24/01/2026
There’s a particular kind of loneliness that comes with being the “strong one”, the reliable one, the steady one. The one others turn to when life feels heavy.
People may see your strength, your calm, your capacity - but they don’t always see the weight you carry underneath. You might find yourself:
- holding space for everyone else
- being the emotional anchor in your relationships
- offering support long before you ask for any
- staying composed even when you’re struggling
- feeling guilty for needing help
- wondering who you can lean on
Strength becomes a role you play, not just a quality you have. And over time, it can feel like there’s no room for your own softness, your own needs, your own overwhelm.
But even strong people need support, even steady people need rest, even the most capable hearts need somewhere to fall apart safely. Being strong doesn’t mean being invulnerable and it doesn’t mean carrying everything alone. It doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to feel tired, hurt, or unsure.
Your strength is real - but so is your humanity.
Counselling offers a space where you don’t have to be the strong one. A space where you can lay things down, even for a moment. A space where your feelings matter just as much as the ones you hold for others.
See www.wishing-you-well.co.uk or https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/406729/sabrina-evans/ for more information.