16/01/2026
Who else is aware of their self-sabotage?
Yesterday I was given an opportunity to be part of something creative. I was thrilled - then moments later, anxiety struck. A surge of what ifs came over me. The loudest one: “What if I blow this opportunity?”
I find this question paralysing; it fuels the negative monkey that sits on my shoulders. 🙉
I took Alexander Technique classes for several years, and in moments like this, if I check my posture my shoulders are nearly up to my ears! Letting go of that tension and feeling my shoulders fall can completely shift my perspective — one of those phewww moments 😮💨
I love the metaphor of the monkey on your shoulders because it’s so visual and relatable - you can almost feel its weight and chatter.
For me, the way to work with these negative thought patterns is to go into the body.
Physical practices like the Alexander Technique, alongside talking therapies such as CBT and ACT, can be powerful supports for self-sabotage tendencies. We do have the ability to reconnect with our bodies.
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