Folkestone Hypnotherapy

08/12/2025

Phobias feel huge and overwhelming… but most of the time, the fear isn’t about the thing itself: it’s about the reaction your mind learned years ago.

The good news? That reaction can be updated far more quickly than most people expect.
For many clients, a phobia that’s been around for years disappears in just one session.

Whether it’s flying, spiders, needles, dogs, lifts, or something else… the goal isn’t to make you love it, just to stay calm enough to choose how you want to respond.

If a phobia has been getting in the way of your life, I’m here to help.
Feel free to message me privately.

07/12/2025

Your anxious thoughts have a structure… and you can change it.

In this video, I walk you through a quick NLP technique that literally changes how your mind sees a stressful thought. When the picture shifts, the feeling often shifts with it.

It’s simple, it’s fast, and many people notice the difference immediately.

If you want to understand your anxiety from a different angle ( and learn a practical tool you can use anytime ) give this a watch.

05/12/2025

I went to sunny London to try some street hypnosis with a passer-by — with full permission — and the results were brilliant.

In just a couple of minutes, you can see how quickly the mind responds when someone follows clear suggestions:
• Instant relaxation
• Eyes sticking
• Strong physical responses
• A deep shift in focus and awareness

Street hypnosis is fun, but it also demonstrates how powerful the subconscious mind really is.
If you struggle with anxiety, overthinking, stress or intrusive thoughts, this same process can be used therapeutically to reprogram old patterns and create real change.

Let me know if you'd like to see more street sessions!

03/12/2025

Feeling tense, stressed, or stuck in your own head?
Here is a new 2-minute hypnosis and breathing reset that can help calm your mind fast.

It combines the physiological sigh with a hypnotic twist, something I often use in sessions because it works immediately for anxiety, worry, and overwhelm.

It only takes two minutes.
Just follow along and notice how much lighter you feel afterwards.

03/12/2025

If you struggle with pressure, guilt, or “I should…” thoughts, this video will help.
A tiny language tweak can make a big difference.

01/12/2025

21/11/2025

Ever wake up at 3am with your brain stuck on a negative “what if”?
Here’s how to flip it so you can calm your mind and get back to sleep.

20/11/2025

If you were to learn one tiny phrase that helps people feel more open, less defensive, and much easier to talk to… would you use it?

There is an NLP and hypnotherapy language pattern that does exactly that, and it’s beautifully simple.

It’s the phrase: “If you were to…”

In communication and in therapy, we sometimes call this a hypnotic preframe.
You’re not telling anyone what to do, you’re inviting their mind to imagine a possibility.
And the moment someone imagines something, their subconscious starts rehearsing it automatically, without resistance.

And it works everywhere:

🟦 Sales
If you were to explore this option, what’s the first benefit you’d notice?

🟦 Leadership and Coaching
If you were to take the next step, what would that look like?

🟦 Negotiations
If you were to consider a different angle, what might open up?

🟦 Personal wellbeing
If you were to feel even a little calmer, where would you notice it first?

It’s soft, it’s respectful, and it’s surprisingly effective.
You’re not pushing ideas onto people. Instead, you’re helping them consider it in a way that starts to feel like their idea.
They begin to sell it to themselves!

If you were to try this today, who would benefit first?
The people you speak with… or you?

Either way, it’s a tiny phrase that makes a big difference.

If you’d like more simple communication and mindset tools like this, feel free to follow the page. I share these little shifts regularly.

18/11/2025

Most people still picture childhood ADHD: hyperactive kids, distracted teens, fidgeting.

But in adults, ADHD is far more complex. And one of its most painful features isn’t even listed as a symptom… which means most therapists never learn to recognise it.

It’s called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).

If criticism feels like a punch…
If someone’s tone ruins your day…
If you spiral because you think you upset someone…

That might be RSD ,not “overreacting.”

And here’s the problem:
Because RSD isn’t in the diagnostic criteria, therapy often focuses on the wrong things like perfectionism, anxiety, low self-esteem, people-pleasing

But these aren’t the issue. They’re survival strategies.

Perfectionism = “If I slip up, I’ll be criticised and I can’t handle that.”
People-pleasing = “If I disappoint someone, everything falls apart.”
Masking/chameleon behaviour = “Who do I need to be so I stay safe?”
Low self-esteem = years of being misunderstood until it sinks in.

When RSD isn’t recognised, therapy turns into symptom management.
You work hard, you dig deep… but nothing changes, because the source stays untouched.

RSD isn’t a thinking problem. You can’t reason your way out of it. It’s a fast, automatic emotional threat response. It's not PTSD but it comes from the same threat-detection circuitry. That’s why it feels so overwhelming.

For many people, talk therapy alone won’t shift it. You need methods that work where those automatic reactions are created, and help the nervous system feel safe again.

If this resonates and you feel you need help, you can contact me.
You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re not “too much.”
You just haven’t had someone who understands RSD.

09/11/2025

Most people still think hypnosis means clucking like a chicken or losing control. Let’s clear that up.

In this short video, I go through the three biggest myths about hypnotherapy and what’s actually true.

If you’ve been curious about how hypnotherapy could help with anxiety, ADHD, trauma or habits, watch the video below and then pop over to my website for more info:
www.folkestone-hypnotherapy.co.uk

05/11/2025

Nobody smokes because they forgot it’s bad for them. We all know smoking’s bad for you: cancer, heart disease, smell, cost, all that. But today, let’s talk about something different:

The pros of smoking

Or at least what smokers believe are some of the reasons they keep lighting up.

When clients come to see me to stop smoking, they often say:
“It relaxes me.”
“It’s my me-time.”
“I smoke when I’m bored.”
“I just love the taste.”

Let’s unpack that.

“It relaxes me.”
Ni****ne is actually a stimulant. It raises your heart rate and releases adrenaline. It’s like saying, “I need to relax, give me a Red Bull!”
What really relaxes you is how you breathe: slow, deep breaths in and out. You can do that without the cigarette.

“It’s my me-time.”
Fair enough, you want to escape a stressful situation or people, or just have a mini-break. You don’t need a cigarette to take a break. You can still step outside and say, “I’m getting some fresh air.”, or put the kettle on.

“I smoke when I’m bored.”
In that case, I always ask my clients "How entertaining are your ci******es?" It doesn’t fix boredom, it just gives your hands something to do while you stay bored.

“I love the taste.”
Let’s be honest, to***co tastes awful. You’ve just got used to it.

All those reasons are just post-rationalisations, and I know, because I used them too when I smoked, before stopping 10 years ago. If you're a smoker, deep down, you also know it's complete BS.

The truth is, these “benefits” aren’t from smoking at all. They come from you: your breathing, your moments of pause, your little routines.
The cigarette is just the prop.

If you’re ready to stop for good, calmly and confidently, I can help you get there.

03/11/2025

Have you ever felt crushed by even the smallest bit of criticism, like one comment can ruin your whole day?

If you have ADHD, it might be something called RSD, or Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.

It’s rarely talked about, even during ADHD assessments, it often doesn’t come up (mine didn’t either). But for many of us, it’s one of the most painful and misunderstood parts of living with ADHD.

RSD is that wave of emotional pain that hits when you think you’ve upset someone, failed, or been judged. It doesn’t even have to be real rejection: just the idea of it can feel unbearable.

And it’s no wonder. For years, we’ve learned to navigate a world that wasn’t built for how our brains work, often facing criticism, confusion, or pressure to “try harder” when we were already giving everything we had.

Over time, that experience can quietly shape your whole personality:
🟡 Saying yes when you want to say no
🟡 Adapting yourself to fit in
🟡 Pushing for perfection so no one can criticise you
🟡 Living with low self-esteem, waiting for rejection that never comes

These aren’t flaws: they’re protective habits, your mind’s way of keeping you safe from emotional pain. But they can also leave you anxious, drained, and disconnected from who you truly are.

Here’s the good news: just knowing this is a side effect, not a personal failing, can already make a huge difference. It gives you permission to be kinder to yourself.

And through hypnotherapy, it’s possible to go even deeper: to release the old guilt, shame, and limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in those patterns. When that emotional weight lifts, your nervous system settles. You start to feel calmer, lighter, and more confident just being yourself.

Managing ADHD isn’t just about focus, it’s about healing how we feel.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences in the comments.