15/02/2026
There’s a moment I’ve come to recognise deeply, over the last 20 odd years. It’s when someone realises the thing they’ve been analysing for years, was never the thing at all. I see it recalibrating in real time, when the 1st wave of light bulb moments hit. It can hit hard, soft, make people laugh, cry uncontrollably, constantly repeat to themselves "I can't believe it", its alot! Part of that process is linked to them understanding what they have kept stepping around, like giving it a real WIDE birth. Zero acknowledgment prior to realisation its a thing... yet its everything.
Because most people have already decided they know whats wrong. They have already come up with a story and the reasons why their life is not how they'd like it, and honestly that is part of the reason they are trapped. They feel highly qualified to know what's going on in their own life, yet as we strip things back its all so different. Uncharted waters, unknown before the journey, and that's where the magic starts to happen. In the depth of the discovery as we walk the path together, the understanding of self and why, how, what is happening. Yet you don't know its even needed at the beginning, so everything feels like a bombshell, like you have been living a lie, to some degree.
Most people are incredibly self aware. They just direct that awareness at the wrong target, because they are stuck inside the loop. They’ll dissect the event. The conversations. The outcomes. The childhood. The relationships. They’ll turn it over and over and over, trying to understand it. Making sense of it, via the lense of their nervous system. Which is often distorted.
I’m watching the structure underneath it all, the invisible waves of chaos, destruction and self abandonment. The patterns that make the same shapes, noises and feelings appear, in completely different situations, over many decades. The part that feels so so so familiar, it’s invisible to those on autopilot.
Every intelligence, insanely talented, loving, beautiful person who comes to work with me is unaware on so many levels, of what is happening in their life, why its happening and how to change it. Because they are deep in story. Often people have trained themselves to survive any daily situation, calling it normal life. They either continuously believe things will suddenly get better or, there's no end to this misery. Both conclusions are without truly changing, any of the deeper reasons for the issues, bubbling under the surface and leaving many people trapped in that loop, for longer than they realise, often all their adult life, if not longer.
The nervous system is very very loyal to what it knows. To all your old stories. It will recreate "the familiar" decades after it stops being useful. That loyalty can look like your normal existence. It can look like "its just who you are". It isn’t. Its a disregulated nervous system, built on a lifetime of experiences that have shaped you to believe things about yourself that aren't true.
When that underlying structure becomes visible, people tend to react with disbelief, followed quickly by a gasp. Then they say some version of, “I can’t believe that’s why I’ve been doing this. Now it makes sense.” OMG. Then a giggle, a cry, a self soothing, hold your face happens. Because it's a shock to the system that thought it knew everything. But the truth is, this work teaches you that you've actually only been connecting to a tiny part of yourself and my job is to slowly unravel all that isn't you, so you can meet yourself and we build a beautiful journey from there, one that i can almost guarantee you don't believe is possible right now.
That’s the moment I care about. And its not because it’s impressive. Its because you matter. Its because it’s life changing for a person to realise the significance of a huge block and name it. For them to see the program that has been dictating their life, causing spiral after spiral, literally without them knowing. Thats the start of a deliciously magical journey of truth, joy and endless opportunities to love yourself in ways you didn't know existed before.
There’s usually one honest hesitation before starting something so life changing. What if it doesn’t work. What if nothing changes. What if I’ve wasted my money. Completely reasonable questions, especially when we are stepping into the unknown. Especially when your nervous system is used to being let down. Especially when you've been made to feel you aren't worthy. Especially when you werent taught to put your needs first. Its hard to make that leap of faith, but oh my goodness its so worth it, because life gets better pretty quickly and you deserve that.
They say we only die once, but we live everyday. My passion is to help you live a life that feels like it fits who you truly are, because you're realised your worth. A life that honours you, sees you, and holds you in high regard, because you've found the strength to change the narrative. A life that runs on joy not fumes, because your boundaries, experience and expectations have changed. A life that fills you with excitement not dread, because you show up differently now. A life that feels good on the inside, peaceful, still, calm and settled, because the constant thinking, analysing and worrying has stopped. Free of the past, free of old stories, old patterns, old ways, feeling lighter, happier and free.
My experience is that the patterns I discover don’t dissolve because you understand them intellectually, thats just the 1st part of a huge unravelling. They shift when you see them precisely enough that they can’t hide anymore. They start to loose power with constant support from a guiding light who knows exactly how to walk this path, because they have walked it a thousand times. Even though each path is different there are key skills and methods to get you there, and I promise not to leave your side.
That’s the work. Thats my work. To lead you back to yourself. And its the best job in the world. Suzanne ### 💗💗💗
