30/12/2025
Yesterday I ran two sessions.
One with men who’ve been in Relentless for a year.
One with men who joined just seven weeks ago.
And when I finished, what struck me wasn’t the content.
It was the shift.
Some of these men, a year ago, couldn’t focus.
They were overwhelmed, reactive, numbing, constantly firefighting their own lives.
Seven weeks ago, some of the newer lads were in exactly the same place.
Yesterday they were talking about: – clarity instead of chaos
– regulating instead of reacting
– minimum standards they’re no longer willing to drop
– and a future that actually feels worth moving toward
Not because life suddenly got easier.
But because something changed around them.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth I see again and again:
Most men don’t stay stuck because they’re lazy or broken.
They stay stuck because nothing interrupts the cycle.
They set goals.
They promise themselves “this year will be different”.
They try harder… for a while.
And then life applies pressure — and everything defaults back.
January doesn’t fix that.
A new notebook doesn’t fix that.
Good intentions don’t fix that.
Structure does.
Support does.
Standards do.
That’s the difference I saw yesterday.
And if this resonates, it’s probably because part of you already knows: left to your own devices, you’ll keep negotiating with yourself.
Different year.
Same patterns.
I’m curious —
What’s one thing you know needs to change this year if it’s actually going to feel different?
(If you’re reading this quietly and nodding, that counts too.)
