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Maybe you want to change your body shape, or maybe it's your health or perhaps you'd like more confidence so that you can achieve your life's goals!!

Many confident women don’t lose confidence — they lose trust in their body.Confidence drops when the body feels unpredic...
27/01/2026

Many confident women don’t lose confidence — they lose trust in their body.

Confidence drops when the body feels unpredictable.

Sleep changes.
Energy fluctuates.
Emotions feel sharper.
And the mind starts asking:
“Can I rely on myself anymore?”

This isn’t weakness — it’s uncertainty in the system.

Rebuilding confidence from the inside

Confidence returns through consistency, not intensity:
• keeping small promises to yourself
• stabilising routines before chasing goals
• working with your energy, not against it
• building evidence that you are safe and capable
Confidence is rebuilt biologically first — psychologically second.

26/01/2026

Most women don’t struggle with knowing what to do… they struggle with doing it consistently. And that’s not a motivation problem — it’s a nervous system problem.

When you’re in survival mode, the brain prioritises “get through today,” not “build a better future.”

So you can know the goal and still not follow through.

Change becomes possible when the system feels safe enough to act, not pressured.
If this lands, I’m hosting a free webinar next week on how to make change stick in midlife.

Find out more: https://davidmeakincoaching.com/landing-page

If your thoughts feel louder, faster, or more intrusive, it doesn’t mean you’re becoming anxious — it means your system ...
26/01/2026

If your thoughts feel louder, faster, or more intrusive, it doesn’t mean you’re becoming anxious — it means your system is overloaded.

Midlife anxiety often isn’t new — it’s unmasked.
Oestrogen normally buffers stress. As it fluctuates, the brain becomes more reactive to:
• uncertainty
• responsibility
• emotional labour
• lack of recovery

So the same life now feels heavier.

A regulating approach

Anxiety eases when we reduce reactivity, not when we argue with thoughts.

Helpful strategies:
• grounding the body before analysing the mind
• limiting decision-making when depleted
• rhythmic movement to settle the nervous system
• reducing self-pressure to “cope better”
Calm isn’t forced.
It’s restored.

The body often carries what the heart and nervous system haven’t had space to process.Many women blame midlife weight ch...
26/01/2026

The body often carries what the heart and nervous system haven’t had space to process.

Many women blame midlife weight changes solely on hormones, and yes — oestrogen, cortisol and insulin shifts matter. But there’s another layer that rarely gets spoken about:

emotional weight

Not fat.
Not laziness.
Not indulgence.
But:
• grief
• resentment
• responsibility
• unmet needs
• loneliness
• unspoken disappointments
• unprocessed stress
• identity loss
• perfectionism
• caregiving exhaustion

The brain isn’t separate from the body — chronic emotional activation changes metabolism, appetite, sleep, cravings and energy availability. The nervous system prioritises survival, not aesthetics.

This is why midlife weight struggles are rarely solved by “eat less, move more.”
Discipline doesn’t work when the body feels under-supported or unseen.

Often the shift happens when the woman finally asks:
“What am I carrying that isn’t mine anymore?”

or
“Where do I need nourishment instead of restraint?”

Hormones change the physiology.
But life changes the psychology.
And weight sits at the intersection of both.

Real transformation in midlife isn’t just metabolic —
it’s emotional, relational, and identity-based.

Your body isn’t betraying you —
it’s asking for a different kind of care.

If your body is exhausted but your brain won’t switch off, sleep isn’t the problem — safety is.Many women say:“I’m shatt...
25/01/2026

If your body is exhausted but your brain won’t switch off, sleep isn’t the problem — safety is.

Many women say:
“I’m shattered… but the moment my head hits the pillow, my mind lights up.”

In midlife, sleep becomes less about tiredness and more about nervous system permission.

Hormonal shifts reduce progesterone’s calming effect, while cortisol becomes easier to trigger. If the nervous system doesn’t feel safe, the brain stays alert — even when sleep is desperately needed.

What actually helps
Instead of adding more sleep rules, focus on pre-sleep downshifting:
• reduce cognitive load earlier in the evening
• create predictability, not perfection
• slow breathing with longer exhales
• stop treating sleep like a performance test
Sleep returns when the system feels safe enough to let go.

25/01/2026

What if symptoms are not the problem but the message

Low energy
Anxiety
Poor sleep
Brain fog
These rarely appear out of nowhere

Stress affects sleep
Sleep affects mood and energy
Blood sugar affects focus and anxiety

The body works as one system

Your body is not overreacting
It is communicating
This is very common in midlife
Especially for women who have coped for years

In my free webinar
I help you understand what your symptoms may be pointing to
Without judgement or pressure

Click the link to find out more: https://davidmeakincoaching.com/landing-page

Sometimes what hurts most isn’t your body — it’s who you’re no longer able to be.Many women in midlife are quietly griev...
24/01/2026

Sometimes what hurts most isn’t your body — it’s who you’re no longer able to be.

Many women in midlife are quietly grieving:
• the energy they used to have
• the body that felt predictable
• the version of themselves who coped effortlessly

This grief often shows up as:
• low mood
• irritability
• withdrawal
• feeling ‘lost’ or flat

Not because something is wrong — but because an identity is shifting.

What helps (and why)
Research shows the nervous system struggles when identity and capacity fall out of alignment.

Supportive strategies include:
• naming the loss (instead of dismissing it)
• redefining success for this season
• building trust with your body again through small wins
• compassion over correction

This phase isn’t about becoming less.
It’s about becoming differently.

Midlife Burnout Is a Success ResponseBurnout in midlife isn’t failure — it’s the result of being competent for too long ...
23/01/2026

Midlife Burnout Is a Success Response

Burnout in midlife isn’t failure — it’s the result of being competent for too long without being supported.

Most midlife women I work with aren’t burnt out because they lacked resilience.
They’re burnt out because they had too much of it for too long.

They were the ones who:
• got things done
• carried the emotional labour
• kept the family running
• held the peace
• managed the details
• made the appointments
• picked up the slack

Competence is admirable — but it’s expensive.
And menopause removes the hormonal “buffering system” that used to let women push through without breaking down.

When oestrogen drops:
• stress feels louder
• sleep gets lighter
• anxiety rises
• recovery slows
• cognitive load weighs more

This isn’t weakness — it’s biology meeting responsibility.

Midlife burnout often arrives with this realisation:
“I used to be able to handle all of this. Now I can’t.”

But here’s the truth:
You weren’t meant to “handle all of this” in the first place.

The solution isn’t more discipline or better time management —
it’s redistribution, boundaries, and deciding that support is not a luxury.

Reflective questions:
• Where am I over-responsible?
• Where do I feel guilty for needing help?
• What would happen if I stopped compensating for everyone else?

Burnout is not the enemy.
It’s the body’s way of saying:
“You deserve a life that doesn’t require survival mode.”

If you’re doing ‘all the right things’ and your body still resists — it’s not stubborn. It’s protecting you.Midlife weig...
23/01/2026

If you’re doing ‘all the right things’ and your body still resists — it’s not stubborn. It’s protecting you.

Midlife weight gain is rarely about willpower.

When the body senses:
• chronic stress
• under-fuelling
• poor sleep
• repeated hormonal swings
…it prioritises survival over aesthetics.

Cortisol encourages fat storage — especially around the abdomen — because that tissue is metabolically active and protective.

So pushing harder:
• eating less
• exercising more
• being stricter
often backfires.

A smarter approach
The body releases weight when it feels resourced, not threatened.

Helpful shifts include:
• adequate protein and carbs earlier in the day
• resistance training over excessive cardio
• fewer extremes, more consistency
• addressing stress first, not last
Fat loss becomes possible when the system feels safe enough to let go.

22/01/2026

If you feel like you are doing everything right

But still feel exhausted

This is very common in midlife
It is not just hormones

It is recovery no longer matching demand
Years of caring
Thinking
Managing
And pushing through

When hormones fluctuate
The body has less buffer

So pushing harder often makes things worse
Not better

This phase needs a different strategy

Not more willpower

In my free webinar
I break down what that different approach looks like
In a realistic way

Click the link to find out more: https://davidmeakincoaching.com/landing-page

For a lot of women the hardest part of midlife isn’t hot flashes — it’s becoming a different woman than the one everyone...
22/01/2026

For a lot of women the hardest part of midlife isn’t hot flashes — it’s becoming a different woman than the one everyone expects you to be.

There’s a moment many women hit in perimenopause or menopause where they realise:
“I’ve changed, but my life hasn’t caught up yet.”

For years they lived inside roles:
mother
wife/partner
carer
professional
coordinator
the one who remembers everything for everyone

These roles made sense before. They were needed. But bodies, hormones, values and desires shift in midlife — and suddenly the old identity doesn’t match the woman who’s emerging.

⚠️ And this is where the tension comes from.
Not because something is wrong with her…
but because she’s evolving, and everything around her is staying the same.

Psychologists call this the identity gap — the space between who you were conditioned to be and who you’re becoming.

Many women notice during this transition:
• less tolerance for emotional labour
• less patience for “being fine”
• stronger desire for authenticity
• a new relationship with boundaries
• craving depth, purpose, intimacy or meaning

This isn’t madness.
It’s not selfishness.
It’s not a phase.
It’s an upgrade.

Midlife asks different questions than your 20s and 30s did, like:
“What do I want now?”
“What do I need?”
“What is no longer aligned?”
“What version of me do I want to bring forward?”

The women who suffer most aren’t the ones who change —
it’s the ones who try to keep living as their former selves.

If you’re feeling this shift, you’re not broken — you’re becoming.

If you’re resting but not recovering, the problem isn’t effort — it’s regulation.Many women say:“I’m exhausted… but even...
22/01/2026

If you’re resting but not recovering, the problem isn’t effort — it’s regulation.

Many women say:
“I’m exhausted… but even when I rest, I don’t feel better.”

That’s because rest and recovery are not the same thing.

Scrolling, collapsing on the sofa, even sleeping — these can reduce effort, but they don’t always downshift the nervous system.

In midlife, your body becomes more sensitive to stress hormones like cortisol. If cortisol stays elevated, the body never fully enters repair mode — even when you stop moving.

So you feel:
• tired but wired
• flat instead of refreshed
• emotionally brittle

What actually helps
Recovery requires signals of safety, not just stillness.

That can look like:
• slow, rhythmic movement (walking, gentle strength)
• breath patterns that extend the exhale
• reducing evening stimulation before exhaustion hits
• emotional decompression — not productivity

Recovery isn’t passive.
It’s active regulation.

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