05/02/2026
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So much trauma healing gets stuck because we’re taught to work at the surface.
We try to calm the anxiety.
Manage the reactions.
Regulate the symptoms.
But underneath all of that are parts of us — younger versions that learned how to survive in environments where safety wasn’t consistent.
These parts shaped our nervous system.
At the time, they had no tools.
No capacity.
No choice.
Their only role was to survive.
So they adapted.
They suppressed their needs.
Stayed quiet.
Kept the peace.
Became responsible, “good”, or invisible — whatever was needed to stay safe.
And because these strategies worked, the nervous system kept them.
This work is often avoided because we don’t want to go back.
We’re scared of what we might unravel if we look at the past.
So we bypass it.
But those younger parts don’t disappear just because we stop looking at them.
They’re still alive in the nervous system.
And when you feel activated, reactive, anxious, or flooded, it’s often not adult you responding — it’s one of those parts sounding the alarm.
They’re reacting from a time when the threat was real.
Because the nervous system doesn’t work in time.
It works in pattern.
Through neuroception, your body is constantly asking:
Am I safe? Or is this familiar danger?
And it answers by drawing from its internal database — past experiences, adaptations, everything that had to be carried to survive.
This is why one powerful question is:
Does my environment match my reaction?
And so often, it doesn’t.
Not because you’re broken.
But because a younger part is responding to a perceived threat, not a present one.
Healing isn’t about forcing reactions away.
It’s about meeting the parts that learned to survive — with compassion and safety — so they no longer have to protect in the only way they know how.
When those parts feel seen, the alarm softens.
The body settles.
And the nervous system learns that now is different from then.
Love always,
Sarah x