14/10/2020
Capacity - what is your capacity to manage life, motherhood, intense period of stress/situations including COVID?
Basically your capacity to manage life is a like a cup - there is only so much space within it. It's not infinite.
In the cup there normal life stress, motherhood stress, then additional stress you're having to manage (possibly difficult birth/previous life trauma/someone being very ill, moving house etc) and now Covid stress.
These all fluctuate up and down.
When you reach the limit of your capacity - you become overwhelmed, anxious, frazzled, burned out, exhausted, shouty and horrible mums/wives or else completely shut down to the world around us. These are all signs that you've reached the limit.
What drives you to continue to keep filling that cup?
What drives you to continue to push yourself beyond your capacity?
After having worked in this area for so long and my own experience - my belief is it’s fear - it’s what you’re scared of.
* You’re scared if you say no to people that you’ll upset them - they won’t like you and so it impacts your boundaries, how much you take on, how quick you are to reply messages etc
* You’re scared of the unknown so you spend all your time trying to best guess all the worst cases to protect yourself
* You’re scared you’re not as good as others so you spend all your time pushing yourself on to be as good as everyone else but rarely understanding that they’re all feeling the same you causing a viscous cycle of pressure
* You’re scared you don’t fit in and that’s going back to the dawn of time where we needed to be accepted by our tribe to stay safe so it feels very unsafe not fitting in
* You’re scared you're not the perfect wife, mother, housekeeper, colleague, daughter, sister and friend so you end up going to EXCEPTIONAL lengths to be perfect and then end up in a pit of failure, failing to realise how amazing you actually are
* You’re scared of judgment and what others think of you as it's hugely frightening and threatening
And so much more....
It shows up in so many ways
* Exceptional lengths to do everything
* Doing far too much of things you hate and don’t enjoy
* Unable to ask for help and support
* Barely recognising and meeting your needs
* Ridiculous expectations of yourself
* High standard for everyone else around you
* Feeling guilty for every making time or investing in yourself
* Leading you to feel exhausted, anxious and frazzled
Overcome the Overload
Right now, my membership, Overcome the Overload is open to new members. It has been open for most of this year but I’ve realised I support best when I work with a consistent community who consciously choose to do the work and as such this membership is closing to new members tomorrow night at 9pm.
This membership is one of my favourite parts of everything I do. I literally bound upstairs to the group sessions and I really love the community and running an amazing group.
This membership is 18 months old and it’s evolved in that time to what it is now.
Here’s what you currently get in the membership:
* Group EFT sessions twice each week
* Monthly group coaching
* Live masterclass every second week
* Community group of amazing mums - (we’re moving over to Telegram because I want us to get off facebook!)
* Regular guest interviews
* Monthly 15 min call with me
* Library of resources
It costs £30 which is a complete bargain for all you get.
This is a great time to join us as we move into winter, lack of light, Christmas, potential more stress related to the pandemic and more.
You can join here - http://triciamurray.co.uk/overcome-the-overload/
Much love, Tricia ###
