25/11/2025
Horses donât wake up with a diary full of performance goals. Theyâre not standing at the gate thinking, âI hope she schools me in a perfect 20-metre circle today.â
Their world is simpler and more honest. Safety. Predictability. Comfort. Herd. Food. Space. Rhythm. Thatâs the entire ecosystem of their wellbeing.
When we choose not to ride, we are not depriving them of something vital.
We are actually honouring their natural priorities.
Most days, what your horse wants is for you to show up with steady energy and a soft nervous system. They read the tension in your jaw, the rush in your footsteps, the way you hold your breath when youâre stressed. They know. And they respond.
A horse would rather stand with you quietly than carry you while youâre wound tight.
A horse would rather have a peaceful grooming session than be pushed through 45 minutes of schooling with winter wind rattling the arena boards.
A horse would rather feel you regulate beside them than feel you compensate on their back.
We often forget that riding is a human invention, not a horse requirement. What horses seek is harmony. A safe companion. Someone predictable enough that their bodies can settle next to ours.
When you decide not to ride because youâre tired, or the ground is frozen, or your brain is doing that loud static thing, youâre not failing. Youâre speaking the horseâs language.
A regulated human is more valuable to them than a mounted one.
They donât judge you for walking them to the field instead of tacking up. They donât measure your worth by hours ridden. They care that youâre safe company. That you donât bring storms into their space. That when you do ask something of them, it comes from clarity rather than pressure.
Some horses genuinely thrive when riding takes a step back for a little while. Their bodies get a breather. Their minds get space. Their relationship with you gets to be about connection rather than task.
If youâre showing up kindly, youâre doing enough.
If your horse is eating well, moving freely, living in a routine that makes sense to them, youâre doing enough.
And in the quiet seasons, the bond often grows deeper. Because horses remember who sits with them in the stillness.