Samantha Lapping Therapist

01/01/2026

New year. Same you. And that’s not a problem.

January has a habit of shouting at us.
New goals. New habits. New personality by Monday.

But therapy isn’t about reinventing yourself because the calendar flipped.
It’s about understanding why you do what you do.
The patterns. The triggers. The bits you learned early on and are still carrying now.

If last year was about surviving, fair enough.
If it was about repeating the same dynamics again and again, also fair enough.

This year doesn’t need pressure.
It needs curiosity.
And honesty.

You don’t have to become someone new to feel better.
You just need space to make sense of what’s already there.

If 2026 is the year you want to work on how you relate to others and yourself, I’m here.

Happy New Year.

Samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

29/12/2025

You’re not fully resting.
You’re not fully back in life.
And suddenly your brain starts time-travelling.

Back to the school run.
Back to work.
Back to routines you were desperate for a break from.

And on top of that comes the quiet pressure whispering:
“This year has to be different.”
“I can’t repeat the same patterns.”
“I need to get it right this time.”

It’s exhausting.

This space often stirs up anxiety, guilt, and a strange sense of urgency. As if you’re meant to emerge on January 1st as a more sorted, healed, motivated version of yourself.

Truth?
Nothing magical happens at midnight.

You don’t have to have clarity.
You don’t have to feel ready.
You don’t have to fix your life in a week.

If this time of year brings up dread, self-criticism, or that familiar knot in your stomach, it’s not because you’re failing. It’s because transitions stir stuff. Especially if you’ve spent years surviving rather than choosing.

Maybe this year isn’t about doing everything differently.
Maybe it’s about noticing your patterns with a bit more honesty and a lot less shame.

That’s often where real change actually starts.

If this limbo feels heavy, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to carry it quietly.

Please email me: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

23/12/2025

19/12/2025

If you’re struggling right now, please don’t carry it alone.

Sometimes things build quietly. Sometimes they crash in all at once. Either way, support is there and you deserve to use it.

If you’re in immediate danger or feel unsafe, contact emergency services or one of the helplines listed here. They are there to listen, not judge.

If things feel heavy but not urgent, and you’re thinking about therapy, you’re welcome to get in touch.

I offer a calm, confidential space to explore what’s going on beneath the surface, at your pace.

Email: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

Reaching out is not a weakness. It’s often the first act of self-respect.

My sessions will resume on January the 5th. I hope everyone has a nice Christmas 🎄✨

16/12/2025

Saying goodbye to a client at the end of our work together…

There are emotions, kind words, and a reminders of why this job matters so much.

Not because therapy fixes people.
But because when someone feels safe enough to look at their patterns, their relationships, and themselves honestly, real change can happen.

Watching a client grow in confidence, relate differently, and trust themselves more is a privilege I never take lightly.

Endings in therapy can be emotional. They also matter.
They show that something has shifted.
That the work has done what it needed to do.

Grateful for the people who trust me with their stories.
And so proud of the work we do together ✨

15/12/2025

Christmas is fast approaching.
Which usually means more time with family, more expectations, and old patterns creeping back in.

If you often end up feeling drained, guilty, or snapping at people by the end of it, this is your reminder to get some boundaries in place now, not once you’re already overwhelmed.

Boundaries aren’t about being harsh or selfish. They’re about protecting your energy, your mental health, and your peace.

I’ve created a free boundaries guide to help you:
• say no without the guilt spiral
• stop over-explaining yourself
• handle tricky conversations with more confidence

Grab it now and give yourself a better Christmas.

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12/12/2025

11/12/2025

Stop over apologising….

People who over-apologise usually learned early on that keeping the peace kept them safe. Maybe you grew up with unpredictable adults. Maybe you were blamed for things that weren’t your fault. Maybe conflict felt dangerous, so you became the fixer, the smoother, the one who made everything calm again.

So now, as an adult, sorry slips out before you’ve even processed what happened. It’s not a choice. It’s a survival strategy. Your nervous system jumps in to prevent rejection, conflict, or disappointment before it can land.

The problem is, constant apologising shrinks you. It teaches your brain that you are always the one in the wrong. It waters down your confidence and it sends a message to others that your needs are secondary.

09/12/2025

08/12/2025

Most people think ADHD is all about being easily distracted. If only it were that simple.
For many adults the hardest parts are the constant mental churn and the forgetfulness that makes life feel like a leaning tower of to do lists. Trying to remember everything. Trying to start what matters. Trying to slow your brain at 3 am. Trying to look collected when your body is buzzing. Trying to move when you are stuck in freeze.
And then there’s the guilt and shame, the sense you are always one step behind even though you are working twice as hard.
You are not weak and you are not failing. Your brain works differently and it deserves understanding not judgement. Therapy can help you untangle the patterns, separate ADHD from the shame, and build systems that actually suit how your brain works.
What’s the hardest part for you?

06/12/2025