Adrian Murray Counselling

17/02/2026

16/01/2026

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

16/01/2026

It's never helped me for people to try to 'solve' my distress or : 'cheer up', 'put it behind you', 'be positive'. We need neurobiological soothing and safety first – regulation before integration.

Find out more at https://www.carolynspring.com/trauma-webinar

16/01/2026

Barlas Günay, Psychologist

10/01/2026

🔮 Recap and Update: What’s Coming in 2026 🔮

As we look ahead to 2026, we’re filled with excitement about the year to come and all the ways we can continue to make a difference for children, families, and communities. Here’s a quick recap of what’s on the horizon for Ordinary Magic:

✨ Expanding Our Reach – We’ll be offering more services, workshops, and mental health support to help even more children and families in need.
✨ New Collaborations – We’re building new partnerships with local organisations to create a stronger, more integrated support network.
✨ Innovative Programmes – From Ready Teddy Breathing workshops to youth clubs, we’re continuing to develop new ways to support mental wellbeing in young people.
✨ Impact & Evaluation – With the results of our SROI evaluation, we’ll be able to make even more informed decisions to improve our services and expand our reach.
✨ Continued Advocacy – We’ll keep fighting for better mental health services and access to support for children and families across Solihull and beyond.

2026 is going to be an exciting year, and we can’t wait to continue this journey with you. Stay tuned for more updates and ways to get involved!

10/01/2026

🚨 We’re Looking for Testers – Men’s Mental Health App 🚨

We’re building something new to support men’s mental health — and we need your help.

We’ve launched an early version of a new Mindful Men app, designed to help with:
• 🧠 Mental wellbeing
• 💬 Honest reflection
• 🧭 Simple, practical tools men can actually use

We’re now looking for testers to try it out and give honest feedback to help shape what it becomes.

👉 Want to be involved?
Comment “I’m in” below or message us directly, and we’ll send you the app details.

No pressure. No judgement. Just real feedback to help us build something that genuinely supports men.

There’s a WhatsApp group for testers here……

https://chat.whatsapp.com/FntCB8c77HGJZS4TNArMWy

10/01/2026

Dissociation is the third most common mental symptom after depression and anxiety, and yet it's little known and even less understood. But it's just what the brain has evolved to do when it's overwhelmed as a survival response. It's ancient and natural and normal, however unpleasant or difficult it may be to experience (which it really can be).

Find out more on my course 'Dissociation and DID: The Fundamentals': https://www.carolynspring.com/shop/dissociation-and-did-the-fundamentals-online-training