23/02/2026
There is a big misunderstanding about being „feminine“
I hear women telling me that they don’t initiate anymore when they’re dating men cause now they’re „in their feminine“
They tell me how they now want their partners to „meet them“ and „claim them“ and therefore they choose to be passive and „feminine“
It’s not cute to be passive unless you’re into 1950s gender stereotypes.
I can see why this seems appealing though, Instagram is full of that kind of dating & relationship advise.
Spoiler alert, you can’t manipulate a man into „meeting you“ and being „masculine“ by being more passive.
What actually works?
Being courageous enough to show yourself in your vulnerability. Being able to show your essence to your lover creates true polarity. It’s utterly mesmerising.
And with that I don’t mean being emotional without self-regulation and demanding him to „hold space“
What I mean is, leaning into the insecurity of showing yourself bare. Letting him see your essence. I know, sounds scary. Cause it is!
Allowing a man to witness us and pe*****te us is vulnerable as f*ck. Letting him witness you in full ple•sure or in your longing to be loved? Letting him witness you in your intense experience of opening and surrender.
That’s true feminine softness and it’s courageous!
It’s a risk. Period.
I would never tell you it’s a safe thing to do. I would be lying. Is it worth it though?
Well, darling if you want to be „met“ you gotta show yourself.
For a women to melt in front of her lover is not a „safe“ thing to do it’s brave and it needs discernment with who you’re going to do that and a healthy dose of emotional maturity.
Is wanting to be met by a man in your femininity a desire?
Comment „feminine“ and we can talk about your next step ♥️
📸by during p***y palace vacation which and I will hold again in Sweden this summer 😛