17/03/2026
Your attachment style isn’t who you are. It’s what you learnt to survive.
Anxious. Secure. Avoidant. Disorganised.
Awareness is the first step to changing the pattern.
You’re not “too much” or “too distant” - you’re protecting yourself.
Anxious - “Please don’t leave me”.
Avoidant - “Please don’t need me”.
Secure - “We’ll be okay”.
Your nervous system learnt this long before you knew what love was. Healing isn’t becoming someone new it’s becoming safe within yourself.