28/12/2025
Rejection After Apology
Experiencing rejection after an apology highlights a misunderstanding of forgiveness. Forgiveness is often viewed as a transaction rather than a gift.
Biblical Perspective on Forgiveness
The Bible presents forgiveness as a gift from God and an obligation to others. Colossians 3:12-14 emphasizes compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, and unconditional forgiveness.
Misconception of Conditional Forgiveness
Many Christians have a skewed view, believing they can set their own terms for forgiveness. Instead of showing grace, conditions are imposed based on perceived worthiness.
Forgiveness Begins with God
Forgiveness originates from God and is a gift from His heart. Ephesians 4:31-32 instructs to rid oneself of bitterness and to be kind and compassionate, forgiving as God forgave.
The High Cost of Unforgiveness
Forgiveness comes at a cost to both God and us. We often accept God's forgiveness but hesitate to extend it to others. Matthew 6:14-15 states that our forgiveness from God is contingent upon our forgiveness of others.
Love and Forgiveness Connection
Struggles with forgiveness often stem from a lack of understanding of God's love. Luke 7:41-47 illustrates that those forgiven much will love much, as shown by the sinful woman's actions.
Understanding and Extending Forgiveness
Unforgiveness indicates a heart that hasn't fully experienced grace. Recognizing our own forgiveness compels us to extend it to others.
The Freedom of Forgiveness
God's forgiveness is available to all who repent, regardless of others' actions. Forgiveness requires sacrificing pride and the desire for justice but leads to freedom from bitterness. Forgiveness is transformative and reflects God's love; it should be chosen based on our own forgiveness, not others' worthiness.
