27/03/2026
People often say men don’t talk, men don’t open up, men don’t engage with support.
But what if the real problem is that we keep trying to help men in ways that don’t work for them?
In this conversation, we talk about how many people speak for men, tell men what they should do, how they should talk, how they should feel, and what support should look like. But very rarely do we actually ask men what would help them help themselves.
Not every man wants to sit in a room and talk about feelings.
Not every man wants therapy in the traditional sense.
Not every man wants advice.
Some men want purpose.
Some men want to work things out in their own head first.
Some men talk while walking, working, driving, fishing, building, fixing, or just sitting next to someone instead of opposite them.
Support for men does not always look like therapy.
And talking does not always look like talking.
This is a proper conversation about mental health, pressure, expectations, and why we might need to change the way we support men rather than keep telling men to change.
We’re not saying we have all the answers.
But we do think we might be asking better questions.
In this conversation, we talk about how many people speak for men, tell men what they should do, how they should talk and feel, and what support should look like. But very rarely do we actually ask men what would help them help themselves.
