16/12/2025
Firstly I need to say that as a new mum none of this was EVER the plan!
But I learnt as we moved through the seasons and came to actually loving bedsharing (at the same time my boy needed me less of course 🙄!)
Step 1 was prepare his room. Sounds simple but some great factors to help the transition were familiarity, warmth, positive space, and making him feel safe in there.
Step 2 was being open to supporting as we worked on our journey to independent sleep. This means seeing it as a journey and knowing that he may or may not need me and that could be at any point of the night
Step 3 was setting my boundaries. Was I still happy to co sleep? And from what point of the night? Did we want him in with us or us in with him? We settled on a double floor bed-comfy for whoever was in with him, and this meant he always stayed in our room
Step 4 was reducing the dependence on b**b. Hubby did more bedtimes and did any settling before 1am, then I did the rest.
Step 5 was all naps independent and often on the go/not fed to sleep however if we were home and I wanted a contact nap I’d bloody well enjoy it!
Step 6 was knowing one day he wouldn’t need me.
And that day came.
We took it at his pace, we met his needs, and we even completely weaned him off the b**b during this journey too!
I am SO proud of our journey, and we are using this as guidelines for our second babe (although very aware it could be so different!!)
What’s your experience with cosleeping? Tell me below ⬇️
