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13/11/2025

Most women who identify as “the strong one” don’t realise that this role started as a survival strategy, not a personality trait.

Maybe you learned to read the room before you could read a book.
Maybe you stepped into responsibility far too young.
Maybe you became self-sufficient because there wasn’t space for your needs.

Over time, that role becomes familiar and even comfortable.
But it’s also VERY exhausting.

Because even the strong one gets overwhelmed.
Even the strong one feels lonely.
Even the strong one needs rest, care, softness, and support.

You don’t have to give up your strength.
You just don’t have to carry everything alone all the time.

Julie x

12/11/2025

Most people think self-abandonment is obvious.
It isn’t.

It hides inside small moments,
the smile you put on,
the way you soften
your voice,
the decisions you make to keep things smooth, the needs you tuck quietly away.

You don’t do this because you’re weak.
You do it because, at some point,
it felt safer to be what others needed
than to be fully yourself.

And over time, those tiny moments of disconnect add up to a quiet sense of emptiness, exhaustion, and feeling like you don’t quite know yourself anymore.

Just so you know…….

✨ Self-abandonment was a clever survival skill.
✨ It makes sense that you used it.
✨ And you’re allowed to choose differently now.
✨ Slowly. Gently. Without shame.

If this is something you are curious about exploring, DM me or contact me via my website, happy to book a call in with you for a chat, no pressure ❤️

Julie x

10/11/2025

Sometimes the hardest place to return to… is yourself.

Especially if you’ve spent years (or decades) taking care of other people first.
If being “the strong one” became second nature.
If you learned early on that peace came from keeping yourself small.

Self-abandonment often starts quietly:

• saying “it’s fine” when it’s not
• minimising your feelings
• over-explaining
• taking responsibility for everyone else’s comfort
• apologising for having needs
• distracting, numbing, or coping instead of checking in with yourself

So when you begin the work of coming home, of meeting yourself with gentleness instead of criticism…..
it can feel strange, even disorienting.

But this isn’t failure.
It’s healing.

You are not late.
You are not behind.
You are not “too much” or “not enough.”
You are simply learning what safety, worth, and self-compassion truly feel like.

Be kind to yourself today.
Julie x

09/11/2025

700 of you.
Wow. That means a lot. 💛💛
It’s not about the number, it’s about the community!

Thank you for being here, reading, reflecting, quietly nodding along, or saving things for when you need them most.
This community is growing in the gentlest, most meaningful way, and I’m genuinely grateful.

Here’s to more honest conversations, more self-worth wins, and more people realising they’re not alone. 🤍

07/11/2025

People-pleasing and food struggles are deeply connected, far more than most people realise.

When you’ve spent years being the “easy one,” the “reliable one,” the one who doesn’t take up space, it becomes second nature to silence your own needs.

And your relationship with food often becomes the place those needs go:

✨ the hunger you ignore
✨ the comfort you don’t ask for
✨ the emotions you swallow
✨ the boundaries you avoid setting
✨ the urges that only emerge once everyone else is settled

This is by no means a weakness in you, it’s a lifetime of conditioning.
And for many people, the binge–restrict cycle is tied to the simple fact that they have nowhere else their needs are allowed to exist.

As you learn to honour your needs, express them, protect them, and value them…
your relationship with food shifts too.

It’s not about becoming “less nice.”
It’s about becoming less self-abandoning.

Your needs matter just as much as anyone else’s. ❤️

06/11/2025

So many people think their struggle with food is about a lack of control…
but so often, it’s really about emotional suppression.

If you grew up in an environment where emotions weren’t welcomed, weren’t modelled, or were met with criticism or discomfort, it makes sense that you learned to push them down.
And when feelings don’t feel safe inside your body, food becomes one of the quickest ways to soothe, numb, distract, or cope.

This isn’t self-sabotage, it’s actually self-protection.
Your system found ways to help you survive what you weren’t supported to feel. Makes sense ❤️

Over time, this becomes a pattern that feels automatic, confusing, and loaded with shame.
But when we gently create space for the emotions underneath, stress, sadness, anger, loneliness, fear, the intensity of the food struggle starts to loosen.

Learning to feel again, or maybe allowing it for the first time is a brave and beautiful part of healing.

Contact me if you are curious about how I can support you. DM me or use the contact form in my bio. ❤️ I’m here when you’re ready.

04/11/2025

So many people live in an ongoing battle with food, sometimes quietly, sometimes desperately, for years, even decades.
Not because they’re weak.
Not because they “lack willpower.”
But because food becomes tangled up with emotion, identity, and self-worth.

It’s rarely about food.
It’s about everything that sits beneath it:
✨ the need to soothe or feel safe
✨ the rules learned in childhood about being “good”
✨ the pressure to shrink or please
✨ the fear of judgment or loss of control

When those deeper wounds go unseen or unhealed, food becomes both the comfort and the punishment.
And it’s why recovery takes time, because healing isn’t just about changing what or how you eat, it’s about relearning how to care for yourself.

If this resonates, know that you’re not alone. So many people reach for help only after years of trying to fix it by themselves. But it doesn’t have to take that long. With the right support, understanding, and gentle consistency, things really can change.

Healing your relationship with food is possible ….even after decades.

03/11/2025

Sometimes we think healing means constant forward motion.
But it’s more like a spiral, we circle back, pause, reflect, rest, and re-emerge with new insight.
Be gentle with the part of you that thinks you’ve lost ground. You’re still on the path….just catching your breath.

And here’s the thing: you never lose all that lovely progress you’ve made.
Every pause still holds everything you’ve already learned, all the awareness and self-compassion you’ve been building.
Even when it feels like you’ve “gone backwards,” your nervous system remembers safety a little faster, your self-talk softens a little sooner, your capacity for care grows a little stronger.

Healing is made of these tiny returns, the moments you notice you’ve drifted, and choose to come home to yourself again.
That noticing is progress.

27/10/2025

Body checking, the weighing, grabbing, mirror scanning, measuring,
often looks like control.
But underneath, it’s anxiety management.

It’s that fleeting sense of “if I can just know where I’m at, maybe I can relax.”
Only… the relief never lasts.
The number changes.
The mirror shifts.
And the need to check returns.

When you catch yourself checking, try pausing, not to shame yourself, but to get curious.

💭 What emotion might I be trying to calm?
💭 What feels uncertain or out of control right now?
💭 What would safety look like if it wasn’t about my body?

Control can feel like peace, but it rarely brings the calm we hope for.

You don’t need to fight the part of you that checks.
You can understand it.
You can teach it that safety isn’t found in the mirror
it’s built gently, from within.

If this feels tender, know you’re not alone.
Take what you need from this and leave the rest.

Save this for when the urge to check feels strong.
And if you’d like to explore your relationship with your body in therapy, you can book a free introductory, email me info@juliemccloreycounselling.com, DM me, or use the link in my bio.

25/10/2025

Your worth was never meant to be measured in output.
You don’t have to earn rest, you just need it.

Rest isn’t only lying still on the sofa (though it absolutely can be).
It might be chatting with a friend who feels safe.
A quiet cuppa with no phone nearby.
A walk where you notice the world instead of rushing through it.
Listening to music that softens your shoulders.
Or just doing nothing, and letting that be enough.

Here’s your gentle reminder to pause, breathe, and take what you need this weekend.
Rest is not a weakness; it’s how we heal, recharge, and return to ourselves.

💾 Save this for when you forget you’re allowed to rest.

22/10/2025

You don’t have to love your body to make peace with it.
You don’t have to feel confident to feed it, rest it, or dress it kindly.

There’s a quieter way forward, one that begins with neutrality, not perfection.

My new blog Beyond Body Love: Finding Peace in Neutrality explores this gentle shift and how respect, compassion, and consistency can build a softer relationship with your body.

💛 It’s available now on my website (link in bio).

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Biz Space, Aerodrome Studios, 2-8 Airfield Way, Christchurch
Dorset
BH23

Opening Hours

Monday	9am - 7pm
Tuesday	10:30am - 7pm
Thursday	10:30am - 7pm
Friday	9am - 4pm

Website

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