20/02/2026
Iâm going to say something that might annoy a few people in this industry.
If something feels off - it probably is.
Your baby refusing the breast?
âJust top up.â
Youâre in pain?
âItâll toughen up.â
Your gut says something isnât right?
âGive it time.â
No.
Blindly following advice that goes against your instincts is not empowerment. Itâs outsourcing your intuition.
And hereâs the uncomfortable part:
Some of you know something isnât sitting rightâŚ
but you stay quiet because you donât want to be âdifficult.â
You ignore the red flags. You override your gut. You tell yourself the professional must know better.
Sometimes they do. But sometimes?
Theyâre rushed. Undertrained. Have a bad day, or working from outdated protocols.
All human.
And hereâs what Iâve learned the hard way:
⨠Not all advice is evidence-based.
⨠Not all support is trauma-informed.
⨠And not every ânormalâ struggle is actually normal.
If feeding feels wrongâŚ
If your baby seems unsettled beyond what makes senseâŚ
If advice makes you feel small instead of supportedâŚ
Pause.
You are allowed to question.
You are allowed to ask for more.
You are allowed to say, âThis doesnât feel right.â
Controversial opinion?
The biggest mistake I see mums make isnât âdoing it wrong.â
Itâs doubting themselves faster than they doubt the advice.
Trust yourself. Then find support that respects that.