13/04/2025
Healing Begins Within: Stop Pouring from an Empty Cup
Not all help is helpful.
The mistake is trying to help those who refuse to help themselves. The helpless are not without options—they are without will. They are trapped, not by circumstance, but by mindset. "Poor me" is what they think, and "poor me" is what life delivers.
The law of attraction is unyielding. A mindset of lack attracts a reality of lack. A victim mentality creates a victim’s world. And no amount of saving can rescue someone who refuses to stand.
But here’s the real danger: We don’t just attract what we desire—we attract what we are.
If we find ourselves constantly drawn to broken people, it is not because they need saving—it is because something inside us is still unhealed. It is because fixing others has become a way to avoid fixing ourselves.
But healing doesn’t work that way.
We cannot pour from an empty cup. We cannot repair ourselves by repairing others. We cannot give what we do not have. When we try to save the helpless, we only drain our own energy, reinforcing a cycle of burnout and self-neglect.
The ones who need help the most are not the ones crying for it. The ones who need help the most are the helpers—the ones who carry the weight of others, who give endlessly, who never ask for anything in return. The ones on the verge of collapse, stretched thin, depleted, exhausted from trying to hold everyone else together while silently falling apart.
Help the helpers. Support the supporters.
And most of all—heal yourself first.
Because when we are whole, we no longer seek brokenness. When our cup is full, we can give without harming ourselves. When we have healed, we no longer attract what needs fixing.
Let the victims be victims. You have your own battles to fight.