07/11/2025
"The working mum, the stay at home mum. The both are hard on your heart mum."
Jess Urlichs (Every Mum)
Today we had a wonderful Movers class back after a little break. I love this class, we often end up having lovely discussions between us and today's was no different.
Something that came up was the pull between going back to work, and not.
It's a topic that often comes up in this class, as those of you in it are starting to have conversations about what comes next.
There's often a pressure as a successful, achieving, working female. that when you become a mum you will have your baby, go back to work after mat leave - picking up where you left off, perhaps with some flexible working thrown in but fundamentally juggling everything you did before baby, again, but with baby in tow.
Now for some of us that is what we are craving. Finding our identity again, using our brains, getting back to something we love.
But for others of us, we get there, and it just doesn't feel the same as before. Something has shifted, that career you worked so hard for is suddenly not your focus.
For others it can be a bit of both and you just don't know which way to head.
Perhaps you feel you 'ought' to go back, because as a woman we should have it all as so many have fought for us to! Or perhaps you feel you 'ought' to reduce your hours, be at home because you have a baby and they need you. Perhaps you simply need the £s as so many of us do with the crazy rise in cost of living.
The fact is that all of it is hard. We are all different. And we all feel differently about all these things.
And THAT IS OK.
It is absolutely ok if you want to go back to work. Get fully back in that world again.
And IT IS OK if you don't.
It is also OK if you are somewhere in the middle.
Just know that it is ok to feel the way you do.
And you are not the only one.
Know you are seen and as someone that has had a massive career/life change since becoming a mum - you will figure it out in time. It might not be instant, there may be bumps along the way, but you'll work it out.
Because us mums always do 🩷
📷 Me and my eldest a week after teaching my first yoga class!
