20/07/2025
Taking a backwards step
Not something that anyone wants to hear or do. But, sometimes, it can be the best cure.
I have been really struggling with Dory since our fall. She has always been big and expressive and very athletic, and so, when she spooks, we can be turning on a pinhead and back the way we’ve come before you’ve had time to whip out your swear word of choice. Since last August, these spooks have got worse, and more frequent – who knew raindrops on leaves were a thing – and, to be honest, I have been in tears multiple times. Put her in a school and she’s laser focused I can’t fault her, but out and about, it is like the world is out to kill her. PTSD? Probably, but adding in my paranoia of slipping again, and you’ve got the perfect storm.
So. At the end of my tether, I did the opposite of what my instincts told me; I dropped the reins. I kept focussed on talking tonher, loosening my hips and shoulders and keeping pelvis in neutral. We went round the block she knows and armed with a pocket of sweeties, we made it home with out any tears. The first time, she wasn’t perfect, but, when i had warnings of a spook, we just stopped and looked. When I felt her calm, she got a treat and off we went.
We have now done the same ride, the same way, 4 times. Deadly dull, and nothing to write home about, but do you know what? Today, her “surprise spooks” (killer pigeons) were still there, but not as turn tail and run as they were. We even managed to have a no contact swinging trot. A trailer went passed with rattling beer kegs and she stood and watched.
On top of the saner rides, I can feel her starting to enjoy being with me again, her back swings, her Stride lengthens and she drops her nose down. We arent waiting for the other to do something stupid
Taking what feels like a massive backward step was a real confidence blow at first, but, after just 4 rides, I feel like I’m on top of the world, this is the election I normally get when we come home in the ribbons. To summarise, listen to your horse, trust yourself. To quote a rather famous scientist, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting change”