EOS Counselling and Psychotherapy

05/11/2025

Anxiety isn’t one single condition — it’s an umbrella for different internal alarm systems.
To understand yours, it helps to know what kind of anxiety you’re dealing with:

🔹 Situational anxiety – the kind we all experience before an exam, a meeting, or a difficult conversation. It usually passes once the stressor does.

🔹 Generalised anxiety – when the nervous system stays on high alert even when life is calm. It often reflects early experiences of unpredictability or a constant need to stay “ready.”

🔹 Social anxiety – rooted in fear of rejection or humiliation. It can develop when early attachment experiences made us question our worth or belonging.

🔹 Obsessive-Compulsive Anxiety (OCD) – intrusive thoughts trigger compulsive rituals that temporarily relieve distress. It’s the brain’s attempt to regain control when it once felt helpless or unsafe.

🔹 Trauma-based anxiety – when the body replays unresolved threat. Betrayal, loss, or emotional neglect can all activate this. It’s not “overreacting” — it’s a survival memory.

Even relationship dynamics like jealousy or distrust can reignite old anxieties:
the ache of feeling unseen, the fear of abandonment, the need to control what feels uncertain.
This is why anxiety work isn’t just about breathing or thinking positively — it’s about understanding the story your body is trying to tell.
At Eos we have accredited, trauma-informed therapist that will help you map those roots:
how past experiences shaped your stress responses, and how to retrain your nervous system toward safety and calm.

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy in Farnham, Surrey offers personalized therapy for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. Book a FREE consultation today.

03/11/2025

Some love stories end.
Others get rewritten.
Both take courage.

03/11/2025

We’re delighted to welcome Chris Faulkner to the EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy team.

Chris is a Psychodynamic and Psychoanalytic Therapist (BUPA Registered) working exclusively online with adults. His work focuses on the deeper relational patterns and unconscious processes that shape our lives, offering a reflective and compassionate space for exploration and change.

Chris has particular experience in:
• The long-term impact of trauma and childhood experience
• Bereavement, loss, and end-of-life work
• Relationship and attachment difficulties
• Anxiety, depression, and self-esteem
• The effects of bullying, domestic abuse, and coercive control

Online sessions are available now.
📩 To find out more or book a consultation, message us directly or visit: https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

31/10/2025

Perfectionism doesn’t appear out of nowhere.
It’s something we learn — often as a way to stay safe, feel loved, or earn approval.
It can come from:
• Family and early conditioning when love felt conditional on achievement or behaviour.
• Faith and spiritual messaging when “being good” was confused with being flawless.
• Social and cultural influence comparison, social media, constant performance.
• Trauma and emotional safety when control became a shield against pain or rejection.

At its core, perfectionism is often a survival strategy — a way of managing fear, shame, and uncertainty.
But healing comes when we begin to replace performance with presence, and striving with self-acceptance.

If this resonates, therapy can help you explore where those patterns began — and how to loosen their hold.
At EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy, we help you untangle the roots so you can grow in self-trust, not self-criticism.

EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy in Farnham, Surrey offers personalized therapy for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. Book a FREE consultation today.

30/10/2025

Couples Counselling Therapy with Sheila Camino

As we grow as individuals so do our relationships especially our couples relationship. There maybe changes like marriage, children, loss of a parent, an illness, work stress, an old pattern that keeps resurfacing. Before we know it, we are struggling with the relationship we loved and cherished so much. There is now conflict, distancing, a feeling of a lack of connection. Things outside the relationship may start to look more attractive.

What did you learn about love in your childhood? What attachments are you making in your life as a result of this?

As a couples counsellor I help by offering a space that is non-judgemental where we can talk things through gently, with curiosity, on a journey of discovering what each party brings to the relationship. The relationship being like a joint project created by two people.
I will support your journey with communication that includes what is unspoken, in the conscious and unconscious, so that the two of you can give the relationship space to breathe and repair by looking with compassion at your feelings, patterns, habits, influences, family dynamics and emotional needs.
It is a case of one step at a time with a deeper understanding of oneself and the relationship.
To find out more or book a free consultation visit : https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/sheila-camino

27/10/2025

PMDD isn’t “just bad PMS.”
It’s hormonal chaos that can turn the calmest week into emotional freefall.
Tears, rage, anxiety, despair — all in a cycle you can’t control.

In a relationship, PMDD can feel like whiplash.
One week you feel close, connected, in love.
The next, you’re questioning everything — your partner, yourself, even the relationship.

It’s not weakness. It’s not drama.
It’s your body and brain reacting to extreme hormonal shifts — and it can be devastating if it’s misunderstood.

I’ve seen couples torn apart because neither partner realised what was really happening.
And I’ve seen couples grow stronger once they learned to spot the signs and respond with empathy instead of blame.

If this sounds familiar, please know — you’re not broken, and your relationship isn’t doomed.
You just need understanding, support, and sometimes medical help.

Getting help for PMDD isn’t just self-care.
It’s relationship care.

🩵 At EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy, we help couples understand how hormones, stress and emotional cycles can shape connection — and how to rebuild closeness through it.

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

27/10/2025

Couple & Relationship Therapy with Maria Casey

Relationships are where we experience our deepest connection and sometimes our deepest pain. I help couples move from disconnection and blame into clarity, calm and reconnection. My style is warm, down-to-earth and collaborative; I don’t just sit back, I guide you through evidence-based conversations that help you make sense of what’s really happening between you.

Drawing on Gottman principles, attachment theory and practical communication tools, I support partners to understand their patterns rather than replay old arguments. Together we uncover the “loop” you keep getting stuck in, rebuild trust, and create space for empathy, laughter and teamwork again.

Whether you’re repairing after conflict, adjusting to life changes, or feeling emotionally distant, I offer a steady, supportive space to pause, reflect and reconnect - one conversation at a time.

27/10/2025

Finding the Courage to Choose

When a relationship ruptures — through silence, distance, or betrayal — most couples say they’re confused.
But underneath the confusion sits fear and guilt.
Fear of losing what you’ve built.
Guilt for what’s been said, done, or neglected.
And the question that keeps looping: Can we ever get back what we lost?

In therapy, I see this every week.
The couple who can’t talk without fighting.
The ones who live like strangers under the same roof.
The ones reeling after an affair, caught between love and resentment.

Courage doesn’t mean the fear disappears.
It means you choose through it.
To rebuild. To repair. Or to be honest enough to let go.
That choice — not pretending, not avoiding — is where healing starts.

At EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy, we have four specially trained couples counsellors
who work with all kinds of ruptures — communication breakdowns, loss of connection, and the aftermath of affairs.

Sometimes healing happens together.
Sometimes it begins when you stop being afraid to face the truth.

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

23/10/2025

When your relationship starts to feel more like hard work than love — you don’t have to face it alone.

At EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy, we understand how painful it can feel when communication breaks down, trust is shaken, or every conversation ends in frustration. Many couples come to us feeling stuck — unsure how to move forward, but not ready to give up.

We’re a small, private practice with a team of four specialist couples counsellors. Each of us has undertaken extensive professional training in couples therapy and has years of experience helping couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and reconnect emotionally.

Book a free consultation

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/couples-therapy

20/10/2025

Do you fall into this? 💭

1️⃣ Push / Pull Dynamic – One of you keeps trying to talk and fix things,
while the other feels overwhelmed and shuts down.

2️⃣ Blame / Defence Loop – You try to explain how you feel,
but it turns into a fight about who’s right.

3️⃣ Silent Distance – You stop talking to keep the peace,
but the silence feels heavier than the arguments ever did.

If this sounds like you — you’re not broken.
You’re just stuck in a cycle that can change.

💡 Breaking the Conflict Cycle
A 6-Week Online Reset Course for Couples
to help you calm, communicate, and reconnect.

🧠 Live via Zoom – 1 hour weekly for 6 weeks
🌿 Daytime Course: £420 per couple
🌙 Evening Course: £510 per couple
👩‍💻 Led by our specialist team of couples counsellors

📩 To book or find out more:
Visit 🌐 www.eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/contact

✨ Repair, don’t repeat.

16/10/2025

When trust breaks, it’s never just about what happened.
It’s about everything that suddenly stops feeling safe.

For one partner, it’s guilt, shame, and the desperate need to make it right.
For the other, it’s disbelief, grief, and a body that won’t calm down.

It’s not “moving on.”
It’s rebuilding a sense of truth — one moment, one conversation, one boundary at a time.

💭 Which part of this feels hardest for you right now?
👇 Drop it in the comments — let’s talk about what real repair looks like.