15/01/2025
Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)
So I’ve had a number of questions regarding Social Anxiety Disorder. Here is my take:
Firstly, undertstand there are various types of “anxiety” that people tend to experience. There's General Anxiety Disorder, Performance Anxiety, Obsessive compulsive disorder, Post-traumatic stress disorder, and so on. Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) can completely debilitate someone to the extent that they’re not able to take advantage of opportunities which come their way, to develop meaningful relationships and limiting themselves to only a small network of friends and work associates that they are comfortable with.
What makes it worse for people with SAD is that the advice they’re given is “just be more social” or “don’t be so shy” or “it’s only a drink/meal/event”. If you know someone with SAD, while you may have good intentions, these types of comments are really not helpful, and tend to make the person even more anxious. So here are some ideas to help you understand better:
When we think of people as being introverted, we often wrongly assume that they are people who don’t like people. Wrong! Understand that each and every one of us is wired differently. For some, diving straight into a conversation with new people comes naturally for others less so.
Understand that we all get a little nervous in new social settings, meeting new people and so on. A little stress can beneficial here, but for a person with SAD, the cortisol and adrenalin levels are overwhelming. Hard though it might be, you simply need to tell yourself “this is uncomfortable, but this feeling won’t last and it’s not life threatening”
Practice getting out of your comfort zone. The best way is to practice regularly with everyday interactions. Start small. Ask an open question or make a comment (about the weather/traffic/TV programme) to a colleague you rarely speak to, the cashier at the coffee shop – you get the picture! After a while you will notice your confidence levels increasing, naturally and easily.
Once you feel OK with above, accept an invitation. Something you would normally say “no” to. It could be something as low key as a Friday after work drink. You can tell yourself “one drink” and then I’ll leave (by doing so, you are not putting pressure on yourself to stay longer). Take advantage of networking opportunities and getting to know others.
The goal here is not to change someone from being an introvert to an extrovert, but simply to move from a fear based perspective of feeling awkward or uncomfortable to one where you feel relaxed and comfortable.
I hope this is useful and if you would like to know how hypnotherapy can help with social anxiety disorder, please get in touch.
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