21/01/2026
Low self-esteem and self-compassion are very different ways of looking at yourself. When someone has low self-esteem, they tend to be really hard on themselves. They might feel like they’re not good enough, always comparing themselves to others, and focusing on their flaws. It’s as if they’re constantly looking for approval from the outside, but even when they get it, it doesn’t seem to stick - they still feel like they’re falling short.
Self-compassion, on the other hand, is like being your own best friend. It’s about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer to someone you care about. Instead of beating yourself up when things go wrong, you acknowledge that everyone has tough moments and that it’s OK to struggle. Self-compassion isn’t about ignoring your mistakes or pretending everything’s fine, but it’s about not letting them define your worth.
So, while low self-esteem keeps you stuck in self-criticism and doubt, self-compassion helps you be gentler with yourself. It’s like swapping out that harsh inner critic for a supportive cheerleader who’s always on your side, no matter what.
Kate x