Smiley Blue

29/10/2025

It’s almost that time again. Join us on Tuesday evening the 4th November at 7pm at The Bognie Inn Forgue. Give as you wish, all proceeds go to Creator Share Foundation in Tanzania.
This monthly circle is for local women looking for a safe and non-judgmental space to slow down. If you're new to 'inner work' or just craving quiet time and genuine conversation, this is for you. We explore the beauty of stillness and the deep peace that comes from turning our attention inward. It's a chance to connect with yourself and others in a much more meaningful way.

28/10/2025

When Loyalty Becomes a Trap

Too often, we mistake loyalty for alignment. We stay connected to people like old friends, partners, and family out of obligation, history, or emotional ties, even when it's become painfully clear that we're no longer moving in the same direction.

Too often, we mistake loyalty for alignment, staying connected out of obligation even when it's clear we're no longer moving in the same direction.

25/10/2025

The Doors Are Now Open

The Calibration Container isn’t for someday.
It is for those who are ready now to stop avoiding and circling the same cycles of pain, to finally move on.

We will not walk this path for you. But, we will walk it with you — holding the container open, bringing clarity, presence, and the fire of transformation.

This is a place where you can pour in all of it — the perceived negatives, your shadows, struggles, as well as your light and your gifts. Nothing is ever wasted.

Everything can be alchemised into something new, into the next version of you.

The question you get to ask is: How deep are you ready to go? Click the link below to learn more..

Ready for real change? Lisa & Lee lead The Calibration Container, a non-comfortable, high-commitment space for deep purification and nervous system integration. Join now.

21/10/2025

In meditation, I discovered the difference between being a 'rock' and a 'crystal' in relationships—one gets gradually changed by others' attachment, the other radiates protective energy

In meditation, I discovered the difference between being a 'rock' and a 'crystal' in relationships—one gets gradually changed by others' attachment, the other radiates protective energy

18/10/2025

AI doesn't create slaves, it reveals the chains we're already wearing. Here's how to engage with technology from a place of sovereignty instead of fear.

AI doesn't create slaves, it reveals the chains we're already wearing. Here's how to engage with technology from a place of sovereignty instead of fear.

14/10/2025

If we continue to equate "soft" with weakness, or worse, if we dismiss it as something feminine to be avoided, then we rob ourselves of one of the most potent forms of power available to us.

Softness is not weak, giving up or giving in. Softness is a power that has learned precision, strength that has discovered efficiency, force that has evolved into flow.

“Don’t be soft.” We’ve all heard it. Sometimes it even carries the unspoken message: don’t be feminine. Softness isn’t something to avoid. It’s the hidden super power that creates movement, connection, speed and endurance.

12/10/2025

While clinical guides and trained therapists are essential and invaluable, my seven stages were created from living the process over many decades. The deeper spiritual and existential aspects of trauma and healing are rarely explored in traditional psychology, but I believe all traditional teachings are meant to evolve into newer understandings as we grow.

My framework offers something clinical psychology cannot. It’s a way to integrate suffering into spiritual meaning without denying its reality or the trauma itself.

The Seven Stages of Emotional and Spiritual Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Being Scapegoated by Family (The EVOLVED Framework)

08/10/2025

Becoming a new person is a strange thing. What once mattered doesn't anymore, and the things that used to hurt heal. What once weakened us becomes strength. Relationships that once held us together fall away. Everything transforms.

Becoming a new person is a strange thing. What once mattered doesn't anymore, and the things that used to hurt heal. What once weakened us becomes strength. Relationships that once held us together fall away. Everything transforms.

04/10/2025

The more you step into authentic growth, the more some people around you can get uncomfortable. But what if you said their judgments back in reverse? 'You're too shallow.' 'You're not enough.' The discomfort this would create reveals something profound—these judgments aren't really about you at all

The more you step into authentic growth, the more some people around you can get uncomfortable. But what if you said their judgments back in reverse? 'You're too shallow.' 'You're not enough.' The discomfort this would create reveals something profound—these judgments aren't really about you at al...

01/10/2025

Tonight at 7pm The Bognie Inn Forgue. Come join us for a cosy evening of connection, healing and friendship. All proceeds go to the Creator Share Foundation in Tanzania.

26/09/2025

You’re not mad at the job or the relationship. You’re mad because the plan you trusted failed — and now you don’t know which way to go. You were taught how to get from A to B your whole life, and suddenly you’re on your own. You can’t trust anyone. And worse, you don’t trust yourself.

You know the only exit is to build a plan that serves your purpose — but you can’t remember how. So you complain, blame, gaslight yourself, and wait for rescue. Sometimes silently. Sometimes loudly. The voice inside you — the “natural” voice you were warned about — feels like the only real voice. Everything else is noise. The noise pulls you in briefly, but never fills the gap. So you try something else. You keep going. How do I know? Because you’re still here.

There is a way through. Many have walked it. They can’t save you from your process, but they can guide you. They’ll hold space, set protecting boundaries, and point you back to the one place that already holds your answers: you.

If you’re truly ready to remember how to trust yourself, you’re invited.

Smiley Blue is a free community led by people who’ve traveled this path. We guide without rescuing. We hold without fixing. If you want practice, presence, and a container to come back to yourself, join us at smileyblue.org and in our private Facebook group.

— Lee

Quick start: tonight, write three wins you had. Make one 24-hour promise and keep it. Remove one gaslighting influence this week. Repeat.

https://www.smileyblue.org/when-the-plan-you-had-doesnt-work-out-finding-your-way-back-to-self-trust/

Hello, friends of Smiley Blue Perhaps this will resonate with you; maybe it won't. Either way, it's okay. When Everything You Planned Stops Working You're not mad at the job you have, the relationship you're in, or the circumstances you're facing. You're mad because the plan you had didn't work

23/09/2025

Here's what I know for sure: people are going to tell your story no matter what. Whether you're silent or outspoken, private or public, you will be misunderstood, misquoted, or misrepresented. So I've made peace with it. I'd rather be misrepresented for something I actually said than be erased by silence.

Being unapologetic is not a license to bulldoze boundaries or dismiss the ripple effect of your choices.