Separation and Attachment Anxiety Therapy Edgbaston Birmingham

Separation and Attachment Anxiety Therapy Edgbaston Birmingham Resolving both individuals and couples separation and attachment issues. Separation anxiety is a normal stage in an infant's development.

Releasing negative thoughts and emotions which ultimately create unhelpful fears and behaviours .Enabling clients to take back control of abandonment issue with integrated therapy. Separation Anxiety
Separation anxiety is the fear or distress that can happen to both children and adults when they think about separating from home or from the people they've become attached to. Definition
Separation anxiety refers to excessive fear or anxiety about separation from home or an attachment figure. The diagnosis is now categorized as an anxiety disorder that can be present at all stages of life. It helped keep our ancestors alive and helps children learn how to master their environment. It usually ends at around age 2, when toddlers begin to understand that a parent may be out of sight right now but will return later. The key feature of separation anxiety disorder, however, is when the anxiety exceeds what might be expected give a person's developmental level. Children with separation anxiety disorder may cling to their parents excessively, refuse to go to sleep without being near a major attachment figure, be reluctant to attend camp or sleep at friends' homes, or require someone to be with them when they go to another room in their house. Children also commonly experience physical symptoms when separation is anticipated or occurs, such as headaches, nausea and vomiting. Adults with this disorder may be uncomfortable when traveling independently, experience nightmares about separating from attachment figures, or be overly concerned with their offspring or spouse and continuously check on their whereabouts. When separation does happen, children may seem withdrawn, sad, or have difficulty concentrating on work or play. Depending on the age of the person, they may have a fear of animals, monsters, the dark, burglars, kidnappers, plane travel, or other situations that are perceived as dangerous. Some people become severely homesick when separated from attachment figures, regardless of their age. The experience of separation anxiety disorder is often frustrating for family members and can lead to resentment and conflict in the family. Separation anxiety disorder is the most prevalent anxiety disorder in children. This condition is equally common for males and females. Attachment Anxiety
One of the challenges of being human is to achieve a balance between conflicting desires for independence (individuality and freedom) and the desire for intimacy and acceptance by significant others. The need for affiliation is rooted in our attachment system. Attachment is an inborn system that motivates an infant to seek proximity to a caregiver, especially in dangerous and uncertain situations. The attachment system plays an important role in emotion regulation allowing individuals to deal with distressing events. When individuals (infants, children, or adults) are threatened or challenged, the attachment system becomes activated and triggers efforts to alleviate distress and restore felt-security. In response, the attachment figure provides comfort and reassurance, thereby allowing distressed individuals to regain a sense of calm. A sense of felt security provides confidence that one is worthy of others’ love and that significant others will be responsive/supportive when needed. This sense of security is a resilience resource in times of need and a building block of mental health and social adjustment. Secure people perceive themselves as valuable, lovable, and special. They feel understood, validated/accepted by their attachment figures. Repeated interactions with the attachment figures are mentally formed as “if-then” strategies for stress management: “If I turn to my partner, then I will feel safe.” As a result of conditioning, the person providing the comfort becomes a cue for a sense of safety/relief. That is, simply thinking about the attachment figure, even in the absence of the attachment figure’s actual presence, one feels calm and safe. But when a person’s attachment figures are unreliable or rejecting, the person may become chronically insecure with respect to close relationships. An insecurely attached individual doubts the availability and support of others and worries about one’s social value. Consequently, they adopt different strategies for dealing with threats and negative emotions. These insecure styles (patterns) of behaviours are known as defensive avoidance and anxious attachment. Avoidant style involves denying attachment needs, suppressing attachment-related thoughts and emotions. An avoidant person distrusts relationship partners’ goodwill and tries to maintain emotional independence and distance. The avoidant individuals feel trapped when they are too close to others. In contrast, a person high in attachment anxiety worries that a partner will not be available in times of need. An anxious person makes insistent attempts to obtain reassurance and love from others, partly because of the person’s self-doubts about his or her worthiness. Anxiously attached people are preoccupied with rejection fears. These fears may motivate them to use s*x, which is a prominent route for seeking proximity, to serve their unmet attachment needs (e.g., achieving intimacy, approval, and reassurance). Early attachment interactions are thought to shape people’s attachment patterns later on in adult life. For example, a secure adult has a similar relationship with their romantic partner, feeling secure and connected, while allowing themselves and their partner to move freely. On the other hand, a loss of a romantic partner such as divorce may trigger depression among people high on attachment anxiety, because their anxiety relates specifically to separation and abandonment. Those who suffer from panic attacks often have a history of childhood separation anxiety. The sudden arousal of the social separation can lead to panic attacks. The panic attacks and separation anxiety make one feel as if the center of one’s comfort or stability has been abruptly removed. Fortunately, research shows that a person’s attachment system, along with his or her sense of security, can be changed for the better. For example, a relationship partner who acts as a reliable security figure can restore a sense of felt-security and help the person function more securely. Effective treatment via reflective awareness and cognitive re-appraisal can facilitate neuroplasticity changes in the patient’s non-conscious mind and increase capacity for secure attachments. With Clinical Hypnotherapy, I will help you to break down the walls of this self-created prison – with rapid results. You will achieve all that you desire, no more living in the shadows of life. You’ll release your mental block, laugh more often and become the person you knew you could always be. You will grow greater self–confidence, create opportunities, express yourself, realize your ambitions, goals and dreams… become the person you always knew you could be. Become the Person You Always Knew You Could Be. Call Stuart: 07825 599340
stuart@hypnotherapy4freedom.com
www.hypnotherapy4freedom.com

01/11/2025

You Can Turn a Housewife Into a Hoe—But You Can’t Make a Hoe Into a Housewife

Let’s stop pretending.

Men and women don’t fall in love the same way anymore.

Modern men want peace.
Modern women want excitement.

And that’s the problem—
Because excitement doesn’t build families.
It burns them.

Let’s break it down.



1. You Can Teach a Housewife the World—But You Can’t Teach the World to a Hoe

A virtuous woman can learn adventure.
She can learn style, presence, even seduction.

But a woman who lives for validation?
She’ll never learn loyalty.

Because she doesn’t love you—
she loves the attention you represent.

She doesn’t crave connection—
she craves an audience.

And when the crowd stops cheering,
she’ll move on to the next man who claps louder.



2. A Hoe Can Act Like a Wife—But She’ll Never Think Like One

She can cook your meals.
Sleep in your sheets.
Wear your last name.

But she’ll never rest.

She’s addicted to every like on her post,
compare you to every man she meets,
and post half-naked pictures for “confidence.”

She’ll say it’s empowerment.
But it’s insecurity in disguise.

Because a woman who’s used to being wanted
doesn’t know how to be loved.



3. Most Men Want Peace—But Keep Choosing Chaos

You say you want a wife—
but your DM history says otherwise.

You chase curves instead of character.
You call lust “chemistry.”
You call rebellion “confidence.”

Then when she cheats,
you call all women evil.

Brother, she wasn’t evil.
She was just obvious—
and you ignored the signs because she was fun.

Excitement blinds men faster than love does.



4. The Woman Who Needs the World’s Attention Will Never Give You Hers

You think you can make her choose you.
You can’t.

Because the world gives her dopamine you can’t compete with.
Likes. Comments. Invitations. Validation.

You’ll spend your life trying to be enough
for someone who’s never satisfied.

She doesn’t want to be loved—
she wants to be adored.

And the moment you stop feeding her ego,
she’ll accuse you of being “controlling.”



5. A Bad Girl Makes You Feel Alive—Until She Makes You Regret Living

At first, it’s passion.
Fire. S*x. Adventure.

Then one day,
you wake up and realize you’re living in survival mode.

You’re arguing every night.
You’re questioning every text.
You’re defending yourself in public.

And by the time you escape,
you’re not the same man anymore.

She took your peace,
your focus,
and your ability to trust again.

That’s the cost of chasing chaos.



6. A Good Woman Is Never Boring—You’re Just Addicted to Drama

You call her peaceful nature “predictable.”
You call her loyalty “clingy.”
You call her stability “routine.”

But one day, you’ll realize—
stability was the real luxury all along.

Because a peaceful woman
lets you build.

A dramatic woman
makes you rebuild—every week.

Choose wisely.



Final Word: You Can’t Heal in the Same Fire That Burned You

You can turn a housewife into a hoe—
because purity can be corrupted.

But you can’t make a hoe into a housewife—
because corruption never stays loyal.

Don’t confuse excitement with intimacy.
Don’t mistake lust for love.

The world will tempt you with fireworks.
But fireworks don’t last—
they explode, they fade, they leave smoke.

A real woman?
She’s not a show.
She’s a shelter.

So stop chasing women who light up the room.
Start choosing the one who can light up your life.

Because when the thrill is gone,
you’ll wish you had peace instead of passion.

— © Elonaires | Magnus Media

Insomnia, Sleep Issues , Misophonia Client referral posted today ," Great, and effective hypnotherapist. Stuarts techniq...
15/10/2025

Insomnia, Sleep Issues , Misophonia
Client referral posted today ,
" Great, and effective hypnotherapist. Stuarts techniques really work and will change you're life for the better.
Hi my name is Neil. I came across Stuart Downing when I found myself seeking out hypnotherapy to treat problems I was having with my sleep due to living next door to previous neighbours who were very noisy and whom had kept me awake. Thankfully, after a couple of months, the neighbours had moved on, but unfortunately as a result, I developed an anxiety about getting to sleep, which in turn lead to me developing an insomnia which was caused by the anxiety. I had also developed Misophonia as a result, and had become hypersensitive to certain noises, such as any bangs or thuds. Even though the neighbours had left, my anxiety still persisted, which only caused me even more anxiety as I couldnt understand why I just couldnt relax as I knew the neighbours were no longer there. It got too the point where the anxiety around my sleep was so bad, that it really started to have a profound effect on my life. I felt I couldnt enjoy life anymore, I just wasnt happy. I had felt like I had lost the ability to relax, as a result it really started to effect my relationships with my family as I just wasnt me anymore, so to speak. Thats when I knew I had to do something as I felt it was destroying my life. I researched hypnotherapy. I was curious as to how it worked, and researched whether or not it would be beneficial for the issues that I was going through. I sought out a few hypnotherapists, thats when I came across Stuart Downing. I did my research on him, and discovered that he could treat issues around sleep/anxiety. I read his reviews, which were all positive. I booked a consultation with Stuart, who was very friendly and reassuring and explained how hypnotherapy worked and the methods he was going to deploy in helping to heal me. In the consultation, Stuart told me that I would only require three to four sessions at the most, which I was surprised about to be honest, as I felt so afflicted by my issues. What can I say? Well, after just one session, I already noticed a vast improvement in my sleep quality. I was sleeping longer and deeper, and waking up totally refreshed. Over the last few weeks of the sessions , my sleep and anxiety has just got better and better. I feel much less anxious, and lot more relaxed, like a weight has been lifted. I am so glad that I decided to invest in the sessions with Stuart, and would recommend it to anyone who is considering hypnotherapy. Stuart helped me learn that a lot of fear is irrational and totally unnessacary, and that I can rationalise with myself that I do not need to feel that fear. I have also learnt extremely effective relaxation techniques, which have really helped me. I f I ever experience any difficulties in the future, I will be sure to utilise these techniques. So, if you have any issue that is effecting you to the point where it is having a profound effect on you're life, then I would highly recommend that you book yourself a consultation with Stuart Downing, it can and will change you're life!
Neil 14/10/25

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14/02/2025

In the end, I chose to build a wall, around my once fragile heart. Not to forget, but to protect the remains of myself that are still intact.

Stone by stone, I piled up the wounds and lessons. Every crack in the wall is a story that I no longer want to hold.

However, if one day there is a patient hand that knocks without breaking, maybe this wall will slowly collapse. And I will learn to open my heart once again, without fear of being hurt.

♥️💐♥️

14/02/2025
The Final Separation between partners after a long relationship is difficult, not just emotionally but also physiologica...
12/02/2025

The Final Separation between partners after a long relationship is difficult, not just emotionally but also physiologically.

Throughout the relationship, even one with problems, both individuals activate neural networks that produce chemical neurotransmitters and peptides, giving their experiences a certain emotional tone and reinforcing their personalities.

The two become so accustomed to the relationship that, even when they decide to end it, they cannot immediately destroy the neural connections and chemical attachments between them.

After the breakup, memories of their experiences remind the body that it is now deprived of its usual chemical stimulation.

The pain of ending a relationship can be caused by the interruption of a neurological habit.

Considering the chemistry of emotional dependence, it’s no surprise that so many couples break up, reunite, and then repeat the cycle.

We may separate from others, but we remain chemically dependent on the emotional states generated by the relationship, at least for a period of time.

When we feel a certain attraction toward a partner, we are convinced that they are the right one for us.

However, most of the time, the person we are drawn to reflects the unresolved emotional wounds we carry.

Often, when we feel a strong attraction to someone, it’s not just hormones at play- we are intuitively drawn to partners because we subconsciously believe they will help us resolve our emotional issues, even ones we are unaware of.

The more abandoned we feel, the more we are attracted to people who tend to abandon those who care about them.

Insomnia and Sleep Issues Lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling, feeling wired but exhausted? If that sounds fami...
10/02/2025

Insomnia and Sleep Issues
Lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling, feeling wired but exhausted?
If that sounds familiar , there’s a good chance your cortisol levels are out of control.
And here’s the deal: high cortisol is more than just a bad night’s sleep—it’s a serious roadblock to your health, energy, and your ability to hit the flow state.
Cortisol is your body’s built-in alarm system.
It’s meant to help you handle stress, but when it sticks around too long—especially at night—it can wreak havoc on your sleep.
Studies show that elevated evening cortisol is one of the biggest culprits behind tossing and turning, disrupted sleep cycles, and that feeling of being “tired but wired”.
When your cortisol levels are too high in the evening, your body stays in a state of alertness, making it nearly impossible to relax and fall asleep.
And poor sleep doesn’t just affect your mood—it drags down your entire health, energy, and performance.
The Cost of High Cortisol:
1. Disrupted Sleep
High cortisol messes with your body’s natural circadian rhythm, making it harder to fall asleep and stay asleep. You wake up feeling drained, no matter how long you’ve been in bed.
2. Increased Stress and Anxiety
Cortisol is linked to heightened stress responses. If your cortisol stays high, your body is constantly in “fight-or-flight” mode, which leads to more stress, anxiety, and mental fog during the day.
3. Blocked Flow State
Cortisol doesn’t just affect your sleep—it blocks your ability to enter the flow state. The flow state is where you’re fully focused and performing at your best, but high cortisol keeps your brain stuck in overdrive, making it impossible to focus deeply or think creatively.
Now, imagine what happens when you cut evening cortisol by 25%.
You’re not just lowering your stress—you’re giving your body the green light to relax, sleep deeply, and wake up energized.
Lowering cortisol improves your sleep quality, reduces anxiety, and opens the door for you to finally access the flow state.
When cortisol comes down:
1. Deep, Restorative Sleep
Lower cortisol allows your body to enter its natural rest-and-recover mode, improving sleep quality and helping you wake up refreshed and ready to take on the day.
2. Reduced Anxiety, More Clarity
When your cortisol levels are balanced, you’ll notice less anxiety, better mental clarity, and an increased sense of calm. This sets you up for a more productive, focused day.
3. More Consistent Flow State
With cortisol in check, your mind and body can work together, making it easier to slip into the flow state—where creativity, focus, and high performance come effortlessly.
You don’t have to spend another night staring at the ceiling, trapped in a cycle of poor sleep and high stress.
Lowering your evening cortisol naturally is possible, and it’s the key to better sleep, more energy, and consistent access to the flow state.
Call Stuart - 07825 599340 to discuss your insomnia issue in more detail
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25/01/2025

Separation Anxiety
Separation anxiety is the fear or distress that can happen to both children and adults when they think about separating from home or from the people they've become attached to.
Definition
Separation anxiety refers to excessive fear or anxiety about separation from home or an attachment figure. The diagnosis is now categorized as an anxiety disorder that can be present at all stages of life.
Separation anxiety is a normal stage in an infant's development. It helped keep our ancestors alive and helps children learn how to master their environment. It usually ends at around age 2, when toddlers begin to understand that a parent may be out of sight right now but will return later. The key feature of separation anxiety disorder, however, is when the anxiety exceeds what might be expected give a person's developmental level.
Children with separation anxiety disorder may cling to their parents excessively, refuse to go to sleep without being near a major attachment figure, be reluctant to attend camp or sleep at friends' homes, or require someone to be with them when they go to another room in their house. Children also commonly experience physical symptoms when separation is anticipated or occurs, such as headaches, nausea and vomiting. Adults with this disorder may be uncomfortable when traveling independently, experience nightmares about separating from attachment figures, or be overly concerned with their offspring or spouse and continuously check on their whereabouts.
When separation does happen, children may seem withdrawn, sad, or have difficulty concentrating on work or play. Depending on the age of the person, they may have a fear of animals, monsters, the dark, burglars, kidnappers, plane travel, or other situations that are perceived as dangerous. Some people become severely homesick when separated from attachment figures, regardless of their age. The experience of separation anxiety disorder is often frustrating for family members and can lead to resentment and conflict in the family.
Separation anxiety disorder is the most prevalent anxiety disorder in children. This condition is equally common for males and females.
Attachment Anxiety
One of the challenges of being human is to achieve a balance between conflicting desires for independence (individuality and freedom) and the desire for intimacy and acceptance by significant others. The need for affiliation is rooted in our attachment system. Attachment is an inborn system that motivates an infant to seek proximity to a caregiver, especially in dangerous and uncertain situations.
The attachment system plays an important role in emotion regulation allowing individuals to deal with distressing events. When individuals (infants, children, or adults) are threatened or challenged, the attachment system becomes activated and triggers efforts to alleviate distress and restore felt-security. In response, the attachment figure provides comfort and reassurance, thereby allowing distressed individuals to regain a sense of calm.
A sense of felt security provides confidence that one is worthy of others’ love and that significant others will be responsive/supportive when needed. This sense of security is a resilience resource in times of need and a building block of mental health and social adjustment. Secure people perceive themselves as valuable, lovable, and special. They feel understood, validated/accepted by their attachment figures.
Repeated interactions with the attachment figures are mentally formed as “if-then” strategies for stress management: “If I turn to my partner, then I will feel safe.” As a result of conditioning, the person providing the comfort becomes a cue for a sense of safety/relief. That is, simply thinking about the attachment figure, even in the absence of the attachment figure’s actual presence, one feels calm and safe.
But when a person’s attachment figures are unreliable or rejecting, the person may become chronically insecure with respect to close relationships. An insecurely attached individual doubts the availability and support of others and worries about one’s social value. Consequently, they adopt different strategies for dealing with threats and negative emotions. These insecure styles (patterns) of behaviors are known as defensive avoidance and anxious attachment.
Avoidant style involves denying attachment needs, suppressing attachment-related thoughts and emotions. An avoidant person distrusts relationship partners’ goodwill and tries to maintain emotional independence and distance. The avoidant individuals feel trapped when they are too close to others.
In contrast, a person high in attachment anxiety worries that a partner will not be available in times of need. An anxious person makes insistent attempts to obtain reassurance and love from others, partly because of the person’s self-doubts about his or her worthiness. Anxiously attached people are preoccupied with rejection fears. These fears may motivate them to use s*x, which is a prominent route for seeking proximity, to serve their unmet attachment needs (e.g., achieving intimacy, approval, and reassurance).
Early attachment interactions are thought to shape people’s attachment patterns later on in adult life. For example, a secure adult has a similar relationship with their romantic partner, feeling secure and connected, while allowing themselves and their partner to move freely. On the other hand, a loss of a romantic partner such as divorce may trigger depression among people high on attachment anxiety, because their anxiety relates specifically to separation and abandonment. Those who suffer from panic attacks often have a history of childhood separation anxiety. The sudden arousal of the social separation can lead to panic attacks. The panic attacks and separation anxiety make one feel as if the center of one’s comfort or stability has been abruptly removed.
Fortunately, research shows that a person’s attachment system, along with his or her sense of security, can be changed for the better. For example, a relationship partner who acts as a reliable security figure can restore a sense of felt-security and help the person function more securely. Effective treatment via reflective awareness and cognitive re-appraisal can facilitate neuroplastic changes in the patient’s non-conscious mind and increase capacity for secure attachments.
With Clinical Hypnotherapy, I will help you to break down the walls of this self-created prison – with rapid results.
You will achieve all that you desire, no more living in the shadows of life.
You’ll release your mental block, laugh more often and become the person you knew you could always be.
You will grow greater self–confidence, create opportunities, express yourself, realize your ambitions, goals and dreams… become the person you always knew you could be.
Become the Person You Always Knew You Could Be.
Call Stuart: 07825 599340
stuart@hypnotherapy4freedom.com
www.hypnotherapy4freedom.com
https://www.stuartdowning.co.uk/client-reviews

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Separation Anxiety Separation anxiety is the fear or distress that can happen to both children and adults when they think about separating from home or from the people they've become attached to. Definition Separation anxiety refers to excessive fear or anxiety about separation from home or an attachment figure. The diagnosis is now categorized as an anxiety disorder that can be present at all stages of life. Separation anxiety is a normal stage in an infant's development. It helped keep our ancestors alive and helps children learn how to master their environment. It usually ends at around age 2, when toddlers begin to understand that a parent may be out of sight right now but will return later. The key feature of separation anxiety disorder, however, is when the anxiety exceeds what might be expected give a person's developmental level. Children with separation anxiety disorder may cling to their parents excessively, refuse to go to sleep without being near a major attachment figure, be reluctant to attend camp or sleep at friends' homes, or require someone to be with them when they go to another room in their house. Children also commonly experience physical symptoms when separation is anticipated or occurs, such as headaches, nausea and vomiting. Adults with this disorder may be uncomfortable when traveling independently, experience nightmares about separating from attachment figures, or be overly concerned with their offspring or spouse and continuously check on their whereabouts. When separation does happen, children may seem withdrawn, sad, or have difficulty concentrating on work or play. Depending on the age of the person, they may have a fear of animals, monsters, the dark, burglars, kidnappers, plane travel, or other situations that are perceived as dangerous. Some people become severely homesick when separated from attachment figures, regardless of their age. The experience of separation anxiety disorder is often frustrating for family members and can lead to resentment and conflict in the family. Separation anxiety disorder is the most prevalent anxiety disorder in children. This condition is equally common for males and females. Attachment Anxiety One of the challenges of being human is to achieve a balance between conflicting desires for independence (individuality and freedom) and the desire for intimacy and acceptance by significant others. The need for affiliation is rooted in our attachment system. Attachment is an inborn system that motivates an infant to seek proximity to a caregiver, especially in dangerous and uncertain situations. The attachment system plays an important role in emotion regulation allowing individuals to deal with distressing events. When individuals (infants, children, or adults) are threatened or challenged, the attachment system becomes activated and triggers efforts to alleviate distress and restore felt-security. In response, the attachment figure provides comfort and reassurance, thereby allowing distressed individuals to regain a sense of calm. A sense of felt security provides confidence that one is worthy of others’ love and that significant others will be responsive/supportive when needed. This sense of security is a resilience resource in times of need and a building block of mental health and social adjustment. Secure people perceive themselves as valuable, lovable, and special. They feel understood, validated/accepted by their attachment figures. Repeated interactions with the attachment figures are mentally formed as “if-then” strategies for stress management: “If I turn to my partner, then I will feel safe.” As a result of conditioning, the person providing the comfort becomes a cue for a sense of safety/relief. That is, simply thinking about the attachment figure, even in the absence of the attachment figure’s actual presence, one feels calm and safe. But when a person’s attachment figures are unreliable or rejecting, the person may become chronically insecure with respect to close relationships. An insecurely attached individual doubts the availability and support of others and worries about one’s social value. Consequently, they adopt different strategies for dealing with threats and negative emotions. These insecure styles (patterns) of behaviors are known as defensive avoidance and anxious attachment. Avoidant style involves denying attachment needs, suppressing attachment-related thoughts and emotions. An avoidant person distrusts relationship partners’ goodwill and tries to maintain emotional independence and distance. The avoidant individuals feel trapped when they are too close to others. In contrast, a person high in attachment anxiety worries that a partner will not be available in times of need. An anxious person makes insistent attempts to obtain reassurance and love from others, partly because of the person’s self-doubts about his or her worthiness. Anxiously attached people are preoccupied with rejection fears. These fears may motivate them to use s*x, which is a prominent route for seeking proximity, to serve their unmet attachment needs (e.g., achieving intimacy, approval, and reassurance). Early attachment interactions are thought to shape people’s attachment patterns later on in adult life. For example, a secure adult has a similar relationship with their romantic partner, feeling secure and connected, while allowing themselves and their partner to move freely. On the other hand, a loss of a romantic partner such as divorce may trigger depression among people high on attachment anxiety, because their anxiety relates specifically to separation and abandonment. Those who suffer from panic attacks often have a history of childhood separation anxiety. The sudden arousal of the social separation can lead to panic attacks. The panic attacks and separation anxiety make one feel as if the center of one’s comfort or stability has been abruptly removed. Fortunately, research shows that a person’s attachment system, along with his or her sense of security, can be changed for the better. For example, a relationship partner who acts as a reliable security figure can restore a sense of felt-security and help the person function more securely. Effective treatment via reflective awareness and cognitive re-appraisal can facilitate neuroplastic changes in the patient’s non-conscious mind and increase capacity for secure attachments. With Clinical Hypnotherapy, I will help you to break down the walls of this self-created prison – with rapid results. You will achieve all that you desire, no more living in the shadows of life. You’ll release your mental block, laugh more often and become the person you knew you could always be. You will grow greater self–confidence, create opportunities, express yourself, realize your ambitions, goals and dreams… become the person you always knew you could be. Become the Person You Always Knew You Could Be.

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