14/12/2025
The season of family get togethers is nearly upon us. This fills me personally with great joy - I can’t wait to see them all - even the St Bernard! But things don’t always turn out as expected.
So here’s a strategy in case you find yourself not exactly in agreement with a relative, or a friend, over Christmas. Or at any other time for that matter!
This is the strategy when standing: feel the soles of your feet in contact with the floor, the ground. Shift a little bit forwards and back, to find the perfect spot - the spot where you feel support from the ground, and where you can feel the weight of your head pouring down through the curve of your neck, the curves of your spine, to your sacrum, the two halves of your pelvis, your thigh bones, through your knees, lower leg bones, to your ankles, the soles of your feet. Aim to maintain your body awareness in this way, if any differences of opinion arise with a relative, or a friend. So you’re present in your body and you can be in relationship with others at the same time. You’re neither sucked in, nor withdrawing. You’re engaged with self and another at the same time.
If you’re sitting - try this similar strategy: feel the soles of your feet on the floor, the backs of your thighs and sitting bones in contact with the seat of the chair. Aim to find a feeling of support from your vertebral column - your spine - with your head resting on the topmost part of your spine. With support through the bones, your muscles won’t need to work so hard to keep you upright. In this way you become present in your body and can engage with another/ others without getting sucked in, or needing to withdraw.
Merry Christmas!
yogaharrogate