09/12/2025
𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 & 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐆𝐎𝐋𝐃!
I'm sharing something I’ve found to be effective in all relationships.
Good news - you can use it immediately! 💪
Whether handling confrontation or desiring better quality relationships, this tool can help you achieve results:
𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐒𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐀𝐍𝐀𝐋𝐘𝐒𝐈𝐒 by Dr. Eric Byrne.
We find ourselves 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝟑 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 when we interact with others & awareness is the first step:
𝐀𝐃𝐔𝐋𝐓 - 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐓 - 𝐂𝐇𝐈𝐋𝐃
Observe with curiosity (different to judgement) the state you (& others) fall into as during interactions this month.
These dynamics are a reflection of inner narratives & subconscious default settings.
𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐠𝐨 / 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬:
I am simplifying for brevity without trying to do it a dis-service!
𝐀𝐃𝐔𝐋𝐓:
Present, objective, rational, emotionally intelligent, balanced, grounded.
𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: “I’m OK & you’re OK.”
Mutually balanced state for positive & effective communication.
𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐓:
Internalised parent based on past experiences with primary caregivers & perception of authority. Can be controlling or nurturing.
𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: “I’m OK & you’re NOT OK.”
Imbalanced - one believes themselves to be superior.
𝐂𝐇𝐈𝐋𝐃:
Internalised child based on childhood experiences & perception of authority.
𝐀𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: “I’m NOT OK & you’re OK.”
Imbalanced - one believes themselves to be inferior.
By focusing on the above, you will find yourself being more objective (Adult) & curious (positive trait from the Child) as to the dynamics of the relationships in your life & organisations.
Working with this can significantly improve performance, communication, culture, wellbeing at work & happy families.
If you are feeling emotions surface when interacting with certain people in your life, this is not a negative, it’s an invitation.
Ready to transform? Because you can & I may be the person to help you.
Good Vibes, Amanda G
