Ruth Veda Therapy

17/04/2026

How many of us have been conditioned to say “yes” when we actually want to say “no”?

Maybe it’s the fear of upsetting someone, the weight of the guilt, or that old "good girl/boy" conditioning that tells us being nice is more important than being honest.

When we say “yes” but mean “no,” we often abandon ourselves just to maintain a connection with others. We tell ourselves "it's not that bad," but the truth is, resentment is a slow poison.

I’m still on this journey myself, and passionate about helping others navigate the unwanted stress.

Please join me and my dear friend and fellow Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Stiles, for a workshop we have curated together:

✨ SAYING YES TO YOU ✨
Tuesday, 28th April at 7 p.m.

Let’s support each standing in our boundaries and saying "no".

Click here to join us: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/free-workshop-why-do-you-say-yes-when-you-mean-no-tickets-1987677645344?aff=oddtdtcreator

01/04/2026

ATTENTION: Any with ADHD diagnosed or undiagnosed

From my practice as a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner which is deeply influenced by the work of Dr. Gabor Maté I know how empowering and thought provoking this event will be for those of us navigating an ADHD diagnosis.

Dr. Maté reframes ADHD as a neurodevelopmental journey, exploring how our unique biology interacts with the world around us.

This perspective looks at:

-How sensitive nervous systems respond to their surroundings.
-The role of emotional connection and stability in early development.
-The impact of the environments we grow up in.

By looking at ADHD through this compassionate lens, we can move away from "what is wrong with me?" and toward a deeper understanding of our own story. It’s about gaining the clarity needed to make supportive, empowering choices for our lives today.

Join Gabor Maté, M.D., and Terry Matlen, MSW, for a transformational workshop that reframes ADHD beyond symptom management. Instead of viewing ADHD as a fixed genetic disorder, this event explores it

16/03/2026

23/02/2026

Move & Groove with me, every Tuesday 9.15am

30 Mins to Reconnect to you & let the inner child come out top play (Just like my adorable nephew here) 💚

Get out of your head and into your body. This is a loosely guided space to shake off the week and find your flow.

"It’s not about how it looks, it’s about how it feels."

Camera on or off — your choice!

Join us here: https://tidycal.com/ruthvedatherapy/move-and-groove

18/02/2026

And grow.....

"Vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded. Vulnerability is a necessity for growth and without vulnerability there is no growth."

- Dr. Gabor Maté

17/02/2026

Hello Fellow Human Being,

Are you tired of saying YES when your body screams NO? 🛑

When we say "yes" but mean "no," we abandon ourselves to maintain connection with others. We tell ourselves "it's not that bad," but the truth is, resentment is a slow poison.

As Dr. Gabor Maté powerfully reminds us:

"If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time."

Join Ruth Clarke & Pauline Stiles (both trauma-informed Compassionate Inquiry Practitioners) for a FREE 90-minute somatic workshop to support you in finding your true, sovereign "No".

In this safe, confidential space, you will:
✨ Discover why people-pleasing is actually a clever survival strategy.
✨ Understand the power of healthy anger.
✨ Explore where your boundaries currently sit using somatic movement and creative mapping.
✨ Begin the journey of moving from automatic compliance to choosing YOU.

🗓 Date: TUESDAY 10th March
⏰ Time: 6.30pm - 8pm
📍 Where: Online via Zoom

📝 Preparation: Please have your journals, coloured pens, and paper ready.

Register Here: 🔗 https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/lZNztsqvS5eaRM9golQjcg #/registration

This free workshop is a standalone experience and also serves as the perfect introduction to our 4-week deep dive COURSE starting Tuesday 17th March.

Through our own journeys with chronic pain and recovery, we are committed to supporting you in finding your voice. We don't view people-pleasing as a flaw to be fixed, but as a childhood strategy that deserves compassion.

We would love for you to join us.
Ruth & Pauline

16/02/2026

When things feel heavy, what is one small thing you do to invite a bit of play or a laugh back into your day?

I’ve learned that I don't always have to be "on" or in "fix it" mode. Letting myself laugh, with good friends is my way of releasing the pressure valve.

Thank you buddie Stuart Whan
Still makes me smile 😀

03/02/2026

What 's one act of kindness you can offer today, even if its to yourself ?

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around."
Leo Buscaglia

This video from Capsle Stories ( on IG) is a great reminder that little acts of kindness can go a long way. A kind gesture of welcoming and sha...

28/01/2026

Do you find that parenting and even step-parenting (in my personal experience) is like looking into a mirror of our own past?

You get triggered, you react to something and wonder why in this moment I have such a strong urge to control what my child is doing?

By using these reactions to find and healing within yourself, so that you can parent much from presence rather than past pain and if you are coming from past pain be consciouly aware.

I hope that we will not pass on our own hurts and pains to the future generation.

24/01/2026

Every "no" to something that drains me saves fuel for the things I truly value.

If I say yes to everyone else, I’m usually saying no to myself. By practicing my "no," I’m making sure that when I say "YES," I actually mean it with my whole heart.

Body Check-in: How does it feel in your body when you imagine saying a firm, kind "no" to something you don't want to do?

22/12/2025

It's always rewarding to reflect back on the feedback I have received over the months especially when I slip back into the old patterns & believes of 'I'm not good enough - I need to do more get another qualification ... more this, more that....'