ahead. In the past, this has meant planning to stick to your diet, taking products, maybe ‘being good’ for day one, then feeling deprived because your friends are eating more and differently, maybe having a drink or three.... so you join in and go with the flow. Eating and drinking far more than is even needed because you are ‘off plan’. The result? Bloatedness, guilt, shame and annoyance at yourself that you failed. Maybe avoid the scales for a week or two until you can ‘pull it back’. Sound familiar?

Try this - plan ahead. CHOOSE If you know where you’re going, check the menus. Choose a few options that will fit around your step. Step up! If you set yourself a slightly higher allowance, you maintain control - you can have a small portion of what you want, fill up on your salad/veg, plenty of water. Choose what you really can’t bear to miss out on and give up what you’re not bothered about!

While you are focussed on what you can’t have, you will feel deprived, annoyed, left out. Childish isn’t it?! So what CAN you have? Honestly? You can have anything you choose. It’s your choice. But if you choose Short term satisfaction over your long term goal (bikini anyone?) then you are DEPRIVING yourself of what you REALLY want.

So what DO you want? That’s for another post I think 😘

10/09/2021

Had a lovely session with this client recently. I love to hear how coaching has helped someone break through to their next level 😍

22/08/2021

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17/08/2021

So tonight was a different sort of evening for me. I was asked to be a speaker at a regional zoom meeting for the 1:1 Diet.

My initial reaction when asked is why me, who would want to listen to me? Turns out over 50 people!

I worried for a while about needing to plan, make a presentation, almost talked myself out of it completely. Then I reminded myself I know my own journey. I know how I build my business, how I help others to build theirs. Why would I keep this information to myself? Plus I’m among friends

So I did it! I had a lovely chat, answered a few questions and have had some amazing feedback.

Just by being me!
My point? Be yourself. It’s all we can be.

03/02/2021

Want to get in the zone? Some top tips here.

New Year - take 2! Lots of people start the new year with a new diet, but slip back to old habits quickly. Here's our tips to get back on track.