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Hi, I'm Liz, a local CBT therapist and hypnotherapist based in Heysham, Lancs. I specialise in helping people quiet anxious minds to find calm and clarity.

I work with adults, children and teens to help people move from surviving to genuinely thriving.

26/03/2026

“Odd rules” I ask parents to follow when their child or teen has anxiety

They might sound strange at first… but they do work.

1️⃣ Don’t rush to fix it.
When children feel anxious, our instinct is to solve the problem immediately. But jumping in too fast can teach them that they can’t handle hard feelings. Instead, sit with them and say: “I know this feels really hard.”

2️⃣ Don’t reassure over and over.
Answering the same worry 20 times (“Are you sure it’ll be okay?”) can accidentally feed anxiety. Try gently redirecting: “That sounds like your worry talking again. What do you think?”

3️⃣ Don’t avoid everything that makes them nervous.
Avoidance makes anxiety grow bigger. Small, supported steps toward the scary thing help shrink it.

4️⃣ Name the anxiety like it’s separate from them.
“It sounds like your worry is being really loud today.”
This helps children and teens see that anxiety is something they experience—not who they are.

5️⃣ Stay calm even when they aren’t.
Your nervous system is their reference point. The calmer you are, the safer they feel. Take a calming breath to help yourself regulate first.

6️⃣ Praise bravery, not perfection.
“I’m proud of you for trying even though you were nervous.”

These rules can feel counterintuitive—but they help kids build real confidence instead of depending on anxiety to run the show.

Save this for later if you’re parenting an anxious child or teen 💛

23/03/2026

“You’re so productive.”

A lot of people with high-functioning anxiety hear this a lot.
On the surface, it sounds like a compliment.

But for many of my clients, that productivity isn’t coming from feeling calm or balanced. It’s coming from an internal pressure that says:

“Don’t fall behind.”
“Don’t let people down.”
“Keep going.”

When your nervous system has learned that rest means risk, slowing down can feel deeply uncomfortable, even when you’re exhausted.

So if you struggle to relax without feeling guilty, it’s not because you’re “bad at resting.”
Your brain may have just learned that being busy is what keeps you safe.

And that’s something that can change with the right support 💛

If this resonated with you, feel free to save it or share it with someone who might recognise themselves in it.

17/03/2026

Some things get praised in people with high-functioning anxiety that are actually signs their nervous system has been under pressure for a long time.

Being the reliable one.
Overthinking everything.
Performing well no matter how overwhelmed you feel.

From the outside it can look like you have everything together.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t exhausting to carry.

If any of these slides resonated with you, you’re not alone, and these patterns make sense in the context of your experiences.

You deserve support that helps you feel calmer on the inside, not just capable on the outside.

If this spoke to you, save it for later or share it with someone who might need to hear it too.

11/03/2026

From the outside it looks like you’re coping.

You meet deadlines.
You reply to messages.
You show up prepared.
You keep everything moving.

But internally your brain is running a constant risk assessment.

“Did I say the wrong thing?”
“Did I forget something important?”
“What if I disappoint someone?”

So people assume you’re fine, because the anxiety makes you perform fine. That’s the part that’s so exhausting.

When you live with high-functioning anxiety, the very thing that makes you appear capable is often the thing quietly burning you out.

If this resonates, I want you to know this:
You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re not “overthinking for no reason.”

Your nervous system has just been carrying more pressure than anyone can see.

And you shouldn’t have to keep proving that you’re struggling before you’re allowed to rest.

09/03/2026

When someone overthinks, their brain is trying to answer one question:

“Can I guarantee this won’t go wrong?”

So it replays the conversation.
It scans for mistakes.
It imagines every possible outcome.
It searches for the perfect decision.

Because the brain believes:
More thinking = more control.
More control = more safety.

But here’s the part most people don’t realise:

Overthinking doesn’t reduce anxiety.
It teaches your brain that uncertainty is dangerous.

And the more dangerous uncertainty feels,
the more your brain tries to think its way out of it.

That’s the loop.

In therapy, we don’t try to “stop thoughts.”
We build tolerance for not knowing.

Because peace doesn’t come from certainty.
It comes from learning you can handle uncertainty.

If you’re an overthinker, you’re not broken.
Your brain is trying to protect you.

It just learned the wrong strategy.

Save this for the next time your mind won’t switch off.

02/03/2026

If you want help with healing your anxiety, it's the work I do 💛

I work face to face at my therapy practice in Heysham, Lancashire, or alternatively online from the comfort of your own home.

💌 DM me to find out more, or check the link in my bio

25/02/2026

If you live with long-term anxiety, rest can feel harder than effort.
And that’s not a mindset issue.

Here’s why it feels easier to stay busy:

When anxiety has been present for a long time, your nervous system learns that movement = safety

Doing, planning, fixing, scrolling, staying productive keeps your system regulated enough to function.

Rest removes distraction.
And without distraction, your body has to feel what it’s been holding.

Clinically speaking, this is a nervous system that’s learned to stay in a low-level threat response.
Not panic, just constant alertness.

So when you stop:
• your chest feels tight
• your thoughts get louder
• your body feels unsettled
• you feel guilty for doing “nothing”

Your brain interprets stillness as risk — even when nothing bad is happening.

That’s why “just relax” doesn’t work.
Your system isn’t refusing rest.
It doesn’t trust it yet.

In my work with long-term anxiety, we don’t force calm.
We help the nervous system learn, slowly and safely, that rest doesn’t mean danger.

That’s when rest actually becomes restorative.

If this made something click, you’re not broken, you’re patterned.
And patterns can change.

Interested in learning more about how I work with clients experiencing anxiety? Click the link in my bio 💛

20/02/2026

For the ones holding it together on the outside but buzzing on the inside.
Pause with this for a moment 💛

10/02/2026

Hypnotherapy is often misunderstood.

It’s not mind control, and it’s not about uncovering hidden memories.
In therapy, hypnosis is a state of focused attention that harnesses the power of imagination to support learning, emotional processing, and change.

Clinically, hypnotherapy is commonly used alongside approaches like CBT to support work with:
• anxiety and stress
• phobias and fears
• habits and unwanted patterns
• pain
• confidence and performance blocks

For some people, insight alone isn’t enough—hypnotherapy allows change to be experienced, not just understood.

✨ Used thoughtfully and ethically, it can be a powerful therapeutic tool.

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Thanks so much to the lovely .with.rachael for the inspiration for the post - do go and check out her page 💛

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09/02/2026

CBT gets misunderstood a lot.

It’s not about forcing positivity or “thinking happy thoughts.”

For me, CBT is about curiosity, compassion, and giving people tools to understand themselves more clearly.

✨ Thoughts shape experiences—and they’re changeable.

Thanks so much to the lovely .with.rachael for the inspiration for this post - please do check out her page! 💛

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