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14/12/2025

It is not other people's entertainment

11/12/2025

Bear with me, I need to tell the whole story for it to make sense

The point isn't to fit in. It's not to stand out. The point of this whole mess we call life is to be yourself. Because w...
17/12/2022

The point isn't to fit in. It's not to stand out. The point of this whole mess we call life is to be yourself.

Because who you are is a valuable piece of the puzzle.

Because you anchor some energy into this 3d reality and only you have the power to bring that energy here.

Because being you is what brings you the most joy and fulfillment.

Because your job is to work out who you are and embody that beautiful mess.

And whether this YOU fits in or stands out, it doesn't matter. As long as it's authentic.

But I'll tell you a little secret: whoever you are, there will be places where you fit in and places where you stand out.

You've got this, keep going
Monica

Ps. I can help bring the authentic you out to play, send me a message and we'll get started

The part that needs love and connection THE MOST.But that's exactly why you disowned this part, isn't it? Because it's v...
14/12/2022

The part that needs love and connection THE MOST.

But that's exactly why you disowned this part, isn't it? Because it's vulnerable and it needs love.

That's some scary sh*t 😲

When and if we do this, it's because we have been hurt before...so much so that we didn't think we would survive.

And we only managed to survive by disowning the part that was in pain.

We disconnected from it, we distanced ourselves from it, thinking that this would solve the problem.

On the surface it seems like it did.

But actually it created a new one: the moment we disowned this part of ourselves when it was in pain, was the moment we started hating ourselves.

We started hating this part of us, because it caused us to feel pain. And who wants to be in pain?

Of course the pain wasn't caused by our sensitive part, it was caused by external factors (betrayal, abuse, abandonment etc) but we don't have control over those factors.

We only have control over ourselves.

So when we couldn't stop or avoid the external source of pain, we turned towards the internal source in order to regulate our feelings.

And now, when we still refuse to sit with our pain, to accept and integrate this part of ourselves, all we're doing is essentially perpetuating self hate. Which will cause even more pain later on. 🥺

The only way out is in.

You've got this, keep going
Monica

Trauma is the result of:❌ a personal boundary being grossly breached ❌ feeling unseen and/or unwanted❌ feeling powerless...
13/12/2022

Trauma is the result of:
❌ a personal boundary being grossly breached
❌ feeling unseen and/or unwanted
❌ feeling powerless, unable to protect the self or someone else from harm or injustice
❌ feeling like you're never good enough

One of the most difficult parts of healing is accepting the powerlessness of not not being able to turn back time and make it all not happen. The painful truth of never being able to go back to who you were before the trauma.

So you go and look for ways to get the person who hurt you so deeply to see you and accept you. To realize how wrong they were and apologize. To finally come around and love you. Essentially, you look for healing in the place where trauma came from.

But healing cannot come from the same place as trauma. For healing to occur you need to feel:
✅ seen & heard
✅ accepted & validated
✅ loved & empowered
✅ and most importantly, safe

It's like ointment on a wound to hope that one day you could experience any of those things in places where you were hurt. But it's also kinda naive. Because let's be real here, the chances that you would feel seen, heard, validated, or empowered by a person who put you down (perhaps constantly & for a long time), are very very low.

So...maybe it's time to stop dreaming the "Hallmark movie" dream and start creating the life you can actually enjoy living. Every day. In reality.

Start by finding people and places that feel safe. Find a person who can promote your healing by being able go stay present, to be a safe container and guide you on this journey.

You've got this, keep going
Monica

No, but hear me out. I know we've all been taught to watch a person's actions and don't believe their words. That people...
09/12/2022

No, but hear me out.
I know we've all been taught to watch a person's actions and don't believe their words.
That people can promise a lot and deliver next to nothing.

But, although it is true that people can (and do) lie in order to get what they want, they can do so with their actions too.

Words are the way a person can express their motivations and intentions. You might think that doesn't matter very much, but you see intention makes the difference between an accident and m**der.

The idea that actions are worth more than words comes from the belief that words carry no power. That bricks and stones can break my bones but words cannot hurt me.

When in reality words carry power. Words can hurt you. Words can empower you or put you down. They can make or break a person.

So, yes, words are just as important as actions. And what's most important is that a person's words match their actions.

Words carry energy and you can feel when someone's words don't match their thoughts, feelings or intentions.

You've got this, keep going
Monica

The birthplace of shame is judgment. It's difficult to be yourself in a space where you feel judged or maybe even ridicu...
07/12/2022

The birthplace of shame is judgment. It's difficult to be yourself in a space where you feel judged or maybe even ridiculed. But, as Ann Voskamp says, when stories are told in safe spaces, shame cannot survive.

It is important to tell the story, because keeping it to yourself only nurtures shame. It proves that there is reason for you to be ashamed and most of the time there isn't.

And it is important to tell the story in a safe space, because judgment is going to make it worse.

You've got this, keep going,
Monica

Maybe approaching my dreams with curiosity is the key. Maybe if I start asking questions instead of giving myself orders...
04/12/2022

Maybe approaching my dreams with curiosity is the key. Maybe if I start asking questions instead of giving myself orders, it will be easier to bring on the change I want to see.

Take a moment with me to appreciate how priceless a good night's sleep is.Rise and shine, beautiful soul
04/12/2022

Take a moment with me to appreciate how priceless a good night's sleep is.
Rise and shine, beautiful soul

It's scary, but it's worth it. Take the leap.
02/12/2022

It's scary, but it's worth it. Take the leap.

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