21/01/2026
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Anger is real.
And it’s not something to be ashamed of.
For many of us, anger shows up when something inside hasn’t been seen, heard, or met yet.
A feeling that didn’t get space.
A boundary that wasn’t acknowledged.
A moment where something mattered — and there wasn’t safety to express it at the time.
Anger isn’t a failure of regulation.
It’s often a sign that the nervous system has been holding something for a while.
This is true for adults and children.
Children don’t yet have the language or capacity to name what they’re feeling — so it comes out as anger.
Adults may appear “calmer” on the outside, but the body still keeps score.
When we try to suppress or shut anger down, the unmet need underneath remains.
But when anger is met with curiosity and compassion, we can begin to ask:
What hasn’t been seen?
What hasn’t been heard?
What was needed in that moment?
Healing doesn’t mean getting rid of anger.
It means learning how to listen to it — safely.
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With love
Sarah xx