26/08/2025
ARE YOU HOLDING ONTO 'NEGATIVE LOYALTIES' ?
There are many treasures within our family's energetic inheritance that can support our feelings of belonging, identity, culture, familiarity, ideally safety, connection to our roots - through language, music, literature, family traditions, iconography, the land etc. (And yes, for some, all that connection can also be the source of pain, disconnection and suffering.)
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So what are 'negative loyalties'? It is our energetic inheritance, AND unconscious retention, of 'painful ancestral legacies', which include all the extended family's suffering, that has travelled through our family tree - to us (and through us to our offspring, if not cleared before having them...).
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One of the most common 'legacies', which can weigh on us, is family secrets - such as suicides, addictions, children / pregnancies out of wedlock, abortions, marital affairs, adoption, disowned family members that are not allowed to be talked about, betrayal etc. These types of secrets carry a very heavy underlying energy of SHAME, which is one of the most negative human emotions (energetically most detrimental to our body), and this energy affects our beliefs and behaviours, as well as our health.
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There are also 'legacies' of bravery and heroism, which can include suffering and sacrifice - especially through the times of war, which is not that far behind us. A lot of our grandparents have lived through that time, some of which are still around.
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However, unbeknown to the self, we often re-enact the behaviours and feelings of shame and suffering, in the form of un-deservedness, martyrdom, victimhood, suffering, over-giving, suppression, keeping small, overdoing, oppression, fawning etc. - just because they are part of our nervous system as genetic / energetic inheritance, and out of unconscious 'loyalty to the clan'.
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When in fact, we were born into the family tree in order to shift something - to master this lesson of freeing the self, and thereby ALSO freeing our ancestors. Our ancestors wouldn't want us to suffer, re-live their pain & shame. (If any of them did, this work to release those energies is then even more important!)
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Rather than reliving their suffering, we can instead honour them by acknowledging what happened and taking responsibility for ourselves. You can:
- explore your family history to find out any past suffering & traumas
- identify what might be relating to and influencing your life today - what types of behaviour show up that hold you down, back or stuck ?
- acknowledge their lives as they were - having done the best they could under the circumstances with what they knew at the time -> create a little ceremony, meaningful to you / to your family (a good day to use to honour one's ancestors is the time of the Dark Moon - the day/night before a New Moon) 🌚
We all have the power to release the suppression, freeing ourselves and our ancestors - unless there are some hidden benefits / secondary gains we (like to) receive on the back of our suffering, but that's another story...
Get in touch if you would like to be guided through this process 💫
(Image: "Journey towards You", by Slávka Štrbová)
