Reshaping Minds

10/12/2025

Day 9 of my Mental Wellbeing December Advent Calendar

Wise words from Spike!

Smiling is infectious,
you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner
and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realized
I’d passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realized its worth.
A single smile, just like mine
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin,
don’t leave it undetected.
Let’s start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected!

Spike Milligan

😊 😁 🙃 😊 😃

08/12/2025

Day 8 of my Mental Wellbeing December Advent Calendar
Mastering Positive Selftalk will change everything!

As Bruce Lee once said, "Never speak negatively about yourself, not even in a joke, because your mind and body don't know the difference.

Consider 2 situations and how they would make you feel.

Situation 1, you just mess up a piece of work, causing you to have to redo it, costing you time and energy, you say to yourself in an angry voice, "Oh, you F@ Stupid fool, you're so rubbish! (How do you feel?)

Situation 2, same mistake and same situation, but this time you say to yourself, "Oh wow, that went spectacularly wrong, ouch, ok let's not do it that way next time, let's avoid that same mistake" (how does that feel)

You will agree that situation 1 leaves you feeling angry, upset and unable to continue. In contrast, situation 2 feels different; there is no anger or upset, just a resolution that the second time will be better.

So be kind and constructive with yourself; we all make mistakes, and we can't be perfect all the time. Embrace this, and you will nurture a better relationship with yourself, and that changes everything. Take it one incident at a time. And CHANGE YOUR WORLD!

07/12/2025

07/12/2025

Day 7 of my Mental wellbeing December Advent Calendar

Celebrating your real Heroes

Giving gratitude for that someone in your life that, is a true friend, a hero, a person that you can count on, a person that has shown you kindness, a person that shows they caring. Give them a shout out and the gift of gratitude.

Mine will be embarrassed I’m calling him a hero, but to be honest many others call him that too. He does amazing work in our community, but I’m not recognising him for that, I’m giving you John Nicholson a shout out for looking out for me, for checking in on me, for the hugs when I needed it! The people around me know I have had a bad 18 months physically after an accident, that has left me with significant physical challenges I’m having to come to terms with, and to be frank I have struggled, and John has been their as a true friend every step of the way despite his own goings on and I’m so grateful John thank you for being you! 🥰

06/12/2025

Day 6 of my Mental Wellbeing December Advent Calendar
The Healing Power of Hugs

A hug is simple, but science shows it’s powerful.
# Lowers stress and anxiety
# Lifts mood and eases pain
# Boosts connection for both giver and receiver

Ever wondered why hugging your pet feels so good?

For those feeling lonely, anxious, or low, a hug can whisper: “You’re not alone.” And if no one’s nearby, even a self-hug can soothe, ground, and remind you of your own resilience.

Advent Invitation
Today, give yourself the gift of a hug. Offer one to someone who needs it. Receive one with gratitude.

Be on the lookout for my upcoming blog on this very subject. I will post a link in the comments when it's ready. And if you see me in real life, I would love a hug!

05/12/2025

Day 5 of my Mental Welbeing December Advent Calendar

If you’re in a situation where someone is upset and sharing their feeling JUST LISTEN! But actively, what does that mean? Listen with the intent to understand what they are going through rather than waiting for the opportunity to talk or give your opinion, they don’t need that. They need to off load, to share and for someone to hear them, so just listen, you could ask questions to show you want to understand, you can ask if there is anything you can do for them, but i guarentee they will say no, but what you can do is leave the conversation open! How about we set a coffee date, or say I’m going to check in on you, but if you do that DO NOT FORGET OR CANCEL that will destroy any good you just did, so don’t commit unless you can. Final word to them thank you for sharing this, thank you for trusting me, I’m here for you.

And if you can’t do any of this please simply give them the number of someone who can like the Samaritans 116 123

04/12/2025

Day 4 of my Mental Welbeing December Advent Calendar.

Don’t fear emotions, understand them! Stress anxiety depression are all emotions that were supposed to have, understanding what’s behind them is key here to help you overcome and deal better.
Here’s the understanding, let’s look at anxiety.

Anxiety is the emotion you feel suddenly because something urgent just happened, or needs dealing with. It’s that gut wrenching feeling when the bin men arrive, and you realise you didn’t get the bin out. You rush to get it done, and your body relaxes.
Anxiety is basically your fight or flight mode. It’s only meant to be temporary. However, if you neglect what needs to be done, it can stay around. Imagine if you hadn’t got the bin out in time, potentially that gut wrenching feeling stays all week because the full bin is constantly on your mind. This will be relieved by getting the bin out on the next pick up, but if you forget again, the anxiety stays for another week. This is how anxiety can build into a problem.
So tip of today, if you feel Anxious, ask yourself why? And deal with the reason!

04/12/2025

Day 3 of my Mental Welbeing December Advent Calendar! Sounds selfish, doesn’t it? But my question to you is how can you help someone else if you’re not okay? For this day I would love you to think do a mental assessment on yourself. Are you okay? The ability to recognise when you’re not is key? And if you’re not then reach out to friends family or a stranger on a helpline I’ve already given you Samaritans 116123 throughout the course of this advent calendar I will give you more.

04/12/2025

Day 2 of my Mental Welbeing December Advent! If someone you know is not quite them selves, if you ask them “are you ok?” They will 100% say “I’m Fine!” - please don’t accept that, ask again. I can guarentee the second time they will answer differently, and that’s your opportunity to say, mate you can talk to me, no judgement I will simply listen. And if they still won’t talk, offer them a number to call like Samaritans 116 123.

04/12/2025

Look I’m not a graphic designer, I wanted to issue a daily post in December as an advent calander for mental wellbeing, with a window opened with a tip, nugget of wisdom or a tool inside. I love the idea of something visual! But I haven’t got that skill, but what I do have is a purpose, a passion, knowledge and a need to help the people I know, to be able to help the people they know.

So this is Advent day 1 the 1st of December and this is my first gift to you! Please add this to your phone contacts (Samaritans 116 123).

10/06/2025

Learn how your mind actually works, how to love yourself warts and all, and finally how small acts of celebration can change your outlook look! Booking link in the comments

19/10/2024