06/02/2026
I used to say “everything happens for a reason.”
(And I still say it!)
I still believe in finding the lesson.
That’s literally my job.
But sometimes life is just brutal and it doesn’t need a deeper meaning.
When my fiancé took his own life, it was horrific.
That’s it.
Did my life’s work come from that pain?
Yes.
Do I help people with depression and anxiety because of what I went through?
Absolutely.
But that doesn’t mean it was supposed to happen.
There are horrific things happening in the world right now.
People suffering with no consequences
And if you’re in struggle right now, you don’t need to hear some spiritual platitude.
What I hold onto, though, is this
You are not what happens to you.
You don’t need to find meaning in your pain to move forward.
You don’t owe anyone a silver lining
You can sit in the sadness.
You can feel it.
And when you’re ready - not today, maybe not for a while - you get to decide what you do next.
Your mind is the most powerful thing you have.
It doesn’t care what happened to you.
It cares what you tell it about what happened.
Does this define you?
Or is this something you’re moving through?
That’s your choice. And that’s your power.