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S Rae Counselling

I have been working and supporting others in a variety of roles, for over 20 years, to address their concerns, issues and fears.

My Practice is grounded in Person Centred Therapy with you the client at the centre of every session.

24/04/2026

If this week's posts have felt familiar —
the exhaustion, the pretending, the shrinking —
that recognition matters.

You do not have to keep going it alone.

I offer a free 30-minute consultation —
no pressure, no obligation.
Just a quiet conversation to see if counselling feels right for you.

You have spent a long time looking after everyone else.
This is permission to look after yourself.

📞 Call: 07895 843287
📧 Email: sraecounselling@gmail.com
🌐 Visit: sraecounselling.co.uk

Your wellbeing matters.

23/04/2026

You do not need to earn the right to have needs.

You do not need to minimise yourself to be loved.
You do not need to pre-apologise for taking up space.

If you have spent years shrinking to keep others comfortable —
that pattern did not appear from nowhere.
And it will not disappear from willpower alone.

Wanting to understand it is enough.
Feeling ready to look at it is enough.
Even just noticing it is a start.

22/04/2026

Most people who struggle with people-pleasing do not think of themselves as people-pleasers.

They think of themselves as:
• easy-going
• low maintenance
• "not one for conflict"

But underneath, they often feel:
• invisible in their own relationships
• angry in ways they cannot explain
• exhausted from giving so much and receiving so little
• terrified of disappointing anyone

People-pleasing does not look like being a pushover.
It looks like never quite saying what you mean.
Never quite asking for what you need.
Never quite showing up as yourself.

That is worth talking about.

21/04/2026

Saying yes when you mean no is not kindness.

It is self-abandonment in disguise.

And it builds resentment — slowly, quietly — until you do not recognise yourself.

20/04/2026

You said you were fine.

You meant it — at the time.

But fine has become your default.
Fine when someone upsets you.
Fine when you're exhausted.
Fine when you need something but don't want to be a burden.

The truth is, "fine" often means:
I have stopped checking in with myself.

That is not strength.
That is survival mode.

And you do not have to live there.

18/04/2026

If you've been reading this week and something has stayed with you —

that feeling is worth paying attention to.

Trauma work doesn't have to be intense or overwhelming.
It can be gentle, paced, and completely on your terms.

I offer a free 30-minute consultation — no pressure, no obligation.
Just a quiet conversation to see if working together feels right for you.

If you're ready, or even just curious, I'd love to hear from you.

📞 07895 843287
📧 sraecounselling@gmail.com
🌐 sraecounselling.co.uk

Your wellbeing matters.

17/04/2026

You don't need to have the words for it yet.

You don't need to have figured out what happened to you, or why it still affects you, or how to explain it to someone else.

Counselling isn't about having the right story.
It's about having somewhere safe to start finding it.

The only thing you need is a small amount of willingness to show up.

That's it.
That's the whole requirement.

16/04/2026

Most people don't come to counselling in crisis.

They come because they're exhausted from managing something quietly for years.

They come because the same patterns keep showing up in their relationships — and they can't figure out why.

They come because they're tired of flinching at things other people don't notice. Or shutting down when conversations get emotional. Or feeling guilty for having needs at all.

This is trauma work.

Not dramatic. Not complicated.
Just finally having a space where you don't have to manage yourself around someone else.

That space is what counselling is for.

15/04/2026

You didn't overreact.

You responded the only way you knew how to survive it.

That's not weakness.
That's what humans do.

14/04/2026

Some things happened to you that you were never meant to carry alone.

You didn't choose what happened.
You didn't choose how it shaped you.
But somewhere along the way, you started believing that what happened was your fault — or your flaw.

It wasn't.

Trauma doesn't always look like a dramatic breakdown.
Sometimes it looks like:
• not being able to trust people, even when you want to
• feeling on edge for reasons you can't explain
• going numb when things get too close
• working yourself into exhaustion just to feel okay

If any of that feels familiar — you are not broken.
You are carrying something real.

And carrying it alone makes it heavier.

12/04/2026

You’re Not Just Tired; Your Mind Hasn’t Stopped

And that kind of exhaustion builds quietly over time

This week has been about something many people experience…
but rarely talk about.

Not being able to switch off.

That constant mental noise.
The overthinking.
The replaying.
The feeling that your mind is always "on".

And how exhausting that becomes —
even when you’re physically doing less.

It’s easy to think:
“This is just how I am.”

But often, it isn’t.

It’s something your mind has learned to do —
to stay alert
to stay prepared
to stay in control

Because at some point…
that felt necessary.

The problem is,
it doesn’t always switch off when you need it to.

So even when you sit down to rest…
your mind keeps going.

And if something this week has resonated with you,ng:
drained
overwhelmed
mentally exhausted

This week wasn’t about fixing that overnight.

It was about noticing it.

Noticing when your mind speeds up
What triggers it
How often it happens

Because once you see the pattern —
you’re no longer completely inside it.

And if something in this week has resonated with you,
that matters.

Because you don’t have to carry that constant noise on your own.

Book Your FREE 30-Minute Consultation!
Take the first step towards better mental health with a free, no-obligation 30-minute consultation. We're here to listen and support you.

📞 Call: 07895 843287
📧 Email: sraecounselling@gmail.com
🌐 Visit: sraecounselling.co.uk

It doesn’t always switch off when you need it to.

11/04/2026

Start Noticing — Not Stopping

This is where things begin to change
This isn’t about forcing your mind to switch off.

That usually doesn’t work.

Instead, start noticing:
When your thoughts speed up
What triggers it
What time of day it happens

Because once you see the pattern…
you’re no longer completely inside it.

You’re starting to step back from it.

And that’s where change begins.

Address

Hope Street
Falkirk
FK15AU

Telephone

+447895843287

Website

http://www.sraecounselling.co.uk/

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