03/04/2026
🌿 Understanding the Spiral of Shame
At Space2BHeard, we talk a lot about the emotions that sit beneath the surface, the ones that shape how we see ourselves and how we connect with others. One of those powerful patterns is the spiral of shame.
A shame spiral is what happens when a triggering moment (“I made a mistake”, “I let someone down”) leads to a wave of painful self-judgement… which then triggers more shame, more withdrawal, and more self-criticism. It can be overwhelming, isolating, and exhausting but it’s also something we can understand and work through.
✨ Who first identified the shame spiral?
The term shame spiral was first coined by Gershen Kaufman, a professor of psychology. In 1974.
✨ Why does this matter?
Because understanding what’s happening gives us language and language gives us power.
When we can name the spiral, we can begin to interrupt it with compassion, grounding, and connection.
✨ If this resonates…
You’re not alone.
Many people experience shame spirals in silence, believing it’s a sign of weakness or failure. It isn’t. It’s a human response to old wounds, unmet needs, and internal pressures.
At Space2BHeard, we’re here to help you slow the spiral, soften the self-talk, and move toward a more compassionate understanding of yourself.
💛 There is a way out and you don’t have to climb out alone.
