29/01/2026
January 1st and most will have set goals for the year from adrenaline, maybe pressure or fantasy timelines and then comes February, new month, trialling a different mindset maybe, same outcome which will most likely leave you feeling the frustration, anger and emotion of the resistance and lost momentum. The š§ telling you, "you were never going to do it" beating yourself up mentally and emotionally right?
Your unconscious is keeping you stuck in old patterns of survival that no book, podcast or positive mindset work will support this new identity you are desperately seeking.
Research suggests you have roughly 165,000 thoughts per day, 95-96% of those thoughts are the same ones you had yesterday and the day before and so on. So when your intentions set on the 1st Jan contradict the identity that once kept you safe, your internal system does what it knows best. Resists, keeping you where it feels safe. You feel the push pull within. The negative internal chatter, feelings arising in the body.
Makes sense right?
The real work, is when you become aware of your unconscious thoughts, understand the positive intentions of the parts that have been keeping you safe. You can't create a new identity from old beliefs, and patterns that were built from survival. Your system, psychologically, somatically and even genetically are still organised around the old version of you, the one who learned to stay small, stay safe, stay acceptable. All of which live in your unconscious mind and body, and in the epigenetic imprints passed down through your lineage. They organise your sense of safety, identity and possibility. You cannot override what is within with a January vision board or a burst of motivation. Trust me I've been there!
A new identity required a new internal environment. One where you feel safe and no longer looping from old stories. You don't become someone new by pushing harder, by reading positive affirmations every day in the mirror, you become someone new by healing rewiring and shifting the internal conditions that make becoming inevitable.
Are you ready to stop looping?
Claire š¤