14/02/2026
Spent this Valentines alone? Frustrated that you met another Guy/Girl only to find that the minute you get close they pull away - and you chase. Ever wondered what makes the chase so addictive? I mean you weren't even that interested to begin with right?
You have done all the inner child healing, worked through your daddy issues, even released years of trauma...but still you find the available choice to be boring, and the unavailable, well that lights up your system like it's Christmas eve...every single time.
Well here's the thing most therapists won't tell you (because it has nothing to do with insight)
You don't keep choosing unavailable love because you don't know better. You choose it because your nervous system hasn't yet learned that available love is survivable.
Emotionally available partners don't just offer connection — they offer witness. And for a system shaped by early relational wounding, being seen is the thing it learned to avoid.
This isn't a willpower problem. It's a capacity problem.
The Foundations course teaches you to build the nervous system bandwidth to stay — when something good arrives and will no longer fire up when what isn't aligned shows up.
Check it out, trust me your heart will thank you for it.
🔗 thecoherencepractice.co.uk/foundations