Small Steps Therapies

07/03/2026

Sometimes pain is a quiet teacher.

It shows us the moments where something didn’t feel right…
where a boundary was crossed,
where our hearts carried more than they should have had to.

And while pain hurts, it can also gently guide us back to ourselves.

It helps us notice what truly matters.
What we value.
What we need in order to feel safe, respected, and cared for.

Over time, something shifts.

Your boundaries become clearer.
Your voice grows a little steadier.
You begin to speak up for yourself in ways you might not have before.

Not from anger —
but from self-respect and understanding.

Because sometimes the lesson within the hurt is simply this:
you deserve to be treated with kindness too.

And from that place, you move forward a little wiser,
a little stronger,
and a little more protective of your peace. 🌿

Trusting the process
And trusting in yourself…

Colette 🩵

06/03/2026

06/03/2026

A really personal one from me today...
This week has been a really difficult week to maintain consistency and hold onto my why.
To be honest...
Part of me was loud and thought...
Why bother?
I'm going to give up
I thought of all the reasons why not to keep training for the half marathon... and just quit now
Despite everything in my body and mind telling me no, I dragged myself out to train...
Straight off, of all the songs on shuffle the one song that reminds me so much of of my hero, my Daddy came on.
Followed by another song with the lyrics "My Father said, don't you worry, don't you worry child"
A highly emotional moment for many reasons, but for me, he was talking to me, sending a message that he's here, he's proud of me and to keep going. That I can do this, I will do this and I AM doing it
Of late I've been consciously working on not dropping my head whilst out running..
Overcoming feelings of shame and that's when the "I can't do it" thoughts become louder...

My new tags on my trainers
"Look Up...l'm there"
I was reminded to lift my head and looked to the sky
My why was fuelled with emotion.
That he's looking over me, looking out for me and sending me strength when I needed it the most.
He will always be there, I just need to look up
Things aren't always easy
Reminding ourselves of our "Why"
Finding the glimmers however big or small To help us push through the struggles and challenges life throws our way.
Small steps, always

Colette 🩵

05/03/2026

Sometimes the reason someone needs reassurance isn’t insecurity, it’s history.

If you were once told you were unlovable, unwanted, or “too much,” those words don’t just disappear. They echo. 🩵

05/03/2026

Today I’ve been thinking about the pressure children carry.

Expectations from school.
From society.
From the adults around them.
From the quiet comparisons that creep in… who’s coping, who’s attending, who’s achieving.

And yet when a child feels overwhelmed, anxious, or unable to face the school day, the response can sometimes be “you have to go anyway.”
Absence from school being penalised and pressure to attend.

It’s a tricky space.

Because as adults, if our mental health is struggling, we’re often encouraged to pause… to take a day off… to rest, speak to someone, and look after ourselves.

But children are still learning how to understand their feelings.
Learning how to regulate big emotions in small bodies.
Learning how to say “this feels too much for me today.”

That doesn’t mean there aren’t boundaries or support around school and attendance.
But it does remind us that behind the behaviour is often a child trying their best to cope with a world that can feel very loud.

Sometimes what they need most is curiosity instead of pressure.
A conversation instead of assumptions.
A moment to feel safe enough to say what’s really going on.
And the space to pause and breathe in a safe space.

If you’re parenting a child who is struggling with anxiety, school pressures, or big feelings… please know you’re not alone.
And neither are they.

Small steps.
One conversation, one morning, one bit of support at a time.

You’re doing your best, none of us always get it right.
The fact that you’re trying…
Is enough

Colette 🩵

04/03/2026

How are you today… really?

In the middle of the rushing around, the to-do lists, the caring for everyone else — have you paused and asked yourself what you might need today?

Not tomorrow.
Not when everything is finished.
Just… today.

Maybe it’s a cup of tea held in both hands for a quiet minute.
Maybe it’s stepping outside and letting the sunshine land on your face.
Maybe it’s giving yourself permission to sit down and do absolutely nothing for a moment.

Grounding doesn’t have to be complicated.
Sometimes it’s just a small pause in the middle of the noise.

A breath.
A stretch.
A moment.

Little things that gently remind your nervous system:
you’re here… and you’re allowed to take care of yourself too.

So this is your gentle midweek check-in:

✨ What would help you feel a little more grounded today?

Whatever it is — even if it’s tiny — it counts.

Small steps, always.

Colette 🩵

03/03/2026

I normally do a video for my Thought of the Day - but this last week has been a bit tougher than normal.
My son was the victim of a robbery last week, traumatising and unfair (but I feel mostly for me).

I noticed that my own anxiety became very high - and on reflection, I suspect it is because I was assaulted by a group of girls when I was about 11 years old.
I can still to this day feel uncomfortable in the presence of a large group of girls who are unknown to me.
So my thoughts today are really about remembering that trauma can be ongoing,
even if it has not been triggered for years;
and that we can be affected differently by events
Trauma can be more about your own personal experience of an event
…than the event itself.

Finally, my thoughts on what happened are that material things are just that,
Material things - it's just stuff!

Handing over the bike was the right thing to do;
and I’m so proud of how he handled the dangerous situation he found himself in
Nothing of material means…is worth the risk.

Look after yourselves
and have a good evening

Colette 🩵

03/03/2026

Your healing isn’t about keeping others comfortable, it’s about setting yourself free. 🩵

02/03/2026

We repeat what hasn’t healed. We circle back to what still feels unresolved. Not for attention, but for understanding, safety, and relief.

If it keeps coming up, it still needs care 🩵

02/03/2026

Right.
Quick audit.

Are you:

A) Thriving 🌿
B) Surviving ☕
C) Held together by caffeine and good intentions
D) Emotionally buffering like slow Wi-Fi

No judgement. Just data.

Also…

Have you:
– Drunk actual water (not just coffee pretending to hydrate you)?
– Unclenched your jaw? (Go on. I’ll wait.)
– Stopped doom-scrolling mid-scroll?
– Stepped outside and remembered you’re a human, not a productivity robot?

Mental health check-ins don’t have to be intense.
Sometimes it’s just noticing you’ve been operating in “power through” mode since 7:12am.

Today’s mission (should you choose to accept it):
Do one small thing that future-you will high-five you for.

A walk.
A proper lunch.
Saying no.
Going to bed like the responsible legend you are.

So tell me —
what letter are we today?

Be honest. There’s no wrong answers

Colette 🩵

25/02/2026

Let it 🩵