19/09/2025
🌿 The Grey Space 🌿
I often talk with clients about what I call the grey space — that place between the “all or nothing” of black-and-white thinking.
The image below captures something so many people relate to: the exhausting swing between “I can’t do this anymore” and “Keep going, it’ll get better.”
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) teaches us that our thoughts aren’t facts — they’re interpretations. And with a small shift in language, we can start moving from a fixed mindset (closed off, hopeless) to a growth mindset (open to possibility).
For example, instead of “I can’t do this” try “I can’t do this yet.”
That single word creates space for change and softens the weight of the thought.
Finding the grey space means welcoming all of our different parts to be heard and aligned. It means allowing thoughts that reflect our fluctuating human experience, such as:
✨ “I’m struggling today.”
✨ “Yesterday was tough.”
✨ “I feel like I need a break.”
These statements acknowledge what’s real in the moment without closing the door on hope or possibility.
You are not your thoughts. You can step back, notice them, and choose kinder words that help you keep moving forward. đź’›
If this resonates with you and you’d like support in exploring your own grey space, I offer walk-and-talk therapy in the Chorley area and online counselling nationwide. You don’t have to figure it all out alone 🌿
