Therapy with Patsy

20/11/2025

02/11/2025

There are few things that irk me more than the accusation of someone having a 'victim mindset', such a harmful and unhelpful judgment. It's worth paying attention to how the accuser lives their life, more often than not, they live in denial of their own wounding and therefore cannot tolerate others tending to their pain.

I've never worked with a single person who had a victim mindset. I've met people who feel stuck, helpless, without a sense of agency.. because that can be the very real impact of trauma, and deserves empathy and compassion.

Acknowledging the ongoing impact of the pain from there-and-then is an essential step towards more agency in the here-and-now ✨️

30/10/2025

Join me and Shrumi for a little visit to the beach! 💙

26/10/2025

I attended a beautiful yin yoga class at Rebalance Brighton - Unity within Diversity this evening, felt like I was floating home 😍

26/10/2025

I was debating for ages whether to brave the beach or to just stay at home this morning.
I love beach walks, but the 'What Ifs' tend to creep in. What if there are too many other dogs? What if she gets overwhelmed and I regret taking her? (and give myself a really hard time over it, hello inner critic!)

In the end, I remembered that I can't control how many dogs there are, I can't guarantee there won't be moments where Shrumi might feel worried and reacts but I can trust that I'll do my best by her, and if things get too much then I can take charge and deal with it.
And I can choose how I talk to myself if something doesn't go to plan! 🩷

Trust vs control ✨️
A theme so prevalent in my life and in my work as a therapist.

We did end up going out, we both had a great time and there were a couple of tricky moments, but we managed them well, and nothing bad happened.

My friend Laura often refers to Shrumi as my teacher, and she's so right. Don't get me wrong, it's hard work supporting a reactive dog, I often wish things were easier. And there's so much I've been learning and relearning in my relationship with Shrumi that I wouldn't want to miss.

It would have been easier and 'safer' to avoid taking any risks, and to stay at home. And we would have missed out on so much! Grateful for having been able to trust and surrender a little today 🙂💙

25/10/2025

On Tuesday afternoons at 3pm 😊

24/10/2025

21/10/2025

I was lucky enough to be able to attend a very holding and nurturing retreat over the weekend, and I'm noticing how much more present, connected and resilient I'm feeling ✨️
This quote really resonated for me 🩷

05/10/2025

Trying out some new creative bits for the therapy room 😍

As a former so-called gifted & talented child, I feel the tyranny of the blank piece of paper 😶 My go-to is patterns. Safe, predictable patterns. And then I get frustrated for not being more spontaneous and creative..🫠

People I work with often get a bit anxious about working with creative materials, please feel reassured that I completely get it 🙃
And I value this process for giving us a valuable opportunity to meet ourselves✨️