Alphabet Counselling

Alphabet Counselling Hello, my name is Jessica.

I aim to create a natural, comfortable and relaxed environment to support children, teens and adults with anxiety, depression, relationships, stress and other mental health issues.

22/01/2026

The Zombification of Children

As I was driving this morning, doing my usual errands, I noticed it again. I notice it every day, but today it hit harder. The children. Not talking. Not laughing. Not even looking up. Heads down. Faces blank. Souls switched off. Completely glued to their phones. Two of them walked straight across the pavement without even knowing where they were going. No awareness. No presence. EarPods jammed in, brains being microwaved, eyes locked onto a screen like obedient little drones being led by an invisible leash.

And before anyone starts frothing at the mouth, yes, I know. We enable it. We’re the parents. We hand them the screens. We buy the phones. We pay for the data. And we wrap it all up in excuses like “I don’t want them to feel left out” or “that’s just how it is now.” But that excuse has quietly turned into a surrender. We didn’t just adapt to the system. We bent the knee to it.

But what’s even darker is what’s coming next. Because now it isn’t just teenagers and pre-teens. It’s babies. Toddlers. Two-year-olds. Three-year-olds. Five and six year olds being handed tablets because it’s easier than engaging with them. You see it everywhere. Parents out for dinner, sat at a table, and the child isn’t part of the moment at all. iPad in front of their face so the adults can eat in peace. Children pushed around supermarkets in trolleys with screens inches from their eyes because that’s the only way they’ll stay quiet. That’s the only way they’ll “behave.”

So imagine what these children are going to be like when they’re older. They won’t even understand what it is not to have one. There’s no memory of boredom. No memory of waiting. No memory of sitting still and observing the world. Their nervous systems are being wired from birth to require constant stimulation just to feel normal.

When I was young, and I’m not even ancient, there was none of this. I didn’t live indoors. I didn’t sit staring at a glowing rectangle. I didn’t have a phone until I was sixteen or seventeen, and even then it was a brick that could barely send a text. And the only reason you texted was to see if your mates were coming out. Not to doom scroll. Not to watch strangers dance. Not to absorb algorithms designed to hollow you out.

We were outside. All the time. Sun on our skin. Cuts on our knees. Building dens. Climbing trees. Swimming in lakes we probably shouldn’t have been swimming in. Getting lost. Getting bored. Getting into trouble. Learning limits. Learning courage. Learning how to exist in the real world without constant stimulation spoon-fed into our skulls.

Now look at them. Adventure has been replaced by pixels. Exploration replaced by avatars. Risk replaced by safety warnings. Curiosity replaced by consumption. Kids don’t wander anymore. They don’t invent games. They don’t sit with boredom long enough for imagination to kick in. Everything is pre-packaged. Pre-approved. Pre-digested.

This generation is being raised indoors, plugged in, monitored, dopamine-dripped and emotionally flatlined. And the scary part isn’t just that this one is bad. It’s that the next one will be worse. Even more disconnected. Even more anxious. Even more incapable of existing without a device telling them who they are, what to think, and what to feel.

Children haven’t evolved. They’ve been domesticated. Tamed. Pacified. Zombified.

And we’re watching it happen in real time.

If you decide to buy a BMW, suddenly you see BMW’s everywhere.Did BMW’s sales spike in your area?No.They were always the...
21/01/2026

If you decide to buy a BMW, suddenly you see BMW’s everywhere.

Did BMW’s sales spike in your area?

No.

They were always there.

So how come they suddenly seem to appear out of thin air?

There’s a part of our brains that is a “Reality Generator”.

It sounds crazy, but it’s true.

This part of our brain didn’t allow you to see the BMW’s before because it was actively deleting them out of reality.

Now that you have flagged them as "Important," your brain allows you to see them.

At the base of your brainstem, there is a bundle of nerves called the Reticular Activating System (RAS).

Think of the RAS as the Bouncer of your Mind.

At any given second, your senses are bombarded with 8 million bits of information.

Your conscious brain can only process about 40 bits of information.

If you tried to process everything, you would go insane instantly.

So, the RAS deletes 99.9% of reality.

It only lets in what matches your internal search parameters.

This is why the "Victim" is always victimized.

If you believe "The world is against me," you have programmed your RAS to hunt for evidence of persecution.

You will spot the rude cashier.

You will hear the insult in the compliment.

You will be blind to the open door right in front of you.

Your brain literally edits out the opportunities because they do not match the filter you set.

You are not unlucky.

You are neurologically fixated on the negative.

You cannot change the external world.

But you can change the Search Parameters.

If you program your RAS for Opportunity, you will begin to see deals, connections, and money where others see nothing.

You are walking through the exact same physical space as the broke man.

But you are living in a completely different reality.

Be careful what you focus on.

You are not just "thinking" about it.

You are giving your brain instructions on what to keep and what to delete.

If you focus on problems, you will find them.

If you focus on solutions, you will create them.

You do not see the world as it is.

You see the world as you are.

- Andre

To all my clients - you are brave enough to be real, open up and feel.. and this really is so beautiful
06/01/2026

To all my clients - you are brave enough to be real, open up and feel.. and this really is so beautiful

03/12/2025

I came across this visual today... four ropes forming one direction... and it stopped me for a moment.

Because this is the part we rarely talk about:
Most careers or businesses don’t fall apart from lack of effort… they fall apart from misalignment.

You can be great at something but feel empty doing it.
You can love the work but struggle to make it sustainable.
You can meet a need but feel underpaid.
You can earn well but feel disconnected from your purpose.

Ikigai is a reminder that real fulfillment sits at the intersection... not in just one category, but in the overlap of all four:

✔️ What you’re good at
✔️ What you love
✔️ What the world needs
✔️ What you can get paid for

As we plan for 2026, maybe this is the mindset shift we need:

Not “How can I do more?”
But “How can I align better?”

Because growth isn’t always about adding tasks, chasing trends, or pushing harder.

Sometimes it’s about weaving these four threads slowly and intentionally until your work, values, and direction finally pull the same way.

If this year felt scattered or exhausting, that doesn’t mean you failed.

It just means the alignment work is beginning.

Purpose isn’t found overnight..
but piece by piece, it comes together.

Hey, I'm Jessica 🙂 I’m a qualified integrative counsellor, using person centered, CBT and TA based approaches in Conings...
05/11/2025

Hey, I'm Jessica 🙂

I’m a qualified integrative counsellor, using person centered, CBT and TA based approaches in Coningsby, Lincolnshire, but I also work online across the UK.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, navigating a life change, or carrying something heavy, I'm here to help.

You don’t need to be in crisis to start therapy.
You just need a space where you can take a breath, talk freely, and feel heard.

If something’s been sitting heavy for a while, it might be time to explore it gently, with someone by your side.

🪑 Sessions: Online or face-to-face in Coningsby

💷 £50 per session

If you’re wondering whether counselling could help, drop me a message. There’s no pressure, just space.




WhatsApp 07908630153
Email j.turncroft@gmail.com

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22/08/2025

People often assume the hardest part of trauma is what happens during the actual experience. But what many don’t realize is that the aftermath can feel just as overwhelming, sometimes even more. And it can be deeply confusing to feel like you’re struggling after the worst is over.

That’s because your body responds to trauma by going into survival mode. It doesn’t pause to process fear or grief or confusion. It pushes those things down so you can keep moving through whatever you’re facing. Your system is doing exactly what it’s designed to do—protecting you.

But survival isn’t healing. Once the trauma ends, your body begins to register everything it had to shut out. And the aftermath isn’t about getting through a specific moment. It’s about living with everything that moment left behind. The fear that stayed in your nervous system. The grief that didn’t surface until you were out of danger. The reactions your body still has, even when your mind knows you’re safe.

This is the part no one prepares you for. Feeling worse after you’ve “survived” can bring up shame. It can make you question your strength. It can feel like you’re somehow failing because you’re finally feeling what you thought you already made it through.

But that’s exactly the point. You didn’t fail. You survived. And now your body finally feels safe enough to go back and start feeling what it couldn’t feel at the time. The aftermath feels harder because this is when the work of healing actually begins.

I feel so incredibly lucky as a therapist to be surrounded by such brave clients.Each of you trusts me implicitly, openi...
03/07/2025

I feel so incredibly lucky as a therapist to be surrounded by such brave clients.

Each of you trusts me implicitly, opening up about the scariest, most traumatic and shameful experiences, bearing emotions and being genuine with how you really feel.

Despite it being hard, I have encouraged you to be more bold; I have advised you to stand up for yourselves, and I’ve suggested that you do take risks. But recently I’ve come to realize that being bold, standing up for yourself, and taking risks is actually all about courage and bravery.

Courage is about stepping out of your comfort zone; it means confronting your fears and anxieties while resisting the urge to run away. Discovering the autonomy of courage is liberating, it’s empowering, and it creates opportunities.

Everyday I work with people who show me these glimmers of bravery which build to create a beautiful process of becoming your true self.

Thank you for allowing me to be part of the journey and being able to share this amazing experience with you!

Areas I specialise in - AnxietyBusinessCareerConfidenceCouples counselling DepressionHealthGrief & LossMotivationOCDPatt...
03/06/2025

Areas I specialise in -

Anxiety

Business

Career

Confidence

Couples counselling

Depression

Health

Grief & Loss

Motivation

OCD

Patterns of behaviour

Personal development

Phobias

Redundancy

Relationships

Self-esteem

Stress

Trauma

Transactional Analysis

Wellness

Hey, I'm Jess :) I’m a qualified integrative counsellor, using person centered, CBT and TA based approaches in Coningsby...
30/05/2025

Hey, I'm Jess :)

I’m a qualified integrative counsellor, using person centered, CBT and TA based approaches in Coningsby, Lincolnshire, but I also work online across the UK.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, navigating a life change, or carrying something heavy, I'm here to help.

You don’t need to be in crisis to start therapy.
You just need a space where you can take a breath, talk freely, and feel heard.

If something’s been sitting heavy for a while, it might be time to explore it gently, with someone by your side.

🪑 Sessions: Online or face-to-face in Coningsby

💷 £50 per session

If you’re wondering whether counselling could help, drop me a message. There’s no pressure, just space.


Address

99 Kings Manor
Coningsby
LN44

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Tuesday 4pm - 6pm
Wednesday 1pm - 3pm
Thursday 1pm - 6:30pm
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