13/11/2025
When the person sabotaging your progress is the one staring back in the mirror.”
Last week, I was spiralling.
My Elite Business Coaching Day was coming up, and I was convinced I had nothing to show for the past month.
This, despite the fact that my coach is brilliant — he checks in regularly, celebrates progress, and gets us to recount our wins because he knows the “feel-good factor” isn’t fluffy.
Each time we acknowledge success, we 'feel good.'
He always says, “Call when you need help.”
And he means it.
So what follows isn’t a reflection of his coaching.
It’s a reflection of how my own mind can still hijack, sabotage, and infiltrate even the healthiest boundaries — especially the ones I put in place to protect myself from others.
Because when old beliefs sneak in — you’re not doing enough, you’re behind, no one sees your effort — they don’t always attack from outside.
Sometimes they wear your own voice and come from within.
I could feel it physically: shoulders tight, breath shallow, chest heavy.
That’s the amygdala lighting up — your brain’s threat detector, mistaking self-reflection for danger.
It convinced me that I was failing when in truth, I was just feeling vulnerable.
And then, the coaching day came… today, in fact....and it went well.
Not because I’d suddenly done more, but because I slowed down enough to see what I had done:
✔️ Built partnerships.
✔️ Drafted proposals.
✔️ Held meetings.
✔️ Created resources.
✔️ Delivered sessions.
What I thought was nothing turned out to be evidence I hadn’t reviewed yet.
So here’s the truth I’m sitting with:
Boundaries aren’t just what we hold with other people.
They’re the lines we draw between our truth and our thoughts — between what’s real and what fear has distorted.
This is the kind of work we explore in our Boundaries Coaching Programme — learning to hold the line not just with others, but within ourselves.
DM me if you’d like to explore this further. I’d love to chat about how our 3-Part Framework can support you.
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