Magic Hands : Calm Minds - Counselling, Reiki and Bowen

11/12/2025

📣 No is a complete sentence! 📣

You don't have to give a reason, no excuse, no pontificating about how difficult it will be or how you'd do it if only it wasn't a Thursday.
Just 'Sorry, no'.

Then if the person who asked replies with some kind of hostility, remember that's on them. You don't have to change your point of view because of their response.

🤷‍♀️ So you can say 'I' sorry you feel like that, but I'm still not going to do it.'

And you can keep on saying that as often as you need to.

🤔 If they come up with new information that makes you want to change your mind you can do that, again that's your choice.

✅ What we're trying to get to here is a state where you can give the answer you want to
give and not the answer you feel obliged to give, which will leave you with some resentment or some practical difficulties that will need to be overcome.

10/12/2025

Do you struggle to say No to people? 🤔

Do you feel resentful or overwhelmed because of the amount you have to do for others?

Sometimes it's just one person who 'takes advantage', sometimes it can be anyone and everyone.

💜 If that sounds like your life, this video may help.

Do you struggle to say No to people? Do you feel resentful or overwhelmed because of the amount you have to do for others? Sometimes it's just one person w...

09/12/2025

Let's talk about Christmas traditions... ⬇️

But we always do that at Christmas!! Whatever 'that' is, whether it’s wearing silly hats at the table, visiting your grandmother, eating your body weight in chocolate, poking yourself in the eye – if you should suggest that perhaps this year we do it differently, you will probably be met with sh...

08/12/2025

You might spot this on the wall if you come to visit me in clinic.
The same message applies if you have sessions with me online, message me, email or call.

💜 This is your safe space 💜

05/12/2025

The clinic will be closed for a festive break from Friday 19th December and will be opening again on Monday 5th January 🎄

04/12/2025

When I first started my clinic, my clients would contact me saying 'I need your magic hands to fix my ###'.

✨ So Magic Hands became the obvious choice for naming my business.

✨ Then they started talking about how calming they found the treatment and so Magic Hands : Calm Minds was born

03/12/2025

Forget the to-do list with a hundred festive preparations. Are you baking your own mince pies because you love to do it, or because you want to impress your guests? Are you trying to be in three places at once because you’re afraid to disappoint someone by refusing their invitation?

🎄 I bet you don’t shun your friends because their Christmas tree is a bit wonky and their mince pies came from Tesco’s, so why would anyone do the same for you?

✏️ Make a list of the things you WANT to do, not that you feel you ought to do or that someone will expect you to do. Make sure that ‘Enjoy myself’ is on the list. Put important events like your child’s nativity play on the calendar and refuse anything that clashes with it.

😴 If you know you need to be in bed by 10pm to feel human the next day, don’t accept invitations to things that don’t finish until 11pm. Schedule time for relaxation. Don’t forget that the usual things like laundry and shopping still have to be fitted in, and days in December still only have 24 hours in them, just like the rest of the year.

💜 Be happy with your preparations. Don’t compare yourself with someone who has more money, more time, better camera filters, or more rehearsals than you do. Focus on making happy memories with the people you love. You won’t stay healthy by stressing over having a perfect Christmas, but you might by having a happy one.

02/12/2025

I want you to think back to a Christmas from your past which you really enjoyed.

🤔 What do you remember? The food? The presents? The venue? Or the people you shared it with? Has your life really been blighted to this very moment because you got Malibu Barbie instead of Gymnast Barbie, however disappointed you might have been at the time?

🎄 If past Christmases were miserable, would a beautifully decorated tree or a perfectly roasted turkey have been enough to make them happy occasions?

🙁 People judge you to make themselves feel better. If your Christmas tree isn’t as nice as theirs they feel pleasantly superior. It’s gratifying to feel they can cook a better Christmas dinner than you can. In their house nobody is sick and nobody cries because their house is an oasis of calm and order, apparently.

💜 But in yours, people are happy and love each other, and don’t care whether there’s pudding because they’re more focused on what really matters in life.

01/12/2025

At this time of year we’re bombarded with images of smiling families sitting round a table groaning with festive goodies, or happy couples walking arm in arm along snowy streets dragging a Christmas tree behind them.

🙄 Whenever you talk to anyone, it will be 45 seconds before they ask you if you’re ready for Christmas or what you’re doing for Christmas or whether you’re looking forward to bloody Christmas.

🤯 There’s such a lot of pressure to be happy at this time of year, to be surrounded by family and to have beautiful decorations that go viral on Facebook, that it’s easy to forget it’s supposed to be fun.

🙁 Worrying about getting everything perfect, particularly if you’re hosting a family get-together, can completely ruin what should be a happy time of year. Comparing your Christmas with the ones on TV is a recipe for disaster. Firstly they have a huge budget for decorations, costume, food and fake snow. Everyone has a script. And most importantly, they can have multiple takes. If someone drops the tray of mince pies as they come out of the oven, someone shouts 'Cut!', they get another one out and try again. You can’t do that. You didn’t rehearse this and you can’t have another go if it goes wrong. This is real life, not TV

28/11/2025

💜 For Bowen therapy, many clients feel better immediately but I always recommend a minimum of two sessions to get a full understanding of how Bowen affects your body.

Every client is different. For clients who have a long term health condition or whose physical issues are related to an aspect of their lifestyle such as a job or hobby, I often advise a monthly treatment to keep them in good health and pain free. Others like to come on an ad-hoc basis as they feel they need to, and others may not need to come back at all after their first two or three treatments.

💜 For counselling, it really is a question of how long is a piece of string.

If you've been struggling for a long time you might need to come regularly for months or even years, but you should start to feel better fairly quickly, often after only a few sessions.

My job is not to turn you into some pre-defined version of 'normal' or to apply a process to you, but to leave you feeling the way you want to feel. Only you will know when that's happened. For that reason I don't ask clients to sign up to a specific number of sessions, although I might suggest making a recurring appointment just for practical reasons.

27/11/2025

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Insomnia?

😴 Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) is a specialist treatment specifically designed to resolve clinical insomnia. It works by both challenging your beliefs about sleep, and reprogramming your brain to sleep better.

​😴 Effective treatment takes only 4-6 sessions, held fortnightly, although you might choose to have more if you want to address any associated issues like anxiety or depression which are affecting your sleep. You don't have to stop taking any sleep medication to undergo the therapy and the results are long lasting, if not permanent. Sessions can be held face to face or online.

💜 An initial consultation is required to establish your suitability for the therapy, which is at no extra charge.

26/11/2025

Would you like to know more about how stress and sleep are related, and how to help get better sleep if stress is keeping you awake?

💜 This video might help.

Would you like to know more about how stress and sleep are related, and how to help get better sleep if stress is keeping you awake? This video might help.