Sue S Counselling and Supervision

04/12/2025

"If we do what we've always done, we'll get what we've always got". (anonymous).

We can't change unless we do something different to what we are doing. First, we have to recognise we are not happy with something and then decide how to make that change.

But we often have a fear of the unknown and feel often it's better the devil we know than the one we don't. Fear of the unknown is a common anxiety that many of us suffer with and one that puts a barrier at our feet and stops us from proceeding forwards.

The fear of the unknown may be so strong in or inner world that it stops us beginning to even explore what's wrong and what can be better. Making us settle for 'what is' even if what is not enjoyable or healthy. Understanding our fears whatever they are can help us to move forward with a more balanced living and a more regulated nervous system.

The unknown can bring uncertainty and be unpredictable throwing us out of our comfort zone even if that comfort zone is negative. Its still the known and familiar. Yet can impact us through physical symptoms, panic attacks, anxiety and unpredictable, it can be the cause of worry and intolerance of uncertainty. So much so we run the other way giving ourselves more negativity.

If you are struggling, counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk, about what you're missing, identify what you need. A place to make sense of what's happened/happening for you right now . If you are struggling,0 please send me a direct message on here or visit my website at www.pendulumofpeace.com

04/12/2025

Childhood emotional abuse can impact a child for the rest of their lives if left unexplored. This can give rise to relationship difficulties making it difficult to form relationships in the first place. Adults may have difficulties both processing and regulating emotions and this can lead to anxity, depression, nervous system dysregulation and overall poor mental and emotional health.

For a rich emotional life and living it's a good idea to learn how to process and regcognise our emotions without self-sabotaging or falling into learned-helplessness behaviours

If you are struggling, counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk, about what you're missing, identify what you need. A place to make sense of what's happened/happening for you right now. If you are struggling, please send me a direct message on here or visit my website at www.pendulumofpeace.com

03/12/2025

Anxiety can be debilitating in mind and body. It can have lots of affects that perpetuate itself this is because our nervous system is dysregulated and needs to be returned to balance.

It may also take another regulated nervous system to help reset another's dysregulations because we are hard wired to connect with other humans.

If you are struggling, counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk, about what you're missing, identify what you need. A place to make sense of what's happened/happening for you right now . If you are struggling please send me a direct message on here or visit my website at www.pendulumofpeace.com

02/12/2025

You know you havent woken up fully when you go to Lidl looking to buy Kevin the carrot & his bride. Hence I didn't get the new couple 🙃 🙂 🙄 one of those mornings ..... lol

02/12/2025

TODAY'S AFFIRMATIONS - I listen and believe in myself ......

02/12/2025

We often listen to our negative chatter and believe what it says. BUT what it says is what its heard and has repeated many many times. Don't believe it, listen to that still quiet voice within that has pushed you forwards at times, the voice of resilience, the determined voice and the voice of love. Lert this voice shine in your light, allow this voice to be heard and listen ...that's all you need do!

01/12/2025

SELF-CARE - As the Christmas preperation month begins don't forget to take care of yourself too otherwise when the actual day arrives you'll be to exhausted to enjoy it. I know i was like that when my boys were small.

If you are struggling, counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk, about what you're missing, identify what you need. A place to make sense of what's happened/happening for you right now . If you are struggling please send me a direct message on here or visit my website for more information about me and how I work at www.pendulumofpeace.com

30/11/2025

SUNDAY'S MUSICAL MUSINGS - As we make the ascend to Christmas festivities don't forget to take a few pauses throughout your day and breathe, relax, breathe. Let yourself imagine a peaceful oasis within all the madness!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZYbU82GVz4&list=RD1ZYbU82GVz4&start_radio=1

Relaxing sleep music for deep sleeping and stress relief. Fall asleep to beautiful nature videos and use the relaxing music ("Flying" by Peder B. Helland) as...

29/11/2025

Yes this indeed, keeping hold of your boundaries can be difficult but not impossible with practice.

Shared from colleague over at Dragonfly Counselling Service

29/11/2025

SATURDAY SUPERVISION - As we all know Christmas is on the horizon and we may already be indulging in the Christmas 'spirit'.

Alcohol flows freely and we go out to parties, gathering and see family and friends, where we give ourselves the 'excuse' well it is Christmas after all.

Many of us overindulge because the affects of alcohol creep up on us and we don't often realise just how many glasses we have downed. Or if like me I don't drink much during the year so the affects can happen quickly after a couple of drinks ....

I know light weight right! We tell each other these things and sometimes to fit in and belong we go with the group we overrule our instincts and carry on drinking.

To our detriment and others sometimes. Staying strong within our mindset when faced with a group of friends or colleagues can be difficult. It makes sense though to only consume what is comfortable for you, because the next few days after we've indulged can be spent nursing a hangover and losing the day or even days. Which can cause further problems if you aren't there for the Children or that one gathering that was important to other family members.

Alcohol can be a source of pleasure or pain and its healthy to stay in the healthy zone.

My blog offers some tips to stay healthy around alcohol so you have a very merry Christmas and New Year.

The takeaway is - enjoy alcohol stay safe.

If you have a problem with binge drinking or are a family member who's alcohol consumption has negative affects on you.

Counselling with a knowledgeable practitioner can make all the difference to your recovery and well-being. If you are struggling, counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk, about what you're missing, identify what you need. A place to make sense of what's happened/happening for you right now . If you are struggling please send me a direct message on here or visit my website for more information about me and how I work at www.pendulumofpeace.com

Together we can.

Alcohol can be both a pleasure and pain if we consume to much that our body rebels against the intake i.e., we feel sick, we slur our words or we pass out, not a good look. One or two glasses of beer or wine can help us relax after a stressful day or at a party, gathering of friends and family.To ma...

28/11/2025

Something for your smile. Spot the cat 😻

27/11/2025

Yes indeed.....