The Hypno Guide

18/06/2022

I LOVE this.

In her own words;

"Don’t prioritise your looks my friend, as they won’t last the journey.
Your sense of humour though, will only get better with age.
Your intuition will grow and expand like a majestic cloak of wisdom.
Your ability to choose your battles, will be fine-tuned to perfection.
Your capacity for stillness, for living in the moment, will blossom.
Your desire to live each and every moment will transcend all other wants.
Your instinct for knowing what (and who) is worth your time, will grow and flourish like ivy on a castle wall.
Don’t prioritise your looks my friend,
they will change forevermore, that pursuit is one of much sadness and disappointment.
Prioritise the uniqueness that make you you, and the invisible magnet that draws in other like-minded souls to dance in your orbit.
These are the things which will only get better."

Judi Dench

Yes.

01/01/2021

′′ Let go of the people who aren't ready to love you!
This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important: stop giving love to those who aren't willing to love you.
Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want to change.
Stop popping up for people who are indifferent to your presence.
Stop loving people who aren't willing to love you.
I know your gut is to do everything to earn the good graces of everyone around you, but it's also the impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health...
When you begin to manifest yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity...
Doesn't mean you have to change who you are.
That means you have to stop loving people who aren't willing to love you.
If you're excluded, subtly insulted, forgotten or easily ignored by the people you offer your time, you're not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life
The truth is you're not everyone...
And that not everyone is for You...
This is what makes this world so special, when you find the few people you have an authentic friendship, love or relationship with...

You'll know how precious this is...
Because you experienced what's not...
But the more time you spend trying to get loved by someone who can't...
The more time you waste depriving yourself of that same connection...

There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they are...

But...
The smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as a pad, a second option, a therapist and a strategist at their emotional healing...
More time you stay out of the community you desire.
Maybe if you stop appearing, you'll be less wanted...
Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will stop...
Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for days and weeks...
Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve...
Doesn't mean you ruined a relationship!
That means the only thing holding that relationship was the energy YOU and ONLY YOU engaged in to keep it afloat.

It's not love.
That's attachment.
It's wanting to give a chance to who doesn't want it!

The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy.
It's not just your time since it's limited...
That's your energy!
What you give everyday is what will be created more and more in your life.
It's the ones you will give your time and energy to, that will define your existence.

When you realize this, you start to understand why you're so impatient when you spend your time with people that aren't right for you, and in activities, places, situations that aren't right for you.

You'll start to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and everyone you know is protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.

Make your life a safe haven, in which only people ′′ compatible ′′ with you are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving people.
You're not responsible for convincing them they need to be saved.

It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after the moment!

Because if you feel bad, if you feel in duty, if you feel compelled, you are the root of it by your insistence, being afraid they won't return the favors you have to them have granted...

It's your only way to realize that you are the loved one of your destiny, and accept the love you think you deserve.

Decide that you deserve real friendship, genuine commitment, and complete love with people who are healthy and prosperous.

Then wait... just for a while...
And look at how much things start to change..

08/05/2019

Learn How To Self Soothe Your Emotions

Most likely you have never put much thought into the concept of self-soothing.

In most people’s minds, self-soothing is not a “thing.” Yet it is one of the most important skills you can learn, and one that will be a tremendous help throughout your life.

Self-soothing is a life skill that most children learn, or fail to learn, from their parents.

When a father rubs his fitful son’s back to help him fall asleep after a nightmare; when a mother holds her crying child and smooths his forehead; when a father listens carefully to his daughter’s long story about something unfair that happened to her at school that day; when a mother sits with calm quiet empathy through her son’s tantrum, these emotionally present parents, as they soothe their children, are organically teaching their children how to soothe themselves.

Children who have the skill never need to give it much thought, but not everyone is so lucky.

Enter the emotionally neglectful parent.

Emotionally neglectful parents come in different varieties. For example, they may be self-involved, and so focused on themselves that they fail to notice their child’s needs. They may be struggling to cope financially or emotionally so that they have little time or energy left to offer their child. Or they may be terrific parents in every visible sense, providing for all of the child’s material and educational needs, yet fail their child in one far less visible but very impactful way: emotionally.

Think about parents who are working several jobs, trying to stay financially afloat. Think about parents who do not know how to soothe themselves and so are unable to soothe their children. Or think about parents who simply are not attuned to the world of emotions and emotional needs.

All of these parents, although for very different reasons, fail to respond sufficiently to their child’s emotional needs. All tend to fail to teach their children this vital life skill.

Even if you were raised by emotionally neglectful parents you probably didn’t grow up completely devoid of soothing. It all comes down to whether you received enough. Did your parents notice your distress, hurt, anger, sadness or anxiety enough, and did they soothe you in ways that you could internalize for yourself enough?

The Good News – How To Learn The Self-Soothing Skill
There is nothing complicated or difficult about self-soothing. It’s only a skill, and skills can be learned. The place to start to acquire this skill is to spend a bit of time and energy thinking about yourself.

Just as no two people are exactly the same, no two people are soothed in the exact same way. Everyone’s needs are different, and Step 1 is figuring out what works for you. The possibilities are endless.

It is smart to make a list of possible soothers before you are experiencing a difficult emotion. It will work very much to your advantage to identify good possible strategies and have them ready to try when you do need them.

It’s likely that a self-soothing strategy that works in one situation may not work in another, so it’s good to have not just one strategy but a list of them. That way, in your moment of need, you can try one and if it doesn’t work, try another.

In order to identify effective soothers, it may help to think back to your childhood. Were there things that you found comforting as a child? Also, think back to the most emotionally challenging times of your adulthood. Have there been helpful self-soothing strategies that you’ve used in the past without realizing it?

Be careful what types of strategies you use. Make sure they’re healthy for you. For example, alcohol, shopping, and eating can seem easy and effective, but they should never be used for self-soothing. They can easily end up giving you another problem to deal with.

Below are some examples of healthy self-soothing strategies that have been identified and used effectively by others. Go through this list and remove the ones that clearly will not work for you. Then think about your own personal ideas to add. Keep your list handy, and use it when you need it.

Self-Soothing Ideas To Start With
Take a bubble bath
Make a cup of soothing tea
Take a long, hot shower
Listen to your favorite music
Wash or polish your car
Exercise: run, lift weights, or take a bike ride
Play a musical instrument
Cook or bake (we’re talking about the process here; be careful not to over-use food itself for self-soothing!)
Spend time with your pet
Play with a child
Go for a walk
Call a friend
Lie in the grass and watch the clouds, or go outside at night and look at the stars
Clean
Go to the movies
Sit quietly and look out the window
Sit in a quiet space and meditate
Self-talk: Self-talk is probably the most useful and versatile of all self-soothing strategies. It involves literally talking yourself through your uncomfortable feeling state. You can do it quietly in your own head. So you can do it in public, in a meeting or on a train. Remind yourself of simple, honest truths that will help you keep things in perspective. Here are some examples of things you can say to yourself:
“It’s only a feeling, and feelings don’t last forever.”

“You know you’re a good person.”

“You know you meant well.”

“You tried your best, and it didn’t work out.”

“Just wait it out.”

“This will pass.”

“I need to figure out what I can learn from this, and then put it behind me.”

The possibilities are endless and must be determined by the situation and by what you’re feeling. This self-soothing strategy works for most people. It is definitely worth adding to your repertoire.

Be sure to keep your list flexible. Remove strategies that stop working for you and add new ones as needed. Make self-soothing a meaningful, purposeful endeavor that grows and changes with you. All of your life you will need to have the ability to soothe yourself. As you get better at it, you’ll find yourself a calmer person who feels more in control and more comfortable overall.

30/04/2019

Receiving such beautiful messages as this from a clients reminds me how blessed I am.
“Hi Diane thank you for the information. I just wanted to let you know that my 10 year old son this morning on the way to school wrote a song about him and I sitting on the beach. The song was about how he loved us taking about emotions and being present. Couldn’t believe it and it was such a beautiful song. Thank you so much for helping be to realise what’s important in my life and how to appreciate everything again x”

04/03/2019

“You, yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” - The Buddha

Let that sink in, especially if you’re feeling less than lovey toward yourself today.
Most of us, if not all of us, go through times when we are very critical of ourselves - bringing up past mistakes, berating ourselves for choices we’ve made and words we said that can’t be unsaid… and to what end?
We may think that being self-critical is good for us, that it stimulates us to do better next time. While that’s true, it’s “how” we talk to ourselves that is the difference between being kind and supportive of ourselves and being too hard on ourselves with the result that WE beat ourselves down. There’s a difference between “tough love” and just being jerks to ourselves - it’s actually a fine line and it’s so easy to cross it!
Are you really aware of the words you use to yourself, and about yourself?
Probably not.
The way you talk to and about yourself is habitual. Perhaps you’re used to calling yourself “stupid” when you make a mistake; or “not good enough” when someone offers you an opportunity that intimidates you. But ARE you “stupid” or “not good enough”... ALL the time, in everything?
Of course not!
You may not have the skills and knowledge around this one particular thing, but so what?
You can learn. You may have messed up BIG, but so what? What can you do better next time? How did you grow from that mistake?
Remind yourself… if you’re a fish, you can’t be expected to climb trees. You’re good at what you’re good at, you can learn and improve, but you are never, ever stupid or not good enough. Can you please remove those phrases from your self-talk?
Use meditation to become aware of your inner chatter that revolves around you. Are you using kind, supportive and compassionate words to and about yourself?
If not - ask yourself, “would I talk to my best friend like this?”
No!
Not if you want to keep that friend! And since YOU are the only constant in your life you should treat yourself as your best friend.
Build yourself up instead of knocking yourself down. Use encouraging statements like “you can do this” or “I’ll figure it out.”
Remember that you ARE worthy of love and affection, despite what others may have said about you. Don’t let that opinion sway you. You were not born into this world unworthy or unlovable.
One of my favourite mantras that I teach is the very simple, “I love myself” - something that can’t be repeated too often.
When you firmly imprint this into your subconscious and it becomes part of your automatic thought processes… WOW, things will start to change for you.
You’ll be bolder, more compassionate, more assertive, more encouraging, more persistent and you’ll feel GOOD about yourself in every way.
People will consciously and unconsciously pick up on this and you will notice that the way they treat you, will change.
So start telling a better story about yourself, right now. No more “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not worthy.”
You ARE.
Remember to speak to yourself as you do to your best friend. Practice this awareness during mediation, and use “I love myself” as a powerful mantra.
If you need some tips and advice about starting / re-starting a daily meditation practice then simply Message The Hypno Guide. Explain to us what has been holding you back from starting or share your biggest meditation stumbling block and we will get back to you with a personal action plan so you can get back on track with meditation.
Diane

03/03/2019

Your thoughts have tremendous manifesting power. Think back to the last time you had a cold. Did you think, “Uggghhh, I feel awful! I am so sick! It’s like I’ve been run over by a bus!” Those seemingly innocent words actually made you feel worse!
Words have a vibration, just like any other sound. Sound affects matter: watch this amazing video: http://www.youtube.com/watch
Even more than the sound of a word itself, though, is the emotional energy behind it. All words have positive, neutral or negative emotional energy.
For example, if I were to say a word, “krisheblatz,” the word itself has a sound, but no emotional energy. This is because I just made it up and so you can’t possibly know what it means.
It has a neutral energy until it means something to you. If I said that the word means “unconditional self-love” then the word would take on positive emotional energy. If you use that word, you are putting out a positive vibration.
Or, I could say that the word means “the feeling of guilt for stuff you don’t want to admit you did.” That gives the word different energy. If you use that word about yourself, you are attaching that negative energy to yourself.
You don’t even have to say those negative things about yourself out loud. Thoughts have a vibration too.
Negative statements made out of habit are like seeds that get watered every time you think or utter them. They can take over your mental garden and like weeds, choke out the words of beauty, love and appreciation.
The point of this is to get you to realise just how powerful your thoughts are.
Anytime you attach the words “I am” to something, you embody it, whether it is positive or negative.
Meditate today on the power of “I AM…” and how you may be self-sabotaging by making negative statements like, “I am sick and tired of… I am not good enough… I am always late…” Do you want to be sick, late, tired, etc.?
Of course not!
But say those often enough, and they become self-fulfilling! They become your destiny!
Your subconscious mind always, always, always responds to your commands. What more powerful command is there than, “I am”? Guaranteed, your mind will find ways to make that command your reality!
Challenge yourself to stop making all negative statements about yourself. Empower yourself with positive statements!
Here’s a great little exercise you can do anytime you catch yourself thinking or automatically saying a negative “I am” or any other negative statement you think about yourself:
1. Think about one negative statement you usually make to yourself, or any negative question you ask. For example, “I can’t ever get organised in the morning.” Notice how that statement makes you feel. It doesn’t feel good, does it? Neither does, “Why can’t I ever get organised in the morning?”
2. Ask yourself an empowering, positive question in response to that negative statement or question. Notice how that question makes you feel. It feels muuuuuuch better!
Some examples:
“I am not good enough” doesn’t feel good. “Why do I always feel good enough?” feels good.
“Why am I always worrying?” feel terrible. “Why am I always worry-free?” feels good.
“Why can’t I get a good night’s sleep?” doesn’t feel good. But “Why do I enjoy a full night’s sleep?” feels good.
“No one loves me” doesn’t feel good. “Why do so many people love me?” feels good.
“I hate myself” doesn’t feel good. “Why do I love me?” feels good.
This works so brilliantly because you are telling your mind to come up with reasons you ARE good enough, worry-free, lovable, etc. It teaches you to think about yourself in empowering ways.
It’s going to take some awareness to catch habitual negative statements. Pull those negative thought weeds! Eventually they will disappear, leaving you with a mental garden of gorgeous, fragrant flowers.
You will notice that as you replace negative statements with positive statements, you will feel physically better. The cells in your body will respond to your kind, loving words!
You will also notice a general improvement in your attitude and outlook! Then, you will start attracting the situations you want in your life!
Now, I know you’re busy, so here is one empowering question that you can meditate on every day this week.
“Why am I so fortunate and blessed?”
It feels so incredibly good to ask that question, doesn’t it?
And start changing your destiny today, by asking empowering, positive questions!

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19/02/2019

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Hug long and hug often.

16/02/2019

5 Types Of People To Surround Yourself With

15/02/2019

Do You Suffer From Anxiety & Panic Attack’s?
What tools do you use to overcome these?
Have you ever considered Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy.
There is a lot of Evidence backing it on how quickly it works on changing the neurological pathways so you can gain control of your life and not allow the anxiety to control you.
I special in anxiety and panic attacks and can give you some fantastic tools to help you over come your fears.
Contact Diane for further information.

10/10/2018

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a gift… a gift that is so precious and has value only when it is given away.

I’ll bet you don’t exactly feel like giving a GIFT to someone who wronged you, right? Forgiveness is a special gift, though because in giving, you benefit.

Here are some ways to forgive, when you think you can’t and the negative energy of anger, hurt and hatred are eating away at you:

1. First, understand what forgiveness is not: it is not condoning an action; it is not saying “it’s okay”; it’s not justifying bad behaviour; it is not forgetting; it is not denial that you were hurt.

2. You don’t have to forgive someone face to face. This is an exercise to be done in private, when you are calm.

3. Sit and bring up a face of a person you need to forgive, and the actions or words you need to forgive them for. I say “need” because without forgiveness, there can be no healing and no moving on. This is for YOU.

4. In this safe place, think about what may have prompted this person to hurt you. It’s essential to realise that unkind and hurtful words and actions only come from pain. What can this person’s inner pain be? Can you feel compassion for it? That does not excuse the behaviour - people always, always have choices in how to act - but it does shed some light on why they lack the self-control to hurt others. No need to psychoanalyse someone, just use your imagination and be compassionate to the pain they must feel inside, that makes them lose control.

5. Now comes the harder part - releasing the emotional burden. Here are some things to think about:

As long as you carry a grudge against someone, you will be unhappy. So this is for you, so you can be happy again.
As long as you feel anger, bitterness and pain, you give that person POWER over you - to make you feel badly. Take back your ability to feel happiness again.
As long as you refuse to forgive, you are in the grip of ego (feeling wounded and judgmental, and feeling separate from others).
As long as you can’t forgive, you cannot see how this situation has benefited you. If you are willing to see the perpetrator as someone who is “mirroring” some aspect of you, you can grow from it. For example, if you can’t forgive a spouse for cheating on you, are you also willing to not forgive yourself for treating your spouse like the furniture, or constantly pointing out their flaws? It can be really hard, but this kind of introspection will help you forgive yourself as well as others.
Whatever hurt you experienced, is in the past - and yet here you are, carrying it with you into the present moment and projecting it into the future. This robs you of any inner peace you can experience right here, right now. Forgiveness lets you let go of the past.
Forgiveness dissipates anger, bitterness and resentment, allows the past to stay where it belongs and free you up to enjoy and experience the present.

Forgiveness frees you from being consumed with unproductive thoughts - after all, why waste time on thoughts of revenge, or wishing a person ill, when you could be focusing your thoughts on making your life better?

When you offer forgiveness, remember to forgive YOURSELF – stop replaying over and over again every mistake you have ever made. Remember that inner pain that causes people to act in hurtful ways - again, not excusing or condoning the behaviour, but shedding compassionate light on it.

Greet each day as a new beginning and with a forgiving heart.