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12/12/2025

Here's a story of a domestic violence how this woman left
The Space Between Breaths

Maya was twenty-one when she married Karim, and for a while, she’d convinced herself that the sharp edge in his voice was just passion, that the way he’d block the door when she tried to leave for work was just fear of losing her. She’d grown up in a house where silence was safer than speaking, so when he told her she was “too stupid to make her own decisions” or that “no one else would ever want her,” it settled into her bones like a cold she couldn’t shake. Physical hits came later — a slap across the cheek when she burned the rice, a push against the wall when she forgot to pick up his dry cleaning — but by then, the mental chains were already wrapped so tight she could barely remember what it felt like to think for herself.

When she missed her period for the first time, her hands shook as she held the positive test. Karim’s reaction was a mix of pride and possession: “Good,” he’d said, running a finger down her jaw in a way that made her skin crawl. “Now you’ll have a reason to stay in your place.” She’d hoped the baby would soften him, that the thought of a small, fragile life would quiet the anger that bubbled up in him over nothing. But it only made it worse. He’d snap at her for “being too slow” when she was eight months pregnant, accuse her of “flirting with the cashier” when she bought formula, and tell her she was a “terrible mother already” for crying when he yelled. Still, she stayed. She told herself it was for the baby — that a broken home was worse than a broken heart. That lie carried her through the birth of Zara, then two years later, Amir, then another three years, Layla.

By the time she was pregnant with her fourth child, her body was a map of old bruises and new fears. She’d stopped looking in the mirror because she didn’t recognize the woman staring back — hollow-eyed, hunched, as if she was always bracing for the next blow. One night, as she sat on the kitchen floor, trying to soothe Layla’s fever while Karim screamed at her for “wasting money on medicine,” she felt something shift. Not a sudden burst of courage, but a quiet, persistent whisper in her chest: What about them? What about when they’re old enough to see this? To think this is normal? She’d watched Zara flinch when Karim slammed a door, seen Amir try to “protect” her by standing in front of her when his father got angry. The thought of her children growing up to believe that love meant pain, that their voices didn’t matter — that was the one thing she couldn’t bear.

The next morning, while Karim was at work, she packed what she could fit into two large duffel bags: clothes for the kids, a few toys, the birth certificates she’d hidden in the back of a closet, and a crumpled piece of paper with a phone number she’d scribbled down months earlier, when she’d overheard a neighbor talking about a domestic violence shelter. Her hands were so unsteady she could barely dial, but when a soft voice answered on the other end, she felt tears stream down her face — not tears of sadness, but of something she hadn’t felt in years: hope. “We have a room for you,” the woman said. “Can you get here safely?”

Getting there was the hardest part. She’d had to take three buses, keeping her head down, clutching the kids’ hands so tight her knuckles turned white. Zara, who was seven, asked in a small voice, “Where are we going, Mama?” Maya had wanted to lie, to say they were going on an adventure, but instead, she knelt down and looked her in the eye. “We’re going to a place where no one will yell at us,” she said. “A place where we can be safe.” When they walked through the shelter’s doors, she was met with warm smiles, a hot meal, and a room with four small beds — the first space she’d called her own in nearly a decade.

At first, she couldn’t let her guard down. She’d flinch when someone moved too fast, apologize for things that weren’t her fault, and wake up in the middle of the night, her heart racing, convinced she’d hear Karim’s voice. But the shelter staff was patient. They gave her time to heal, connected her to a counselor who helped her unpack the years of abuse, and taught her skills she’d forgotten she had — how to budget money, how to speak up for herself, how to look in the mirror and see a woman who was strong, not broken. The other women at the shelter became her chosen family: they’d take turns watching the kids so she could rest, share stories over dinner, and remind her that leaving wasn’t a sign of weakness — it was the bravest thing she could do.

As her belly grew, so did her resolve. She filed for a restraining order, with the shelter’s legal team by her side. When Karim showed up at the shelter’s door, screaming her name, she didn’t hide. She stood behind the security glass, holding Zara’s hand, and looked him in the eye — really looked at him — for the first time in years. She saw not the man she’d married, but a broken, angry person who’d tried to break her too. And in that moment, she knew she was free.

Six months later, she gave birth to a baby boy she named Noah — a name that meant “rest” in her mother’s language. By then, she’d found a small apartment of her own, with a garden where the kids could play. She’d gotten a job at a local bookstore, where her coworkers praised her for her kindness and her way with words. On Noah’s first birthday, as she watched Zara blow out the candles on his cake, Amir chase Layla around the living room, and her baby gurgle with laughter in her arms, she felt a weight lift from her shoulders that she’d carried for so long she’d forgotten it was there. She still had bad days — days when the memories crept in, when she wondered if she’d made the right choice. But then she’d look at her children, at the way they smiled freely now, at the way they knew they were loved, and she knew.

Happiness, she’d learned, wasn’t a destination. It was a small, quiet thing — a cup of tea in the morning, a hug from her daughter, a moment when she could breathe without fear. It was the space between breaths, the light that found its way through the cracks. And she’d fought for every single bit of it.

12/12/2025

"One of the greatest gifts an LGBTQ+ child can receive is a home where they can simply be themselves. A place where their identity is honored, their feelings matter, and their voice is safe. A home where their world isn’t shaken by rejection, fear, or disrespect.

It doesn’t matter if your home is big or small, loud or quiet—what matters is the love and acceptance inside those walls. Because one day they’ll step out into the world to build a life of their own, and the unconditional support they received at home will shape the way they move through the world… and the way they love others."

- Liz Dyer

12/12/2025

Life's better at a slower pace ❤️

12/12/2025

Here's something for anyone who is currently going through


"I know that right now, the world might feel like a small, heavy place — like the walls are closing in and there’s no way out, like no one could possibly understand the tangled web of fear, confusion, and even love that’s keeping you stuck in a space that hurts. But please, hear this: you are not alone. We are here, quietly and steadily, waiting to listen without judgment, without rushing you to ‘fix’ things, without making you feel like you have to explain or justify a single thing you’ve been through. Every word you choose to share — whether it’s a whisper about the smallest, most trivial-seeming moment that made your chest tighten, or a flood of pain you’ve held in for years — will be held with the utmost care and respect. We don’t need you to be strong for us; we want to hold that strength for you when you can’t find it in yourself. Supporting you doesn’t mean pushing you to make choices you’re not ready for, or telling you what to do — it means standing beside you, step by tiny step, as you navigate this path at your own pace. It means helping you find safe spaces to breathe, connecting you to resources that can lighten the load, and reminding you, again and again, that you are worthy of kindness, of safety, of a life where you feel seen, valued, and free from harm. Your voice matters, your experience is real, and there is so much love and hope waiting for you on the other side of this darkness — and we will be right here with you, every single step of the way, until you can see it too."

12/12/2025

12/12/2025
12/12/2025

PTSD/C-PTSD
~Deb 🩷

This is so true
12/12/2025

This is so true

All abuse is about power and control. The abuser thinks they are entitled to treat you badly to make you do what they want. If they can do it without physically harming you, they will use some of these tactics to get what they want. https://carolineabbott.com/2018/08/are-you-being-abused/

25/11/2025

For someone who has gone through SA this is for you,
I’ve been through this myself and it’s scary but be supportive as you can

You are incredibly strong, and even though things feel dark right now, there is light ahead. This experience does not define you. You have the power to heal and reclaim your life. Focus on small steps each day, and remember that seeking help is a sign of strength. You deserve to feel safe, supported, and loved. Brighter days are coming, and you will get through this.

I understand that what happened was deeply violating, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions—anger, confusion, sadness. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve this. Your body, your space, your feelings are yours, and no one can take that away. Healing is a journey, not a destination, and it's okay to have good days and bad days. Lean on your support system, seek professional help if you need it, and remember that you are resilient. You have the strength within you to heal and move forward, and you are not alone.

RainBowDeafCommunity a is a charity making a real difference in the lives of LGBTQ+ Deaf individuals and their allies. L...
25/11/2025

RainBowDeafCommunity a is a charity making a real difference in the lives of LGBTQ+ Deaf individuals and their allies. Led by CEOs Gabi and Aidan, our team works remotely to provide a supportive community where people can explore their identities, access vital resources, and thrive. Open Monday to Friday from 9 AM to 5:30 PM, and Saturdays from 10 AM to 4:30 PM. Closed Sundays.��At RainbowDeafCommunity, we are committed to providing accessible and culturally sensitive services to the LGBTQ+ Deaf community. We understand that Deaf individuals face unique barriers to accessing support, and we are dedicated to breaking down those barriers. Our services include:��• SA Support: Confidential and compassionate support for Deaf survivors of sexual assault, provided by trained ASL-fluent counselors.��• Homeless Shelter: A fully accessible and affirming emergency shelter for LGBTQ+ Deaf individuals experiencing homelessness, with staff who are proficient in ASL and Deaf culture.��• DV Support: Comprehensive services for Deaf individuals experiencing domestic violence, including crisis intervention, legal advocacy, and ASL-interpreted therapy, all provided in a culturally sensitive manner.

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